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Thursday, November 15, 2018

It’s not just words!

“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”  Colossians 4:6

According to the stats, people can tell how you’re feeling, and most likely what you’re going to say just by your body language.  I’ve seen multiple internet sites that speak to the 55/38/7 rule in the context of communication.  55% of our communication is nonverbal, meaning movements and postures of our body shown in the way we walk, along with the appearance of our face…this encompasses everything except actual words.  38% of our communication is through our tone of voice…how we speak and project our words.  The last 7% is the actual words…isn’t it crazy that out of all the communication we conduct on a daily basis, only seven percent is actual words! 

Most people can tell right away from the way that you carry yourself whether or not they want to be around you and take the time to hear what you have to say, and if your words are genuine thoughts or just lip service.  We set the tone (no pun intended) for the way our conversation will go with the next person in our path just by the way that we carry ourselves…what do they see as you approach them?  Do they see a disgruntled person?  Do they see someone who continues to live in the past?  Do they see someone who is truly present with them in the moment, and attentive to their needs?  As humans, we are very observant of other people, and we have innate instincts to pick up on situations filled with fear, anger and frustration, which cause us to go the other way.  May our behavior indicate to the other person(s) that we are ready to listen, willing to learn, and prepared to love them, right where they are.

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

Is your guard up?

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”  James 5:16

If someone asks you how you’re doing, do you tell them how you’re truly feeling, or do you keep it surface level?  If someone takes the time to lend you a hand, do you accept it or do you tell them ya got it?  If you need advice in a difficult season, do you ask?  I was raised without one shred of advice about leaning on others or asking others for help.  In no way did I understand after leaving the home for college that I would need others in this life to not only survive, but to understand how to use the gifts and blessings God gave me in an effort to reach my full potential for Him.  There is absolutely no way that I would be where I am today without the help of many people along the way…it has been essential to my growth!  As a pastor, I strive to teach others about Christ and His love for them, so that they will grow spiritually and be on fire to tell others about Christ themselves!

You have a daily choice, and to take it further, a momentary choice…you can do this life all by yourself and struggle immensely, or you can give it to God and lean on those around you for help, strength and guidance.  Not only will you not experience the beauty of the Body of Christ by “keeping to yourself”, but your spiritual growth will remain stunted.  Make it a point today to go out into the world helping others in the Name of Christ, but also opening yourself up to being helped as well.

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

It’s all about unity…

“A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”  Proverbs 18:2

Relationships can take months and years to build, depending on the person and the situation.  But it only takes moments to destroy the bridge that you’ve spent so long building up.  Relationships thrive on honest, genuine communication…they need it like our bodies near air.  Without a steady inflow and outflow of verbal and nonverbal communication, relationships will become like a stagnant pond, void of fresh water.  Relationships will barely have a heartbeat without effective communication, and in many instances, eventually fail. 

In addition to a lack of communication, relationships often struggle and fail because one of the two people “triangles in” another person…they bring in a third party to “vent to”, gossip with, and make their complaints known.  As soon as this happens, the trust within the relationship is at risk to be broken, because instead of going directly to the person to talk through a problem, they choose to spread information (and possibly embellished falsities) about the person, and potentially hurting their reputation.  At some point it will come into the open for all to know, and the relationship with either struggle much more because of the lack of trust, or eventually fail.

We all have opinions because we are all different, which is a beautiful thing!  But it’s not about expressing your opinion whenever and wherever we feel like it, but expressing verbal and nonverbal communication that will build others up and strengthen relationships.

Monday, November 12, 2018

Go straight to the source…

“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”  Proverbs 21:23

Do you remember the phone game?  It may start off with the first person saying something like, “I like mashed potatoes”, and the message somehow becomes “I love Uncle Moe” by the end of the circle.  I’m not sure if I’ve ever played the phone game and seen where the original message stayed completely accurate from the first person in the group to the last.  There are various reasons why things get misconstrued and misspoken…maybe someone didn’t lean in close enough to fully hear, maybe someone had a preconceived idea of what they thought was being said, maybe there was too much laughter in the background…but most of the time it’s because someone didn’t take the time to fully listen to what the person bringing the message was saying.

People so often take what someone says to them as the full and absolute truth without even bothering to go to the source.  If we can’t play a simple phone game with eight to ten people and get the message correct (when that’s our intention), how can we expect to receive accurate information about someone or a situation from a third person when it comes to real-life situations?  If you need to know something, just ask the person.  If you are confused about the plans, ask the person in charge.  If you heard something that is disturbing to you, and affecting you, go and ask the source.  When people rely on just anyone to give them information, they not only begin participating in a gossip chain and possibly passing along information detrimental to someone’s reputation, but there’s a strong chance the information is incorrect.  If you need to speak with someone or find out a piece to a plan, don’t rely on someone who is two or three people removed from the situation, go straight to the source!

Friday, November 9, 2018

One person’s irresponsibility becomes another’s responsibility…

“So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.”   James 4:17

Stop, wait, look before you step!  That’s my new thought process anytime that I walk through my front lawn.  One of my neighbors walks his dog each morning and every evening, and from time to time the dog enjoys taking his potty break on our patch of grass.  This in and of itself isn’t a big deal, because the dog needs “to go” somewhere…the problem is the fact that he doesn’t clean up after the dog, placing the responsibility on me.

Another neighbor routinely has his friends over to work on their cars.  The morning after they leave, I routinely find water bottles in the street, which I pick up as I walk our dog Tanner.  Poop and empty water bottles, things that don’t have much use!  One needs to be thrown in the trash and the other into a recycle bin, but a few of our neighbors don’t see it that way, and it causes me to have to take an extra couple minutes of my day to make sure they hit the proper receptacles.  What if I or someone else didn’t clean up the mess?  People would be taking extra time to clean up their shoes, and yet another piece of trash would be contaminating the environment.  Just think of how much more peace, teamwork and unity would we have in this world if we all just took care of our own responsibilities, and fully carried out the roles God is placing before us.


Thursday, November 8, 2018

Listening with your soul…

“Whoever belongs to God hears what God says.”  John 8:47a

My grandfather, who I was closest to in my family, passed away on his 86th birthday in 2006.  He was a strong Christian and a member of his church for 76 years, serving in many roles including a deacon, choir member and janitor.  For the last several years of Pop’s life, he struggled with hearing, but refused to get a hearing aid.  But the funny thing was, he always seemed to know what to do and when to do it, as though he heard everything he needed hear.  My grandmother said he had “selective hearing”…maybe a lot of us do!  Even though he struggled to hear the conversation next to him, or pick up on instructions from my grandmother, he always knew what needed to get done, and did it.  To add, he was the only one in my family that ever truly listened to me, and I believe that he knew I was called to vocational ministry long before I realized it.

Listening to God means more than opening up your ears…in fact I believe it mostly means opening up your heart.  There’s a “hearing” that I can’t fully explain, which happens when we give ourselves fully to Christ each day…it’s as though you hear with your entire soul…it’s a movement of the Holy Spirit.  Open your ears, but also open up yourselves.

Wednesday, November 7, 2018


“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”  Joshua 1:9

After waiting about five years since having our last dog, Julie and I went ahead and took the plunge and got a puppy about three months ago.  Our last dog Samson, ran away during a July 4th fireworks show never to be seen again.  I looked for days, but he never showed up.  We agreed that we’d wait until we had children before getting another dog…well, that time has come!  Tanner, who is a pug crossed with a dachshund, is about seven pounds of craziness, but he loves the girls and his new home, making us very happy. 

Since we’ve adopted the little man, some adjustments to our life schedule have been made…at times getting up in the middle of the night for him to go potty, cleaning up when he goes potty inside, taking him on walks, paying vet bills, making sure he’s not chewing something up he shouldn’t be, having to schedule your day around making sure he doesn’t go too long by himself…the list goes on and on.  Having a dog is said to be like having a child…I’m not going to disagree! 

I’ve spoken with multiple people who know they need to make some kind of change in their life, but they don’t want to make the adjustments that come along with the change, so they choose to “stay where they are”.  Comfort zones can be good in a certain respect, but they can also keep us complacent with mediocrity.  God brings spiritual growth in your life when you live into needed, healthy change, but it’s your decision!

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

What is the Spirit saying?

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.”  Psalm 32:8

The girls and I get settled in at the local Mexican Restaurant for our weekly lunch after church, and soon begin diving into the bowl of chips, salsa and that special ranch dip that I love so much!  Within about two minutes I look over at Edie, my three-year-old, and she’s silently crying and I have no idea why.  I ask her what’s wrong multiple times but she won’t speak, but just continues to cry with her mouth wide open.  I immediately think choking, so I turn her around and begin the Heimlich maneuver right there in the booth we were sitting in.  She wasn’t wheezing or grabbing her throat, but outside of biting her tongue, that’s the only thing I could think of that was going on.  After three or four thrusts I turned her back around to see if that helped, still unsure of what was happening.  She hunched over the table in a few second pause, and then got sick…it wasn’t pretty but I was thanking God that some progress was being made.  I still didn’t know exactly what was transpiring but I knew she was now on her way to getting through this unusual scene.  Within five minutes she was fine and eating her quesadilla!  She later told me at home that she had a tortilla chip lodged in her throat.

Many times in life we frankly can’t comprehend what in the world is going on in front of us, and the only thing we are sure about is that God is with us, and that He will guide us through the confusion and to the other side.  Scripture tells us that we walk by faith and not by sight.  At various times in life we have no earthly idea of how to proceed, and we certainly don’t know what’s at the finish line of the situation, but again, we have faith through belief that our Father and Creator knows, and He will bring us through!

Monday, November 5, 2018

My best friend…

Jesus wept.”  John 11:35

My best friend has been gone now for over a week, helping her mother through an extremely difficult time after losing her husband, and my wife’s stepdad.  At first my concern was my ability to get my two awesome and wild little girls ready for each day, while also getting myself together!  After finding some sort of rhythm by the second or third day, I was doing “good”…no one was starving or going to school in mix-matched clothing, so I felt it was a win!  Then Sunday came around, and I was on my way to church with the girls, and I felt a deep sense of emptiness…as if I wasn’t myself, as if my center was a little to the right or left.  It’s really difficult to put into words how important and significant the spouse of a minister (who really is a minister themselves) is for so many reasons.  Her presence alone with me each Sunday gives me comfort, her words during difficult times encourage me, her smile as I glance over at her throughout the service drives me to the next point, her support when things seem a little chaotic hold me together.

When Lazarus died, scripture tells us that “Jesus wept.”  It also says a couple verses prior that Jesus was deeply moved and troubled, which means angered and agitated in the Greek language.  Scholars can’t point to the exact reason for these emotions, but between unbelieving Jews plotting to arrest Him in the crowd, and Mary passing blame on Christ for not saving her brother could be a couple of reasons.   I also believe that it had a lot to do with the fact that His friend had just died, a friend that He loved, and His disciples were nowhere to be found.  Scripture doesn’t mention anything about them coming to love on Jesus, to embrace Him or to talk with Him.  Jesus was and is fully God, and He was also fully human…He felt and had emotions just like us!  I can’t imagine what it felt like to lose one of His best friends in that moment prior to raising Lazarus, but I’m sure there was deep emotion…scripture says he wept. 

I haven’t lost my wife, and I pray that we have many more years together, but in the week or so that we’ve been apart, I’ve realized how strong my connection is with her.  I have literally felt a void in my life since her departure…Jesus in the moments prior to Lazarus coming forth from the tomb felt loss as His friend was no longer with them.  Love is powerful, relationships are powerful, and God blesses us every day with strength through them.  Go out and generate more relationships today and help others in the Name of Christ feel His strength and love.

Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Don’t get egged!

Better is open rebuke than hidden love.”  Proverbs 27:5

I was around fourteen, it was Halloween, and I was standing on my front porch watching my father make a beeline for a group of guys walking down the street in front of our house.  I thought to myself how embarrassing, but looking back now, I totally understood why Dad made the move he did.  This group of guys were all a year older than me, and frequently got in trouble at school and in the community…everywhere they went, they brought trouble.  The prior year on Halloween night, several homes in our neighborhood got “egged”, and ours was one of them.  The egg of course would dry overnight on the house, and it would eventually eat through the paint, causing us to have to repaint the entire exterior.  To save money, my father took it upon himself to do the repainting, and it took him three months of weekends and a day off from work here and there.  We’re talking about a two-story, 2,500 square foot home.  To say the least, he wasn’t happy about having to take several hours of his time to fix something just because a few kids thought a prank among the darkness would be funny on a Halloween night.

So, I stand there on my porch and watch my Dad lecture these kids in the street, and basically tell them even though he couldn’t prove it, he knew that it was them, and that he didn’t want to wake up to find egg all over his house again…and guess what, our home was clean the next day, and never got egged again.  We are called to love others, but we are also called to have boundaries, and to be bold about our walk.  There’s something very strong about setting boundaries with others who attempt to divert us from our walk with Christ.  My father didn’t yell, he didn’t scream, and he didn’t lay out consequences, but he did walk right up to their faces and state his case and his concern…and they listened, and they respected it.

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

The heart of a person…

Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;”  Luke 6:37

I’ve heard it said many times throughout my life, “You never know what goes on behind the closed doors of others.”  This saying usually comes in the context of a conversation around loving and supporting others, and not being critical or judging them, and thinking we know as bystanders what’s truly happening in someone’s life.  I like to take this saying a step farther…we don’t know what’s going on in someone’s heart, because of what’s happened in their life.  The words and actions of others exist in large part because of what someone has experienced in life.  How they grew up, who they grew up with, experiences as a youth, trials as a young adult…all these things form us as people and impact our perspective on the world.  The hope is that we seek God during each season of life so that we can better understand how to move through it, as well as grow stronger in our relationship with Christ.  But remember, only the person and God knows what they’ve specifically gone through and the feelings they’ve experienced.  When sitting and ministering to someone who seems to have had a bad morning, or may be going through a difficult month, remember to just be the presence of God to them, in the form of love.  We never truly know what they’ve been through.

Monday, October 29, 2018

Eternal life!

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.  My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you?   And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.  You know the way to the place where I am going.” John 14:1-4

My wife lost her stepfather Saturday, and her mother lost her husband of twenty-six years, a man she raised a son with, traveled with, attended church with, and journeyed life with.  It doesn’t matter if death comes without notice, or if it’s understood as a strong possibility due to a chronic illness…death is difficult and emotionally painful.  When we lose a loved one…a spouse, a child, a family member, a friend, a co-worker, a long-time companion, it hurts, and there’s no way around it.  As a pastor I’ve been honored to sit with families during these very difficult times, to direct them to God in prayer, and to facilitate the celebration of the life of their loved one.  There’s a stigma with death that brings fear and darkness, but as Christians we know that as we move forward, God is with us and this life here on earth isn’t the end!  Thanks be to God!  Acknowledge the pain that comes with death, allow yourself to grieve, to cry, to have the space to talk with God, to share stories, to laugh, to reminisce, and to embrace…but don’t fear, because in Christ we live eternally!

Friday, October 26, 2018

When chaos ensues…

“For God is not a God of disorder but of peace—as in all the congregations of the Lord’s people.”  1 Corinthians 14:33

I’ve learned in life that each day not only brings its own challenges, but that each day unfolds in a different way from the previous day.  Unexpected surprises, people not showing up to work, additional projects on the table, car problems, puppy problems…no matter how well you plan, you better be open to changing the plan!

In the above scripture, Paul is speaking to those in Corinth about order in worship, and how working together through healthy structure builds up the Body of Christ.  We need structure, we need to plan and we need to be prepared, but at the core of what you do and when you do it, should be the mission of helping others and building up the church.  We all deal with changes in plans daily, and we all are forced to deal with chaotic situations, but remember, just because the schedule for the day has gone with the wind, it doesn’t mean that God’s plan isn’t at work…there’s still a purpose in the moment…strive to live into it and you will find God’s peace.

Thursday, October 25, 2018

Anger problems…

“But the Lord replied, “Is it right for you to be angry?”  Jonah 4:4

“But God said to Jonah, “Is it right for you to be angry about the plant?”  Jonah 4:9

“But the Lord said, “You have been concerned about this plant, though you did not tend it or make it grow. It sprang up overnight and died overnight.  And should I not have concern for the great city of Nineveh,in which there are more than a hundred and twenty thousand people who cannot tell their right hand from their left—and also many animals?”  Jonah 4:10-11

The entire chapter of Jonah 4 speaks quite a bit about Jonah’s anger…anger because God relented and did not bring destruction upon the Ninevites, and anger because a worm ate a castor oil plant that brought Jonah much happiness.  Let’s look at this again…he was “burning with anger” because God forgave a city with about 600,000 people in it (after he forgave Jonah for disobeying), and he was angry because a plant died.   

We see in scripture that Jonah knew God was “gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love”, and that Jonah was the recipient of this love, but yet he was quick to anger…extreme anger that kept him from forgiving and passing along this love.  He failed to truly see God’s love being shared with an extremely violent people that needed Him, and he failed to truly see God’s love in the creation of a plant that brought him happiness and eased his discomfort.  He failed to see it because he was so angry and frustrated.  Why was he so angry?  What was he going through personally that caused him to harbor so much disdain for a group of people?  As we move forth into this day, into our lives, may we live into the compassion, love and forgiveness that God gives us through Christ, so that we can pass this same love onto others in our path, despite what our flesh or our own agenda may think needs to happen.

Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Will you?

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

Matthew 25:35-36

A comparison…

Two days ago I was shopping at Lowe’s with my youngest daughter, and I had picked up a small garden flag along with a few other items prior to approaching the self-checkout register.  Upon getting the items onto the scanner, I realize that Edie had pulled the barcode tag off of the flag pole, making it pretty hard to scan!  The person who was managing the self-checkout lines at the time was standing just ten feet away, so I politely asked her if she could look up the price for me and apologized for the inconvenience.  Immediately she rolls her eyes at me without saying a word and walks away.

Three days ago the girls and I were up the street hanging out with a neighboring family, and one who has a daughter that goes to school with my five-year-old.  The girls were having a blast riding bikes, playing hide-and-go seek and eating cookies, and then Laney took a spill in the road.  It was your typical every day bike wreck…one that I had countless times as a kid.  She skinned up her chin and shed a few tears, but was fine within minutes.  It wasn’t the fall that I remember the most, but the fact that the other girl’s father immediately went into the garage and pulled out a first-aid kit, and went to cleaning and bandaging the wound.

In one situation, a person was paid to help, and made me feel like I completely ruined her day by asking for a price…in the other situation, a neighbor took it upon himself to help a child in need, and I didn’t have to say a word.

Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Daily bread…

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
    his mercies never come to an end;
 they are new every morning;
    great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

A good friend of mine who’s going through an extremely difficult time right now reminded me the other day that God always provides…He provides what we need, He provides when we need it, and He provides in many ways and through many people…the question is, are we looking and listening?  He went on to tell me that throughout this challenging time in his life, God has brought him peace and strength through something significant each day…many times it has been through an individual, but it’s also been through a sunrise, an answered prayer that relieves pain, or the ability to enjoy a meal with his wife and best friend.

We don’t know how prayers will be answered and we don’t exactly know how God will provide, but we KNOW that He will, and if we’re looking and listening, we will see and feel those provisions in our life.  It all begins with belief and faith that God hears your cries for help, and that He provides a love through Christ that heals and is the source of unending compassion.

Monday, October 22, 2018

There’s no plateau…

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7

We fight temptation and stress daily, things of the flesh that test our resolve, and most importantly our faith in Christ…in what He’s done for us, continues to do for us, and will do for us in the future.  As we stand strong in Christ, we are able to overcome temptation and stress in the moment, growing closer to Him and gaining wisdom that will not only help us, but others that God places in our path of ministry.  Early in my Christian walk, I thought that if I could conquer “this area” of my life or “that area” of my life, I’d be good to go with no worries…that I would attain some sort of spiritual pinnacle where the difficulties of life would just bounce off of me.  This just isn’t the case…our life is ever-changing, our challenges are different from day to day, and Satan is constantly in attack mode on your spiritual journey…reaching a pinnacle or “top level” would mean that you no longer needed to depend on God, which of course would be extremely untrue.

We are built to be in a relationship with God, constantly.  There will not be a time when you’ve “maxed out” spiritually, because growth never ends.  There will not be a time when difficulties will completely stop.  There will not be a time when you can’t learn anymore.  When we begin to think we’ve got it all figured out, we begin to fall away from Christ and temptation really begins to play more into our lives.  If we think we’ve got it all figured out, we’re looking to ourselves and not to God.  There’s nothing wrong with waking up every day and knowing that you don’t have it all figured out, that you don’t know the exact path, that you don’t have the answer right away…but it does mean that you are fully dependent on God to understand your mission for the day.  I’ve spoken with Christians who routinely get so downtrodden because things are going well, and then an unexpected problem arises that knocks them for a loop…they are placing the burden of life upon themselves and not seeking God in the situation.  I’ve also been with Christians who know that the next day could bring a completely different situation than expected, but embrace it knowing that Christ will lead them through.

Friday, October 19, 2018

Keep trying, knowing you’re making a difference…

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”  

Romans 8:28 

Do you have someone in your life that you love dearly, but they just won’t give you the time or the ability to act out your love in their life?  To love them how you feel called to love them?  Next to dealing with our “enemies”, this is probably one of the toughest challenges as a Christian…to continue loving those who need our love, even desire our love, but just won’t give us the space to share the love of Christ.  Don’t give up! 

There are those that attempt to monopolize your time, drain your energy, and even at times act in a way that hurts you or the relationship…and God may be calling you away from the relationship.  But there are those that know they need your love, that know they need your encouragement, and most of all know that they need Christ in their life…but it seems like they make it nearly impossible for everyone to help…stay with it!  This life is all about love and obedience within God’s will, not about what we think we should do or not do.  Sometimes the way we are called to act is completely contradictory to worldly standards…but again, we don’t follow the world!

Thursday, October 18, 2018

Be a team player…

I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought.”  1 Corinthians 1:10

I’ll take care of the food…I’ll take care of the music…I’ll take care of the speaker…I’ll take care of the flowers…I’ll take care of the coordination.  You may have heard these statements several times if you’ve served on committees or leadership teams at a church.  Different jobs and different responsibilities, but all part of a whole…all needed to get a job done.  But the key is, to have trust in one another and most of all, trust in God and the gifts He has given each person. 

This same principle goes for the secular, for-profit world.  Every single team must trust one another to get their specific part of the project done, and the coordinator or leader must give each person the space to be successful.  If there isn’t trust and the leader micro-manages the project, you really don’t have teamwork, you just have a group of people following orders.  Micro-managing takes the joy out of the work, it doesn’t extend trust to teammates which zaps all motivation to be their best, and unity is hindered.  As you work together with others or possibly even lead a team, remember that allowing people to be the person God has called them to be maximizes their potential, creates unity and brings joy.

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Being that safe place for others…

“Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”   Galatians 6:2

People want to share their heart with someone during the celebratory mountaintop moments, as well as those times in life where it seems to be nothing but darkness surrounding them.  We all go through those days from time to time that drain us and completely zap our energy.  It could be a situation at work that went wrong, a relationship that has fallen apart, or maybe even an act of betrayal from an unexpected place.  Whatever the reason, we hit those moments where we need the help of God through those closest to us…we need that listening ear, that encouraging word, that nugget of wisdom to help us through the storm. 

You probably only have a handful of people in your mind that you feel comfortable calling during these difficult moments, because we don’t just give our heart to anyone…we give our heart to those we trust.  As you move forward today and in the days to come, be a consistent presence of love and support for those in your life, so that when they encounter those difficult days, they feel comfortable sharing with you.  We know that we are to lean on Christ for strength and support, and it comes in many ways…may you be the one that others lean on for that love that only Christ gives.

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Are you ready?

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”   Matthew 6:33

A point guard dribbles down the court…who will they pass the ball to?  A quarterback scans the field for an open receiver…who will they pass to?  A boss looks over the workroom for someone to take the latest project request…who will they assign it to?  Well, there are certainly many factors involved, but the most important one centers around the one who’s actually ready to receive the workload!  If the player isn’t paying attention and ready, or the worker hasn’t fully invested in the current project, why in the world would someone want to give them control over the next important play or project?

I speak with people routinely who desperately want to know the next step in life, or desire for something to happen that they’ve been waiting on for some time, but they haven’t been spending time with God to understand where they’ve been and where He may be taking them in the future.  I wholeheartedly believe that God wants to give you the desires of your heart, but you must make Him the center of your heart.

Monday, October 15, 2018

Yes, I have struggles and I make mistakes…

“And this is the testimony, that God gave us eternal life, and this life is in his Son.”   1 John 5:11

One of the strongest tendencies we have as people is to keep our secrets to ourselves…to make sure that no one knows our struggles, weaknesses and failures.  I think we sometimes forget that everyone deals with struggles, weaknesses and failures, so keeping them away from the rest of society may in some way provide a sort of façade to keep others from possibly criticizing or judging us. 

There’s a two-fold message here…as Christians, we know that we are loved even though we make mistakes, because of what Christ did for us on the Cross.  As we live into this faith, we grow more comfortable with the fact that we aren’t perfect, and hopefully in turn are able to share more and more of our testimony with others over time.  The second piece of the message is this…when others, especially non-believers, see how you share about your struggles so fluidly and without hesitation, something happens.  I’ve seen it multiple times in my own life…people immediately begin to put their guard down, the façade melts away, and you are able to see the true person…and that’s when the Holy Spirit enters and does His awesome work.  By your sharing, others feel comfortable to share, and fellowship in the Name of Christ occurs!

Friday, October 12, 2018

Reach out for fellowship, not just for help…

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”   Philippians 2:4

Relationships are extremely important…that’s why we’re here, to be in relationship with God and with others, and to share love!  To make and build these relationships, we must be open to sharing and receiving, to helping and being helped, to giving time and asking for time.  There must be a strong give-and-take in every single relationship in your life, and when we need help, we should seek out God’s guidance through others in our life.  But when it comes time to help others in need, we must be willing to give unconditionally, and at the time they need us, not when it’s convenient for us.

But also know this, generally speaking, people want to be there for those who need their assistance, but they also want to feel appreciated and loved themselves.  We may often get into a pattern of only reaching out to a specific person when we have a problem or need an ear to listen, but if that’s the only reason we communicate with that person, there’s a strong chance they will begin to feel used at some point.  People want to be helped and they want to help, but they don’t want to be used just for help…they desire a relationship just like you.

Thursday, October 11, 2018

Faith in God…faith in others…

“For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.”  Romans 12:4-5

Have you ever done a trust fall into the arms of another person?  Have you ever asked someone for help with a project and actually let them fulfill their part without checking on them?  Have you ever shared a sacred piece of information about yourself with someone, and knew without a doubt that it wouldn’t go beyond you two?

Faith…you can’t see it, but you can see the results of it.  You are able to see the fruit of faith in the lives of others, and they are able to see the fruit of faith in your life as well…and that’s a large part of our everyday witness.  We are called to have faith in God and His provision for our lives through our relationship with Christ.  As we live out this faith, knowing that whatever it is that we need for the journey will be provided, we will on occasion be called to lean on other people for help.  It may involve sharing information about yourself that you’ve never shared before, as you move down the path of emotional and spiritual healing.  It may include giving a part of the workload to a team member and not micro-managing them to a point of exhaustion for both of you.  It may be simply asking for help with everyday needs, because you’ve been stretched financially or are emotionally drained and need help with the kids. 

As we live out our journey for Christ, we must realize that we are human beings, and will absolutely need help from others in various areas of our lives.  But the key is, to know who it is that God is calling you to lean on, and to not limit how others can help us, or to tell them how to help us…instead ask for the help and allow them to serve, just as you would do for them.

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Keep going!

“Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.”   Proverbs 4:25

I was rounding the first turn on just the second lap of the race and my shoe came untied…”This is great”, I thought.  I had placed fourth in the two-mile at the regional track meet, and qualified for the state meet at the University of Virginia, and here I am, basically running with one leg.  There were a couple decisions that I could have made in that moment…stop running and tie the shoe, throw it off, or keep running…I chose the latter.  I ended up running the remaining six laps of the eight-lap race with laces flapping in the wind on my right foot, placing 23rd out of 25 runners. 

How many times in life do you feel as though you’re moving through the day with “untied laces”?  It probably happens so many times that you can’t count!  Each time that the plan doesn’t go perfectly, or a speed bump appears that wasn’t anticipated, you have a few choices…abort the mission, stand still in non-action, or keep moving ahead!  The more you depend on God, the more you delight in His ways…no matter if the situation goes off without a hitch, or is ridden with complications.  When you delight in His ways, you know without a doubt that He hasn’t left the situation, and will grant the clarity and resources to move through the situation. 

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Blessings in unexpected places…

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”  1 Corinthians 5:11

Each day that I walk into the local coffee shop to prepare a sermon or research for a Wednesday night study, the wonderful lady at the counter kindly hands me a cup, free of charge.  I’ve been coming here for over a year, and the employees all know me by name, but this wonderful lady has always taken a little more time getting to know me…it could be because she’s a Christian and I’m a pastor, or it could be that she’s just that kind to everyone.  Whatever the reason, we’ve found a great connection talking about life, about Christ, and about what living out this every day journey with Christ looks like for us. 

Of course I don’t have the intention of speaking to everyone I meet about what I do, or about their spiritual journey, but on occasion God brings others into my life that give me opportunities to share the Gospel and to receive love.  We don’t open the Bible or recite scriptures, but we do talk about how good God is, and how He provides for our every need.  There’s always something great that I believe happens when two Christians get to know one another on a deeper level…there’s a greater desire to share life, which isn’t found in a typical everyday conversation.  You can feel compassion and empathy exchanged in the conversation, whereas the average everyday conversation may be at the surface and without genuine emotion…looked at just as a business transaction.  But what has grabbed me the most, and it’s been completely unexpected, is that she has given me a free coffee every single day, and doesn’t do it for anyone else.  We know that most spiritual fruit doesn’t come forth in money or things, but in this situation, in addition to great building-up conversation, I have a steady flow of caffeine!  Fellow Christians are to encourage one another, support one another and love one another, and when this happens, the spiritual fruit that comes forth is unpredictable, but it’s always good!

Monday, October 8, 2018

Your daily witness tells the true story…

Whoever walks in integrity walks securely,
    but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.”  Proverbs 10:9

It may not be right or fair, but before people really get to know us and what drives us, “perception is reality”.  We may not have said the statement or committed the action, but if the circumstances of a situation illuminate us as a possible source, we could be looked upon as the culprit…and all it takes is for one person to begin spreading false rumors and gossip, and the fire is lit.  In saying this, I do my best each day to make sure that my congregation, my friends and my ministerial colleagues know who I am, what I’m about and the passion that I have for the mission of serving God and loving others.  Like every other person on this planet, I make mistakes, but at the end of the day I feel confident that among my faults, those around me know that I’ve done my best to fulfill the mission. 

If someone chooses to take shortcuts, cheat people, spread nonsense and discreetly cause harm to others, they will eventually be discovered and the Light will reveal the truth.  If someone chooses to stay on the path of doing good for others and serving the Lord, when any false speak against them occurs, it will eventually be discovered to be untrue and their solid reputation will stay intact.  People may make initial judgments about someone because of a false rumor, but in the end, if their actions exemplify love and encouragement, the rumor will fall back upon the one who spoke it.  Perception may be reality, but if you continue striving to help others, reality becomes reality…meaning people will not just hear, but know who you are and what you’re about.

Friday, October 5, 2018

What is it that they are looking for?

“Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”  Luke 6:38

When you’re hungry, do you feel like talking?  When you’re looking for a listening ear, do you feel like listening yourself?  When you’re lost while traveling on a family vacation, do you feel like talking about what restaurant everyone is interested in eating at?

The biggest issue with communication in society is where “supply meets need”.  Every single piece of communication from a person has a foundational purpose…it could be very light in nature or extremely serious, but every form of communication whether it’s verbal, nonverbal, by phone, by text, by email or by some sort of social media, has a purpose.  People are seeking advice, help, camaraderie, attention, friendship, fellowship, etc.…and they desire for the response to meet their need.  Now people don’t come out most of the time and tell you exactly what it is they are looking for or need, so we have to decipher and discern their heart through words and actions.  If you simply take the time with a person, you’ll most likely be able to determine what it is they are looking for or desire, and then you can proceed with helping them to meet the need, no matter how great or small it may be. 

Thursday, October 4, 2018

Being challenged when we least expect it…

Then the Lord God provided a leafy plant and made it grow up over Jonah to give shade for his head to ease his discomfort, and Jonah was very happy about the plant. But at dawn the next day God provided a worm, which chewed the plant so that it withered.”  Jonah 4:6-7

In the midst of Jonah's anger that God relented and did not bring destruction upon the Ninevites, along with the sun probably scorching down upon Jonah, God provided him a leafy plant to give him some shade…and we see that Jonah liked it very much.  In fact, the Hebrew translation says that Jonah was joyful and glad, that he was in a festive mood and rejoicing.  He was just burning with anger a few verses earlier, but is now full of joy for God has done for him, and once again provided for him in a dark moment.  But then something happens…God provided a worm to come and chew the plant so that it withered, or dried up. 

For a plant to wither, it means that it’s without moisture…so God had provided a plant in the midst of what was probably fairly hot conditions (average temperature today in the area of Nineveh is 109° in the summer), and He also took away the plant.  This in and of itself reminds us of God’s power and provision even when we think things aren’t possible.  Just after the plant withers, God provides a scorching wind and the sun blazes down upon Jonah’s head, to the point that he grew faint.  And what happens next?  Jonah states that it’s better for him to die than to live.

Jonah’s faith journey seems like a pretty wild ride, and when you look at the story, it’s difficult to understand how he would lose faith in God’s provision after what He did for Jonah on multiple occasions, but we as humans can often react in the same way.  God gave Jonah direction for what he needed to do and say, God gave Jonah forgiveness for his disobedience, God provided Jonah a chance at a new life when the fish vomited him up, God provided Jonah a leafy plant to ease his discomfort…but Jonah had disobeyed, gotten consumed with anger, immediately frowned when life didn’t go his way, and mentioned wanting to die on three occasions.  When we sin, we are called to repent and turn back to God, and once we begin to feel His peace and love, we begin to again see His direction for our lives.  But remember that life will continue and challenges will come again, and when they do, focus on God, stay with God, lean on God and look to God…He will provide.

Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Decisions, decisions…

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.  John 14:27

Most of your anxiety and stress come from thinking, thinking and thinking some more about decisions you’ve made or decisions that you “think” you’ll need to make in the future. 

Should I have done that?  Should I have not done that?  What should I do about this?  How will he/she react if I do that?  What are people going to think if I proceed with this plan?  Why is he/she upset with me?  Did they really like my idea, or are they just acting? 

I’ve found as I’ve grown spiritually that the more I give these decisions to God, or “decide” that it’s not a decision that even needs to be made, I feel more of His peace and am able to move forward in the day with motivation and positivity.  We constantly burden ourselves with many thoughts and decisions that don’t even need to take a second of our time, and also attempt to make big decisions without giving them to God.  God is love…allow His love to overflow into every aspect of your life, and in this way He will take the lead for your decision-making.

Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Freely given, freely live!

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” 

Galatians 5:1 

“What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us.”  1 Corinthians 2:12

God’s wisdom and revelation comes new every morning…we just have to be open to it.  I guess because I have a history of OCD, which God has given me a lot of freedom from, I have an innate desire to “perfect” my craft, and to do my best at whatever it is that I set out to do.  In saying this, I strive all day, every day to grow closer to Christ…it consumes me and everything I do.  I want to know more, I want to learn more, I want to love in a deeper way, I want to learn from my mistakes, and I don’t want to make those same mistakes again. 

God has set us free through Christ, when we believe in Him and choose to follow Him.  We are free from the bondage of sin, and from the guilt that sin may bring into our life.  As Christians we are convicted when we sin, and we turn back to God to learn and gain wisdom, so that the negative pattern doesn’t repeat itself, and your witness is even more pure than before.  But what does it mean to be free?  Does it mean that we can go around acting and doing as we wish…of course not.  In Christ, we are free from and forgiven of our sin, but we also freely receive eternal life and unconditional love, along with His will, His guidance and His provision.  Isn’t that an awesome thought?!  You are freely given a new life, a full life, but also the instructions, support and love in how to live out that life!  All we have to do is accept it!  You don’t have to earn it or work for it…just accept, believe and follow…the Holy Spirit will guide you!

Monday, October 1, 2018

Struggling to catch your breath?

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”  James 1:2-4

Our youngest daughter hadn’t been feeling well the past few days, so we’ve had some long nights.  With that said, we thought that we’d get a full night of sleep last night since she was feeling better…nope!  Around 2:30, I woke up to our puppy doing the “ayoogas”, that sound a dog makes right before they throw up, which he ended up doing all over our sheets (he sleeps with us).  We get up, clean it up, go back to bed, and then he does it again at 4:30…awesome. 

There are times in life when it feels like smooth sailing…relationships are strong, work is good and you’re even getting time to get some things done around the house or take a short vacation.  There are other times when it seems as though you’re going from one struggle to the next, and it’s hard to catch your breath.  I’ve often asked God “why this or why me” during these times, or “what is the purpose” of the struggle, or “why do things have to be so hard?”  There’s nothing wrong with asking God questions about life and hardships…God wants you to express your needs along with your thankfulness to Him.  But something I’ve learned through answered prayers to these questions and many others, is that God is our Father and He wants to take care of every single need that you have…nothing is too small!  As I’ve grown in faith, I’ve found myself asking for provision and guidance rather than asking why me.  He knows what you’re going through, and He can and will provide you with resources and strength…all you need to do is ask.

Friday, September 28, 2018

Have the right aim…

“For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”  1 Timothy 4:8

Deer hunting season is around the corner, and folks are getting their bows ready for opening day in the woods.  Much time is spent sighting-in the bows and making sure that the arrow is going where the bow is aimed, because the last thing a hunter wants to happen is an errant shot from the tree stand!  There’s so much skill that goes into bow hunting, even after everything is sighted-in.  A hunter must sit with patience in the stand, at times deal with the natural elements such as extremely hot or cold weather, judge the proper shooting distance to the target, aim with a steady hand at the target, and lastly, know the exact-right time to release the arrow into a flight pattern.

The ultimate goal of hunting is to have an enjoyable and peaceful time in the woods, and hopefully harvest an animal that will feed your family.  Bringing home a harvest doesn’t always happen, and in fact most of the time that I’ve sat in the woods, it hasn’t happened.  But when the opportunity comes, the hunter must be ready and prepared, and if not, it’s a great chance that the opportunity will be missed.  As Christians we should be preparing to take aim at the mission God has for us in each moment of the day, by reading the Bible, staying in prayer, practicing forgiveness and loving others unconditionally.  All these things contribute to a Christ-centered life, and a stronger relationship with God.  Just as a hunter prepares their bow, prepare your heart each day so that others may be impacted through your witness.

Thursday, September 27, 2018

Slow to anger, quick to obedience…

He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.”  1 John 2:2

We are continuing our study on the Book of Jonah on Wednesday nights, and along with the theme of God’s mercy and compassion, the theme of obedience came to light.  Jonah initially disobeyed, but would later obey, but only after being swallowed by a large fish.  Once Jonah obeyed and went to preach against the Ninevites for their wickedness, the Bible says they “believed God”.  Going forward a little into chapter 4, we see where Jonah anticipated that God would relent and not bring calamity against the Ninevites because of their repentance and belief…it says that he knew God was gracious and compassionate, but yet he ran from the call to preach!  We know that Jonah was angry after God relented, because he didn’t want the wicked people of Nineveh to receive and feel God’s mercy and forgiveness, but he himself received that compassion after he disobeyed! 

Like Jonah, we sometimes think that we know best, or maybe even withhold forgiveness from others, or still yet think someone else doesn’t deserve God’s forgiveness for their behavior.  As human beings we feel emotions, we feel hurt and there are tendencies at times to hold anger against someone.  But remember and know that God is compassionate and gracious and loving, and as the Hebrew language says in Jonah 4:2, “long in wait for anger”, we should also be slow to anger…but we can only do this through Christ and obedience to His call upon our lives.  His love and forgiveness is for all, and the hope is that all may come to Him.

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

The will of God…

“Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”  Matthew 6:10

When you watch your child enter their first gymnastics practice…what do you want for them?  When you watch your child take their first step into Kindergarten…what do you want for them?  When your child is served their dinner…what do you want them to do?  When you watch your child make a mistake…what do you want for them?  Most likely, you want them to have fun, be open to learning, eat their food and gather wisdom.

I don’t know the will of God for the lives of others, and I’m constantly trying to discern it for my own life, but I will say that I believe it parallels our will for our own children, and those that we love.  We want people close to us, and those that God brings into our path to understand that they are loved and that life is a gift…and to not make it complicated…just follow the flow of the Spirit and take what you can from each moment.  When I think of God’s will for my life, I think of how I wish my children knew my will for their life…you’re going to make mistakes, but don’t allow it to deter you from the next blessing or consume your thoughts.  Learn, move forward and enjoy this beautiful opportunity to help people through the guidance, strength and love from our Maker. 

Tuesday, September 25, 2018

Where God leads, I will go…

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.”  Matthew 5:8

I sat down, grabbed my highlighter and opened my Bible to Jeremiah, and began reading…a few seconds later I heard the young man next to me say, “I see you’re reading the Bible, that’s the greatest book there is!”   This started a great conversation about scripture, about God and Christ, and about life.  As we continued to talk, I learned that he was from San Francisco, and was currently enrolled in college courses here in Richmond.  I also learned that he had a deep love for music, and more specifically writing music that would speak to people about God and his love.  But he had already started hitting the roadblocks of life.  He didn’t go into the details of his struggles, but I could tell that this young man at just twenty-years of age, had already been battered by numerous difficult situations.  He would eventually reveal that he felt others in his life didn’t give a rip about him or his dreams, and to him, his purpose.  

Here was a young man starting his journey into the world, and had already felt beaten down and dejected…how could this be?  We just never know what someone went through growing up, we don’t know what they experienced and witnessed as a child in their home, we can’t know the influences that were in their life prior to us meeting them…but we can meet them where they are, we can offer a listening ear, we can love them for who they are in the moments we have with them.  I have no idea what that young man has gone through, but I know he’s struggling with support and encouragement.  But he seemed appreciative that I took the time to listen to his dreams, and honestly it helped me continue to center myself on my own dreams…but it all starts with a willingness to be open to where and how God is leading you.  Be open, you never know how God may use you to make a difference in someone’s life, and how someone else may make a difference in yours.

Monday, September 24, 2018


“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”  1 John 1:9

Julie and I witnessed what I feel is one of the greatest comebacks in sports history yesterday evening, as Tiger Woods won the Tour Championship, and came in second in the FedEx Cup standings as a professional golfer.  Tiger hadn’t won a tournament in five years, and adding in the multiple surgeries and setbacks in his personal life, this win marked a great personal accomplishment for him, one that brought tears to his eyes and those of his fans.  His final walk up the 18th fairway toward the green was unlike anything a golf fan has ever witnessed.  The gallery was so intense and so large, that Tiger had to literally find his way through the crowd just to finish out the hole as the droves of people engulfed him.

According to Romans 3:23, we all sin and fall short of the glory of God, but through Christ we are forgiven, we are given mercy, we are unconditionally loved, and we inherit eternal life.  You may be carrying guilt today for sins committed years ago…release that burden and release that guilt as you confess those sins and ask for forgiveness, and continue to live into the life God has for you to serve Him in your own special way, through the power of the Holy Spirit.  Tiger made some big mistakes, but who hasn’t?  But Tiger has continually worked on himself, leaned on those close to him, and taken life a step at a time…all points he made in post-tournament interviews.  Tiger used to be straight-faced and perceived as extremely arrogant…yesterday he was humbled, tearful, thankful and appreciative of the good that is coming to his life.  I don’t know much about Tiger’s own spiritual walk, but just watching that last round of golf unfold taught me again about how much humanity loves to see comeback stories, and to see people be redeemed.  It also reiterated the love God has for you and me, and how He wants you to turn to Him and know without a doubt that you are forgiven, and are loved beyond measure as you walk with Christ.

Friday, September 21, 2018

Joy in suffering…

“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”  Romans 5:3-5

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”  James 1:2-4

Rejoice in sufferings?  Joy in trials?  What’s that all about?  Well, look at the result…character is developed and steadfastness is produced in you!  We as humans often seek out things that bring us pleasure, because pleasure brings us good feelings and maybe even some sort of peace…but it’s short-lived.  It could be avoiding difficult circumstances, ducking responsibility for an afternoon of golf or shopping, it could involve simply sleeping in on Sundays.  Our flesh desires for things to be easy and smooth, and it can’t stand when work is involved, because the world teaches us that acquiring things, taking vacations and running from healthy tension is “where it’s at”.  But when we look at scripture, especially the two above, we see that joy is not only found in the mountaintops of life, but in difficult circumstances, and at times extremely difficult circumstances.  To the world, this paradox doesn’t make sense, because the flesh runs from conflict, and doesn’t face challenges with joy…but the world and our flesh don’t look to the same result as the Holy Spirit within us does.   

God calls us to make disciples, to tell others of the Good News of Jesus Christ and to love Him and others…it’s all about an outflow of service, not an influx of worldly pleasures.  It’s about serving others, not self.  It’s about glorifying God, not bringing attention to ourselves or our agendas.  It’s about being obedient to God, not chasing worldly expectations.  When we are able to see this healthy end goal, the mission that we are called to, we find God in the extremely challenging seasons of life…and we know that our character will be developed and steadfastness will be produced.

Thursday, September 20, 2018


“And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”  Matthew 21:22

Belief is trust, faith or confidence in someone or something…and it is the backbone of your walk with Christ. 

We have a relationship with God through Christ with belief in what Christ did for us, continues to do for us, and will continue to do for us.  He lived, He died, He arose, He ascended, and with belief in Him we receive the Holy Spirit, which guides us into all truth.  As believers we are children of God, and He wants to take care of you and every single one of your needs!  As Christians one of the first steps is understanding what we want and what we really need, and we receive that direction from the Holy Spirit.  Once we understand (this is an ongoing process) what we truly need, we are called to take it to God in prayer, and BELIEVE that He will provide!  I can’t tell you how many times that I’ve been at the “bottom”, didn’t know where to turn, or needed clarity on what to say or do, and the answer came as needed.  When you align yourself with the will of God, there is so much comfort in knowing that God and His power will provide for every single need.  Even those “small” prayer requests are just as significant and important as the “big” ones…because it’s you talking to your Maker about something that you need to do His work!  Ask God what it is that you truly need today, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you into that answer…then ask God in celebration for what He’s already provided, and go walk in strength with Christ!

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Do you really need to say it?

“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”  Proverbs 10:19

We often think we know better…we know how to carry out a certain action better, we know how to plan something better, we know how to combat a problem better.  But do we really know better? 

The wisest people that I know never criticize, or bring anything to a situation other than positivity and a listening ear, even when they may be right or know better.  They will offer constructive feedback, but only if asked, and even then are able to “spin it” in a way that sounds compassionate and supportive.  Anyone can just spew out words based on emotions, but the one who listens to the Lord and has gathered His wisdom from life, knows that we are here on this earth to build others up, and in doing so only offers thoughts that strengthen, and only when asked.

The most successful marriages, working relationships, friendships…you name it, they all are full of people that support one another so much that constructive feedback is the last thing they’re trying to dish out, but will if asked.  Again, even when they help their loved one through words, the framework of the thoughts embody the theme of “building up”.  If you think about it, where does unwanted feedback or criticism get you?  It may bring you some sort of fulfillment that you got your opinion out, but it only lasts for a moment.  After a few minutes, the dynamic of the conversation has changed, and there’s a possibility that the person you spoke to won’t rely on you again to help during difficult circumstances, or to just be there as a listening ear.  Remember, we’re here to build bridges so that the love of Christ can be shared, not to flippantly share our opinions with others in a way that could create distance or even damage a relationship.

Tuesday. September 18, 2018

Thinking and living in absolutes…

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”  John 14:6

If you remember from Math class, an absolute value of a number is the actual real value of the number, regardless of the sign.  For example, the absolute value of a negative three is three or a positive five is five.  When we speak in absolutes, we are speaking in a way that is “complete” or “decided”…”I will absolutely be there for you when you need help.”  When we refer to something that is absolute, it’s something that is accepted universally such as, “You will absolutely have to pay taxes or face additional fines and potentially harsher penalties.”

Absolutes cut right to the core of the point a person is trying to make, or to the central theme of the situation at hand.  In terms of good, healthy Christian boundaries, we should be absolute.  But in terms of how we love others, we need to be a little more flexible, because each person is different, and going through a different season of life.  In terms of our own personal walk with Christ, it must be “absolute”, meaning nothing, nothing at all should divert you from following Him.  If He calls you, answer…if He asks you to step up, you start to “walk”, if He asks you to go, you head in that direction.  The relationship that God calls us to have with Him through Christ is not one that should be wavering, but one that should be carried out in absolute obedience.  As Christians we absolutely love God, and we should absolutely love His will for our life!

Monday, September 17, 2018

Take care of yourself…

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”  1 Corinthians 6:19-20

A car doesn’t operate well unless it’s been properly maintained and taken care of.  It needs to have the oil changed regularly, air filters changed out routinely, tires replaced every fifty to seventy thousand miles, tuned up every hundred thousand miles, new brakes put on as needed, and of course needs to be full of gas!  Even after all of these various maintenance checks and replacements, cars still have problems, but they don’t come nearly as much on a vehicle that’s been well-taken care of.

The same principle can be applied to our own body and soul…are you eating right, getting enough sleep, watching programs and listening to music that feed your soul?  Are you reading your bible, staying devoted to prayer and taking the time for others as God places them in your path?  Are you going to church, participating in a bible study or small group, and stepping up to serve as God directs you?  All of these influences, factors and practices promote good, spiritual health, and bring you closer to Christ.  This doesn’t mean that you won’t encounter difficult times or “bumps in the road”, but you will be better prepared to handle them as they come if you’re walking closely with Christ. 

What it boils down to is this…the more you can stay within every moment of the day, the more you’ll see God’s vision for that moment…and the more you practice good spiritual health, the more you can stay within every moment.

Friday, September 14, 2018

Little blessings of interruption…

“Not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”   Hebrews 10:25

I had a lot to get done yesterday and was excited to get started, but when I got to that quiet moment in the morning that I would call “the starting line”, I was delayed…but it was a good thing!  As I sat down to collect my thoughts for the assignment ahead, a couple beside me in the coffee shop inquired about what I was doing, as they saw the bible laying open on the table.  They asked me where I attended church, to which I proceeded to tell them that I was a pastor, which then led to a deep conversation about life and spirituality.  There’s usually two options that people take once they realize that I’m a pastor…they either clam up completely, or ask deep questions about life and the bible.

This couple attended Second Baptist Church of Houston, Texas, the second-largest church in the city next to Lakewood Church, where Joel Osteen is the lead pastor.  They began to tell me that they were in Richmond for the birth of their son’s third child, which was scheduled to be born the next day.  We talked about Hurricane Harvey that devastated the Houston area last year around the same time that we are now dealing with Hurricane Florence.  They emphasized how much of a blessing it was to watch volunteers give of their time, money and energy to help those in need, but they were also blessed to see how thankful the recipients of this help were through the love given back.   

After they left the coffee shop, I began to think about the actions of giving and receiving, and how I went into the morning on a mission to check some boxes, and even though I ended up getting my work done, it just wasn’t done in the timeframe that I originally intended.  Once the conversation started and we went “below the surface” in terms of spirituality, I received a blessing from their experiences in life.  When we give unconditionally, someone will be blessed…when we receive unconditionally, someone will be blessed…it’s a cycle of love, and it’s love and not “checking boxes” that makes the world go round. 

Thursday, September 13, 2018

It just takes obedience…

Jonah began by going a day's journey into the city, proclaiming, "Forty more days and Nineveh will be overthrown."   Jonah 3:4

And in the very next verse (3:5)…”The Ninevites believed God.”

Jonah received direction from the Lord to go and preach against the city of Nineveh because of its wickedness…and initially the Bible says that “Jonah ran away”.  How often do we run away from something that God has asked us to do?  Whether it’s fear, anxiety, being uncomfortable, or just not willing, we may ignore God’s call on our life to perform an action, speak a word or simply listen.  But as Jonah would soon find out, when we run, all we do is bring more problems upon ourselves, because we are disobeying our Maker, and we’re trying to accomplish tasks on our own.

In verses four and five of Jonah 3, something happens…”Jonah obeyed the word of the Lord”, and proclaimed to the Ninevites as God had commanded.  Scripture then tells us that those in the city of Nineveh, which would eventually become the capital of the violent and destructive Assyrian empire, believed God.  Just like that, Jonah follows a commandment from God and the hearts of many were changed.  The bible tells us that there were 120,000 people who couldn’t tell their right hand from their left, meaning infants and young children…so when you extrapolate the number, commentators say there were probably as many as 600,000 people in the city! 

One calling from God, one statement given, one person following God…and several hundred thousand people’s lives were changed!  If we would just follow God when He calls!

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Self-control leads to a desire to not control…

“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.”   Proverbs 25:28

Control…we all seem to want it in every aspect of our lives.  It’s innate to desire control for survival reasons, but the constant push for control also creeps over into other areas as well…marital issues, family situations, work roles, budgeting, group dynamics, socializing, etc.  You name the area of life, and there’s probably been an instance where you sought control at one point in time or another, or are possibly dealing with such a situation right now.  Why do we want control?  Well, if we are able to completely control every situation (which we can’t), we could not only regulate our influence, but the influence of others.  But again, no matter how hard we try, we cannot fully control every single moment, challenge or group we are a part of, and in the end all it does it bring you more stress. 

Instead of trying to control your amount of influence or that of others in a particular situation, practice self-control!  Know that you can’t see the eventual outcome of the situation and that you’re not supposed to!  Know that God is within the moment and that if we exhibit self-control, we are able to seek His will…the One who knows the outcome and the amount of input that everyone involved should be injecting.  Ironically, often times it’s the people who desire the most control that lack self-control, and those that pause for God’s will try to control very little to nothing.  Enjoy the day, follow God and know that He’s not only got you, but He’s in control of every situation…just allow Him the space to work!

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Be ready!

But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,”   1 Peter 3:15

Julie and I were wading in the water and playing paddleball on a small, secluded beach on Sullivan’s Island in Charleston, South Carolina, just a few hundred yards from Fort Sumter, when something unexpected happened.  As we enjoyed the first day of our honeymoon, I noticed a gentleman and his son, who had special needs and was about twelve-years-old, make their way out into the water as they played together.  I could notice from my peripheral that they were venturing into deeper water, and the farther they walked, the more excited the son got, jumping up and down on his father.  Just as Julie and I are getting into a consistent volley with the paddleball game, I see the son aggressively grabbing his father’s neck, and the father begins to struggle just to keep his head above the water.  My lifeguard instincts from twenty years ago kick in and I throw off my hat and sunglasses and haul tail out to the situation.  Thank the Lord that the training was still in the brain and I was able to get the father into a save-hold while the son stay attached to his neck.  I pulled them into the beach, made sure they were ok, and took a breather myself. 

We never know how and when the Lord will use us, but we should be constantly open to the prompting of the Spirit.  It’s easy to get into the mindset that being used by God only happens in the “big” moments of life, or snapshots here and there, but always remember that our relationship with Christ is ongoing.  No matter how He calls us, every single moment is important and significant because it involves following Christ and bringing His love to someone in need.  The above verse mentions being prepared to make a defense…make a defense for the hope in you through your actions and your readiness to help!

Monday, September 10, 2018

Set ‘em up!

“Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man,”  Proverbs 22:24

We love our children beyond words, but we provide discipline in their lives to help direct their paths for the future.  As human beings, we love doing things that provide a “fun atmosphere” for us and our families, such as taking vacations, shopping for new clothes, or attending shows and concerts.  But we also know that there is an overall budget guiding the amount of fun we can have, and if we don’t manage our money, it could run out! 

The same principle goes for boundaries in our personal-spiritual lives.  I’ve had a couple conversations lately with people who believe that to love everyone means to accept any and all unhealthy behavior in a way that just overlooks conduct detrimental to yourself or the group.  Having and living with such a perspective will bring unwanted and unneeded stress into your life, negatively affect all of your other relationships, and most of all hinder your relationship with Christ.  It’s one thing to forgive someone over and over, knowing that they are truly trying their best to improve and change, and it’s another thing to experience hurt over and over from someone who doesn’t see the error in their ways.  Sometimes we need to walk away from people and/or situations that do nothing but hinder our spiritual growth and cause us harm.  We don’t know how long we will have on this earth to serve, so get busy telling others of The Good News, and don’t let negative influences slow you down!  Set up those boundaries!

Friday, September 7, 2018

Fear not…

“The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.”   Psalm 118:6a

In my reading through the Psalms this morning, the above verse stood out immediately, because the words “afraid”, “fear”, “worry” and “stress” seem to dominate society.  Whether it’s money, family strife, or job challenges, fear slowly infiltrates our lives each day, but only if we let it.  Situations that promote worldly fear constantly creep up on us, sometimes as expected, but most often as a surprise.  When these moments occur, it’s easy to automatically assume that you need to take care of it, or that you need to find your way through the cloudy time.  As Christians we know this isn’t the truth, because we don’t need to come up with a plan or dig deep within our own inner strength, but instead look to God for the path along with the ability to persevere.  As you grow in Christ, you will find that you not only have less stress and worry, but more importantly, your soul is at peace as you walk with Christ.  The focus becomes more about enjoying the relationship with God, than trying to compartmentalize difficult situations to maintain some sort of homeostasis. 

The Lord is with you, and there is no need to be afraid.

Thursday, September 6, 2018


“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”  James 1:22

Oil and water do not mix, and peanut butter and eggs don’t go together…at least I don’t think they do!  In the same way, people don’t often approach others who aren’t welcoming and don’t exhibit compassion, because there is a lack of genuine care and concern. 

Our youngest daughter attends a preschool where the teacher sends out pictures, updates and daily reminders through an app each day, letting the parent(s) know how the child is doing.  At one time both of our daughters attended the school, so my wife and I were getting updates from two different teachers each day about the classroom happenings.  I found that I gravitated toward the teacher that seemed to actually care about the content being posted, and most importantly that the parents knew how much she cared about learning.  It’s not that the other teacher didn’t care about the best interests of our child, but the teacher that kept us more informed and was more detailed in her posts gave me a continual feeling that she was giving it her best every moment of every day…and I found myself excited to open every notification that I received on my phone.  With the other teacher, I discovered that I rarely ever felt like viewing the latest post, because it seemed like she was just “mailing it in”…doing the bare minimum, not to mention her posts were few and far between.

We are charged with carrying the message of Christ to the world each day, not for a few hours, but through every single interaction we have with others.  To add, when interacting with people, we should be genuine and compassionate with their needs.  Our peers can always tell when we’re just “mailing it in” and trying to get through the interaction, rather than striving to make a strong impact.  Go out and give it your all today and make a difference for Christ!

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

God’s grace, mercy and love is for all…

“And should I not have concern for the great city of Nineveh, in which there are more than a hundred and twenty thousand people who cannot tell their right hand from their left—and also many animals?”   Jonah 4:11

We have only a snapshot of Jonah’s life in the short book of prophecy entitled by the same name, but we see so many lessons to be learned by the way he lived his life.  In just the third verse of chapter one, Jonah runs from the Lord’s call to go and preach against those in Nineveh because of their wickedness, and the rest of the story will feed from this one incident of disobedience.  There are places throughout the Bible where we are able to see patterns that give way to a larger theme, and in the Book of Jonah there is a continual pattern of Jonah wanting to die, and it all stems from initial act of disobedience. 

In 1:12, Jonah tells the sailors to pick him up and throw him into the sea, which would eventually happen in verse 15. 

In 4:3, Jonah tells the Lord to take his life away, after becoming angry that God relented and didn’t bring destruction upon the Ninevites. 

In 4:9, Jonah says that he’s so angry that he wishes he was dead, after the plant that provided him shade withered due to the worm, and after Jonah had grown faint because of the blazing sun.

Life is difficult and challenging, but when we follow God’s call, we are able to feel His peace, His forgiveness, His grace and His love, and proceed forward in confidence that He will provide.  When we leave the path He is laying before us and deviate from His will, we may feel isolated and alone, which can lead to depressing thoughts, and potentially a deep depression.  The ending of Jonah is one that often times leaves the reader in question and in want, because there’s no happy ending or a nicely-tied knot…but it also reminds us that God is a merciful God, and one who loves us and is compassionate toward our needs, even when we mess up.  But we must continue to turn back to God in obedience, and allow the love He gives us to fall upon those in our lives who we may feel reluctant to love.

Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Give yourself room to go through the e-motions…

“He changes times and seasons; he removes kings and sets up kings; he gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding;”   Daniel 2:21

This morning has been a good, but difficult one for me…it was Laney’s first day of Kindergarten.  Not only was it tough for her Mom and Dad, but her sister struggled with the fact that she and Laney were no longer attending the same school.  It got me thinking about the seasons of life, and how every aspect of our life can change from season to season.  We make new friends, lose touch with old ones, we move to a new location and leave family behind, we may go through an illness that places an emotional strain on our souls, our spouse may be struggling with a new job…whatever area that is going through change will undoubtedly affect how you proceed in life.  Sometimes the change is for the better and it brings us great joy, and sometimes the change is for the better but it makes us completely uncomfortable. 

Whatever the feeling is that you are going through at this time in your life because of change, or needed change, allow yourself to experience those feelings.  In this way you are able to “own” them, better understand them, and grow into a stronger person in this new season.  Holding onto old ways just for the sake of tradition is a great way to remain the same and inhibit growth, along with your witness.  Live into the moment by living into today, and may God give you peace in the freedom to experience the feelings that come with transition.

Friday, August 31, 2018

Be transformed and renewed!

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” 

James 1:19 

I’m preaching from the first chapter of James this week, so as is my typical practice, I’ve read through the entire epistle of James multiple times in preparation to write and to proclaim.  I do this each week so that I can feel God’s message through the writer and understand the context in a stronger way, which allows the specific preaching scripture verses to come alive for me, from which God’s message comes forth.

Put yourself in a home as a child again, but with a big brother who does no wrong, and who seems to be the model child and youth growing up that your parents gloat over with other family and friends.  That big brother does well in school, has a lot of friends and the teachers all love him…after a while it begins to aggravate and frustrate you, and you start to become disgruntled…this was likely the case of James, the writer of the Epistle of James, the half-brother of Jesus.  John 7:5 tells us that the brothers of Jesus didn’t believe in Him…but something happens after His resurrection. 

In the Acts 1:12-14 we see that the apostles, along with the women, Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brothers, joined together in the upper room for prayer.  In John the brothers didn’t believe, and in Acts they joined the apostles for prayer!  Also, James uses the phrase, “our glorious Lord Jesus Christ” in the first verse of chapter 2.  James, most likely the second son born to Mary, went through a complete transformation, from a possible jealous and frustrated brother to a believer and as Paul states in Galatians, one of the pillars of the church! 

The entire book of James concentrates on action…action that stems from a strong relationship with Christ.   This action isn’t anger-driven, but love –filled!  This action isn’t polluted by the world, but made healthy and pure through direction from God!  This action doesn’t show favoritism, but brings unconditional love to all!  This action doesn’t run to judgment, but is full of mercy!  This action is patient and is brought forth through humility, through humbling oneself before God.  Who better to preach and write on such a topic than one who may have dealt with such friction-points prior to his transformation…than James himself.

Thursday, August 30, 2018

When God hits you with some knowledge…

 Gideon said to God, “If you will save Israel by my hand as you have promised— look, I will place a wool fleece on the threshing floor. If there is dew only on the fleece and all the ground is dry, then I will know that you will save Israel by my hand, as you said.”  And that is what happened. Gideon rose early the next day; he squeezed the fleece and wrung out the dew—a bowlful of water. Then Gideon said to God, “Do not be angry with me. Let me make just one more request. Allow me one more test with the fleece, but this time make the fleece dry and let the ground be covered with dew.” That night God did so. Only the fleece was dry; all the ground was covered with dew.”

Judges 6:36-40

As we walk in faith with Christ each day, we are to thank God for the blessings He provides, and ask for help in the situations where we struggle.  Yesterday, God used an unlikely person to give me the clearest answer that I’ve ever received from a prayer request.

I’ve been thinking and praying for years now about writing a book about my life that I believe can help others in their journey.  I knew that whenever this project began, it would take a considerable amount of concentration, thought and time, and up to this point in my life, I’ve just not had that window of opportunity present itself yet.  Two days ago I reached out to a publisher to talk about my idea and explain my purpose for this project, and he responded within an hour saying in all caps and in bold, “WRITE THE BOOK”.  My immediate thought was “Ok, I guess it’s time!”  I really didn’t think much more about it, and went about my day.  Yesterday morning as I was having my usual breakfast and working on Sunday’s message, a lady that works at the coffee shop where I attend randomly comes over to me and says, “Have you ever thought about writing a book?”  We’ve had multiple conversations around God and spirituality, but I’ve never mentioned writing a book to her, and God prompted her to tell me that it was time to begin.  It wasn’t a fleece, and I didn’t specifically ask God to use a person to give me a message, but I did ask God to direct me, and that He did…and I literally sat in my bench stunned for the next hour about what had just happened. 

Don’t be afraid to ask God for help…He wants you to!  You are His child, and He wants to meet every single one of your needs as it aligns with His will!  God is real, He is here with you, He is in your heart, He is working through situations in your life, and He works through people every day!  Ask and believe! 

Wednesday, August 29, 2018

One person’s lag adds to another’s load…

“The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.”  Proverbs 13:4

I heard Nick Saban, the coach of the Alabama Crimson Tide football team, quote the great NFL running back Curtis Martin the other day…”Your irresponsibility becomes someone else’s responsibility.”  If we choose to forgo our duties and responsibilities, or lack commitment in something that we originally chose to undertake, that work gets passed onto someone else by default.  It could be a family member, a friend, a co-worker or a church member, but someone is going to have to pick up the slack if we don’t follow through.

We all struggle at times and need help, and that’s where the Body of Christ comes in, but there is a difference in needing help and not putting forth the effort when we’re able.  The major problem with not carrying out our work to the fullest and laying the load upon someone else, is that it puts an unneeded strain on that other person, and there’s a good chance they’ll also need help to finish their own assigned responsibilities.  This snowball effect will continue down the chain and eventually works its way into the entire system, and potentially lead to diminished returns, or even failure.  May we all continually and consistently decide to “give it our all”, and add to the system instead of taking away.

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Decommitting tears down the tower…

But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.”  James 5:12

If you’ve ever played Jenga, you know that the goal of the game is to take away the blocks in strategic places so that the rest of the tower doesn’t collapse and come tumbling down.  As Christians, we are called to “add to” the lives of others, not take away, and in turn strengthen their relationship with us, and ultimately with Christ.  We commit to various things daily…taking care of a grocery list for our spouse, picking the kids up from school, serving on a church committee, or having lunch with a friend in need.  Jerry Seinfeld emphasized the importance of commitment on an episode of Seinfeld where a customer service clerk failed to reserve him a car even though he made the reservation…

“I don't think you do. You see, you know how to *take* the reservation, you just don't know how to *hold* the reservation. And that's really the most important part of the reservation: the holding. Anybody can just take them.”

We need to be sure of how and where God is calling us, because if we commit to things and fail to follow through or “commit”, relationships can be damaged and trust lost…and without trust a relationship will come tumbling down, just like that tower in Jenga.

Monday, August 27, 2018

Commitment is hard, but commitment is required…

“Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,”   Philippians 3:13

I’ll never forget it…I was thirteen years old and participating in my first swim meet, and racing back to the wall on the final length of the 100-yard freestyle event.  My swim team had only been practicing for about three weeks, and I had only been swimming competitively for the same amount of time, so my endurance really hadn’t been built up yet.  For a young teenager who never swam on a team before, to swim four lengths of a 25-yard pool in a competitive atmosphere is quite a challenge.  On that final length I felt my lungs begin to get overwhelmed and I just couldn’t keep going, or so I thought!  About 15-yards into the final 25, I completely stopped in the middle of my lane and popped my head up for a short break.  Almost in rhythm of me taking that needed gasp of air, I look over to the side of the pool and my father is saying, “Get your tail to the end of that pool now!”  Needless to say, God gave me the needed shot of adrenaline to forget that I could hardly breathe, and I made it to the wall in a matter of moments.

Sometimes in life we struggle with commitment…whether it’s temptation, worry, anxiety, fear, thinking you’re not good enough, or just being downright uncomfortable, we may get knocked off the path.  Don’t feel alone, everyone deals with similar feelings…but also remember, that if God calls you to a mission, He will empower you to follow through, with the needed strength and resources to carry out His work.  Commitment is hard, it’s difficult, it’s demanding, it often goes against what our flesh desires, and it’s something that we may shy away from when it requires a change of schedule or extra output of energy.  But you are here on this earth for a purpose, to carry the love of Christ to the world in your own unique and special way.  There are many people in this world who didn’t grow up going to church, and who don’t know Christ or what He did for them.  There are many people who’ve been hurt and are in need of the comforting message of Christ.  There are many people who are living in extreme guilt and need the forgiving message of Christ.  There are many people who came from a home filled with anger and abuse, and need the loving message of Christ.  Are you committed to bringing the message of love, hope and peace to the world today?  Are you committed to following Christ today, wherever, whenever and however He calls you?

Friday, August 24, 2018

A listening leader…

“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”   Philippians 2:3

I’ve had multiple conversations with people this week around the topic of where leadership and meeting the needs of people come together, and the same theme continues to come to the surface…LISTEN.  Listening works in everyday conversations, listening works when we’re problem solving, listening works when someone we love is going through a difficult time, and listening works when leading a group of people on a specific mission.  Continuing on a journey as a leader who disregards the thoughts of those who are following will most likely end in failure.  The leader needs to have a God-given vision for where they are heading, but God also works through the group to help the leader understand how to install that vision. 

I’ve seen two examples in the last few weeks of where a new leader has come into a business and dismantled the existing administrative structure, and completely ignored the opinions and thoughts of the current employees…and it hasn’t brought successful results.  Employees have left, customers have left, and the businesses seem to be lacking any sort of cohesiveness.  We are all leaders in some context within our own life, and the only way to lead is to first know your vision, but an immediate second is to listen to the people you are leading.  We all don’t grow up in the same culture, learn how to navigate challenges in the same way, or interpret success and failure in the same manner.  What looks good to you may look detrimental to another, what looks profitable to you may look like a waste of time and money to someone else.  We don’t need to adopt every single thought or principle that comes our way, but as we listen to others, we are able to see ways that we can adjust an approach or install an idea that will benefit the whole and move into the God-given vision.

Thursday, August 23, 2018

Money or Muster?

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”  Proverbs 16:3

Ever since I was a little boy, I was taught and shown that money, material possessions and societal status were “where it was at”.  These things were driven into my psyche to the point where I felt as an early college graduate that if they weren’t attained, I was some sort of failure.  This couldn’t be farther from the truth…and soon after hitting some extremely difficult times in my 20s, I not only realized that money shouldn’t be the top priority, but it shouldn’t be anywhere near the top of the list.  This doesn’t mean that jobs aren’t a priority, because it’s how we support ourselves and our families, and I also believe it’s a large part of our individual ministry.  But the slope can get slippery when you start working solely for the money or the status, rather than working to make an impact at your job, and in the lives of those you work with.   

Success is relative to the person and the position…and success is correlated to how well you muster up your energy, your motivation, your talents and your drive, as you walk with Christ.  Your success may bring you more money, or it may not.  Success may bring you accolades, or it may not.  Your success may never go unnoticed, or it may hardly ever be recognized, but the question is, “Who are you working for?”  Are you concerned with earthly rewards, or making our Creator smile upon your good deeds?  Money is extremely overemphasized, and the need to “muster up” your resources is extremely underrated.  May you gather together all your strength and wisdom through the Lord, and go out into this world striving to make a difference!

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Do you see the pattern?

To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”   Ephesians 4:22-24

2, 4, 6, 8…do you see the pattern?

Red, white, blue, red, white, blue…do you see the pattern?

Mistake, pain, bigger mistake, more pain, even bigger mistake, even more pain…do you see the pattern?

Mistake, pain, discern lesson from God, GROW, mistake, pain, discern lesson from God, GROW…do you see the pattern?

As humans, we’re made to see patterns in our lives, in the lives of others, and in the world…that’s the way we learn!  We can see them…but the real question is, are we intentional about recognizing those that are unhealthy for us, and changing our overall life pattern?

My entire reason for living is to serve God, my wife, my kids, my church family, my friends, and anyone that God brings into my life.  If there is any part of my life that becomes unhealthy or begins to “die”, I make a strong effort to either fix it or rid my life of it.  In all honesty, this has caused me much criticism from both family and friends, but we don’t know how long we have on this earth to serve the Lord, so why not make the best, and the most of our time here?  Be cognizant of your current patterns, and strive to keep the healthy ones, but do your best to rid your life of those that only hinder or harm. 

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Strive for maturity…

Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”  Matthew 5:48

Some mornings I feel like I’m walking around in super glue…like I can’t get anything done, and yesterday was one of those moments.  I got up around my usual time of 5:00-5:30, and spent my time in the Word and writing the morning devotional, and even got the girls up in time…but I just couldn’t seem to reach my goal of leaving the house by 8:00.  Somewhere between Laney and Edie waking up and us leaving the driveway, everything seemed to be moving at a snail’s speed, and I was nowhere close to hitting my target time of arrival at preschool. 

As I begin to think about the daily morning rush, I immediately go back to my days on the track team, and my goal each year to better my time in the one-mile run.  Whatever that goal-time was, I had lap-interval times that I had to meet in order to finish with that desired end time.  If I wasn’t able to hit the mark at the end of the first lap, I had to make up for the lag on the second…if I didn’t hit the mark at the end of the second lap, I had to make up for the lag on the third lap, and so on.  Most of the time if I didn’t hit my intervals on the first and second laps, I wasn’t going to achieve my goal for the race.  

The Greek word used in the above verse for “perfect” is “teleios”, which means complete, full-grown, consummation or reaching maturity.  In the context of Matthew 5:48, Jesus is talking about loving our enemies, but I believe we can carry this same theme and train of thought to every aspect of our lives.  If you are continuing to reach for “completeness” in Christ, you are striving to embody the character that Christ calls us to take to the world…a character indicative of love, forgiveness and grace, but also a character that meditates on His daily goals for our lives, and how we are to achieve them.  A strong follower of Christ doesn’t just live moment to moment without a plan, but moment to moment within a greater vision.  Strive to be mature in faith and in character.

Monday, August 20, 2018

All it takes is a simple act of kindness…

“Let all that you do be done in love.”  1 Corinthians 16:14

As Christians our mission is simple…carry the love of Christ to the world so that others may know Him through your witness…to make a Kingdom impact.  Yesterday after our Homecoming Service, I had a gentleman approach me during our fellowship meal and say, “Thank you all for hosting this service.  I haven’t been through the doors of a church in thirty years, and am so glad I came today.”  He went on to say how loved he felt at our church, and how much he felt God moving during the worship service.  As I myself felt blessed in that moment to hear how this gentleman (probably in his late 50s) was moved by the love of God through our church family, I began to reflect on how something so simple can be so powerful.

Anyone can ignore a phone call or text, anyone can keep walking when someone says hello, and anyone can ignore a hand extended for help, but we’re not only called to do the opposite as followers of Christ, but have faith that God will work through that interaction and ministry moment when we give unconditionally.  We don’t always see the results of our service to others, but we don’t serve to get an earthly reward, we serve in hopes that lives will be changed through Christ.  Whether we know the innermost feelings of those we extend our loving hand to or not, we know that God works through love, and we know that God changes lives.  Keep serving others in the name of Christ, and have faith that every simple act of love can change the eternal course of someone’s life.

Friday, August 17, 2018

Stay in the moment…

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”   Romans 12:2

I was watching a special on the Navy SEALs yesterday, and the grueling process that entering candidates go through over the course of six months called BUD/S training, with the first eight weeks or Phase 1 being the toughest.  The SEALs are the special operations unit of the Navy, and the acronym stands for Sea, Air and Land teams.  Over 80% of Navy Seal candidates either quit or fail out of the program due to the extremely intense workouts, and many of those quit before the end of Phase 1 during “Hell Week” (there are three total phases). 

The training center is on the Pacific coast at Coronado, California, and the SEAL instructors routinely take full advantage of the frigid waters of the Pacific Ocean.  The candidates are physically and mentally tested, as they are required to either sit in the cold surf for long intervals of time or race boats out and back from the beach, where they often get flipped over by waves five to six feet high.  There are also obstacle courses, four-mile runs, beach-boat carries, and fifty-meter underwater swims, among other mentally taxing exercises.  These candidates are pushed far beyond what they thought they could ever deal with, and those that get pushed to the breaking point, proceed to a bell, sound it three times, and pack their bags.  The cameraman on the show would occasionally question the candidates throughout the course of the first weeks and their thoughts regarding the process, and the opinions varied greatly.  You could tell that some were barely hanging on mentally, some were keeping the theme of “just surviving” at the forefront of their minds, and a small contingent were positive and fairly calm.  As I listened to their comments about what kept them calm and always ready, was that their focus was solely on the present obstacle or what the SEALS call “evolutions”, and nothing else. 

We are susceptible to falling to the temptation to worry and fret about the future, but as followers of Christ, we know that God will absolutely provide the strength, the resources and the love to not just survive daily challenges, but thrive in a way that impacts others for the Kingdom!  You may be going through something difficult right now, or you may know something difficult is coming in the future, but stay in the moment and watch how God “knocks it out of the park” through your service!

Thursday, August 16, 2018

How do we grow?

“And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.”  Colossians 1:9-10

I’ve gotten this question many times since being in the ministry, and it’s a question I’ve asked myself as well, but I always come back to the same answer…”How can I grow closer to Christ?”  It’s often asked when someone is in the midst of an extremely difficult time, or hitting an impasse with a current challenge.  First of all, I always affirm the fact that the person is asking the right question, because Christ is the only way, as He says in John 14:6, “I am the way and the truth and the life.”  Choosing to ask Christ how to proceed is the best and only choice you should be making every day, regardless of the life situation.  But herein lies one of the greatest struggles for every Christian, to go to Christ in the difficult times, AND, when things are going well. 

So back to that answer about how to grow in Christ…look to Him in the difficult times, the sad times, the frustrating times, the confusing times, the times where no answer can be found…AND, look to Him when you are experiencing joy, when you receive an answer to prayer, when you are blessed by a friend, when your child tells you they love you…ALWAYS look to Christ!  How do we stay on this path?  Through continual reading of The Word, through prayer, and by looking for ways to use the gifts God has given you each day!  It’s not complicated, but it takes an intentional heart…a heart that receives love from God to give to the world!

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Working in faith…faith growing in us

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”  Hebrews 11:1

In the words of our revival pastor last night, “If you could see it, there would be no need for faith.”

We want to know the next move God has for our family, we want to know when the job is coming down the pike, we want to know how it is that we’re going to pay the bills, we want to know how the plan that the doctor is laying out for us is actually going to work.  These questions are natural, and good, and right to ask, but are we asking them so much that we are worried and concerned about them throughout all of our days until they are answered?  To add, some of our questions and prayer requests may go months and years before we receive any answer. 

Just like a runner who trains for a race, a CEO that prepares for an important board meeting, or a doctor that puts together a team for a surgery, all of us must do our best to present the need to God through prayer, and then continue to work and prepare ourselves and our heart as we await the answer.  Only God knows the best time to give us the answers to our prayers, so we must trust Him as we move forward in our walk with Christ.  Maybe there’s a point we need to see and understand, a lesson we need to learn, someone in our life that needs to hear something through our witness, or maybe we just need to lean and depend on God more…whatever the reason, we must have faith that God knows best for us.  He created us, He loves us, and provides for our every need, so let us not stop working for Him with all of our heart as we await the answers to our prayers…this is where our faith grows.

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Turn to God in the storm…

So do not fear, for I am with you;
    do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.   Isaiah 41:10

Last night was our first night of revival, and what a great night it was!  I invited a dear friend of mine who I’ve known for years to preach all three nights, and he was so gracious to accept, and just knocked it out of the park last night!  The congregation responded well, and was energetic, enthusiastic, and in the theme of the week, revived!  The pastor spoke about God delivering us during desperate times…preaching about those situations in our life when it seems that every direction we attempt to walk in appears blocked, and we’re at a complete loss for how to proceed.  Which way do we go?  How do we get to a point of clarity?  How do I find peace in this moment of extreme anxiety and fear?

These questions have most likely been asked by every human being at some point in their lives, and possibly even multiple times.  The questions are indicative of a time in our life with no clear, direct answer, but the most important part of these “valleys” of life is, “How are you proceeding?”  Are you turning to some worldly antidote to combat or move through this time, or are you turning to the One who brings spiritual and emotional healing?  Not knowing brings us anxiety, especially when it comes in the midst of an extreme struggle, but may we put our hope in God knowing that He will show you the way, and He will bring you peace within the storm. 

Monday, August 13, 2018

Unwavering focus…

Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.”  Proverbs 4:25

Brooks Koepka won the PGA Championship yesterday, which is his third major win in his last six starts in a major tournament.  In sports’ world talk, he’s simply on fire, and he’s like Iceman in Top Gun, “Ice cold, no mistakes”.  I grew up playing golf as a kid, and have always been an avid fan of the sport, and have come to appreciate great golf when I see it.  To me, golf is probably the toughest “mental sport” there is…it’s all individual, so when a golfer is having a bad day, the focus is solely on that player, and not a teammate or an entire team.  For a lot of golfers, it’s also difficult to move on to the next shot or the next hole immediately after hitting an errant shot, and making a bad score on the prior hole. 

Focus, focus, focus…the game of golf certainly is a physical one, but I firmly believe it’s seventy to eighty percent mental.  One ounce of doubt or fear will most definitely impact your game, but full confidence in ability and feel for the course will translate into a low (good) score.  Brooks’ commented yesterday that he didn’t know where it came from, but his focus has been strong and dialed in throughout the entire tournament.  He didn’t smile much, he didn’t chat a lot with his playing partner Adam Scott, and he didn’t show much emotion…but again, his focus was solely on the game, and it led him to victory. 

I could write all day on the distractions that we face in this lifetime that can and do take us away from our walk with Christ…they come in all forms and in all situations.  But if we can “dial in” to God’s plan for our life in each moment, we are able to feel His love, His forgiveness, His mercy, His grace, and understand His plan for our lives.  Also remember, whatever you need to do His will, He will provide, all we have to do is ask.  Focus your entire being on Him today, and watch how He guides you to victory…to helping others in Jesus’ name.

Friday, August 10, 2018

Give it your best shot…

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God--this is your true and proper worship.”  Romans 12:1

The media constantly pushes the message of material attainment and some sort of perfection in personal appearance…that we are in some way better off if we gain worldly goods and “look cool”.  This couldn’t be any father from the message of Christ and how we are called to live our lives, and direct our focus.  Jesus loves us for the beautiful person that we are, the person He has created us to be, and as we strive to do God’s will, we are forgiven of our sin as we walk with Christ.

Also, if we follow the ways of the world, we most definitely miss opportunities of spiritual blessings and growth.  Yesterday morning my youngest daughter of three, Edie (3), spilled her yogurt drink for the second morning in a row, and both times were as we were walking out of the door.  She initially ran to the other room in shame and embarrassment before I could tell her it was ok, that it was just an accident.  On our ride to school, her older sister Laney (5) asked me to tell them “my story” of a time when I messed up.  I was immediately taken aback by her request…I almost couldn’t believe her mind was that far ahead of the situation.  I began to tell them my “stories”, to which they had a hundred questions and we all had a lot of laughter.  

God gave me such a blessing in that ride to school…He taught me that if I give my all to slowing my heart and mind down, I can see the beauty in simple, but powerful revelations in every relationship.  It’s not about looking cool or having a bunch of stuff…it’s about being in relationship with Christ…it’s about seeing and hearing God in every moment, no matter how big or small.

Thursday, August 9, 2018

Give it your best shot…

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God--this is your true and proper worship.”   Romans 12:1

Olympians don’t practice just a couple days a week, or eat according to a strict meal plan just once a day.  They consistently get up at dawn to perfect their craft and train their bodies so that they can compete and become victorious over the best athletes in the world.  Surgeons don’t begin an operation without first knowing the particular case and how best to perform the procedure.  The most effective people in every area of life have one main attribute in common…they all strive to be at their best daily.

Why get up today and not care about where you go or what you do?  Why leave your house and pass by people who need your help?  What purpose would there be to not working to your most effective level at your job today? 

As Christians we are called to live sacrificially…to give our all so that others may grow spiritually and the Kingdom of God may be impacted.  Make it your goal to live into God’s will for your life today…and truly live into it by giving it your best effort.

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

The little things…

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”   Matthew 6:33

You’ve probably heard it a million times, but I believe wholeheartedly in the saying, “It’s the little things that matter.”  Of course this doesn’t take away from those big moments of life, but the mountaintop milestones don’t come around every day…but small interactions and opportunities to pass and receive love are always there.  The words of Christ above in Matthew reflect upon the theme of worrying, and how there isn’t any need or place for it, but often times we run around daily stressing about what happened, what didn’t happen, or what may happen in the future.  Jesus tells those who follow Him that He will provide food, something to drink, and clothes…and much more! 

But the key is that you “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness.” 

I certainly have my own personal struggles, but I will add that they don’t prohibit me from striving to do my best every day to impact someone’s life…and I believe that the best way to do this is by paying attention to every single person, every single gesture, and every single step that I take.  In doing this, God enables me to see things I wouldn’t normally see if I rushed through the sixteen or seventeen hours that I’m awake each day.  To add, isn’t it cool that Jesus uses small creatures and objects like birds, flowers, grass to illustrate His point?  All things that are numerous in the world, things that we may not give a ton of thought to…but yet, they are all taken care of!

Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Feeling God’s heart…

After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’   Acts 13:22

I’ve known my wife for almost eight years now, and I’m still learning more and more about her heart each and every day.  God allows me the opportunity to continually see what drives her, what brings her joy, and what brings her comfort…what composes her heart.  There’s absolutely no way that I could grow in a relationship with her if I shut the door to learning more about her and to understanding ways that I could partner with her each day.  The same goes for our relationship with God.

There are many things in this world that can easily consume our attention and focus if we allow them to…stress, anxiety, fear, worry, anger, and temptations.  We are human beings, so it’s natural to have these feelings within us, but instead of giving them attention, strive to better know the heart of God, which is full of peace, understanding, patience, mercy, grace, forgiveness and love.  In doing so, you can begin to see, hear and feel God more in your life, and the things of this world will grow strangely dim.

Monday, August 6, 2018

Knowing the mission…

“Declare his glory among the nations, his marvelous works among all the peoples!”  1 Chronicles 16:24

Every decision that you make in life should line up with a particular end goal, or mission.  Where are you driving, what are you making the drive for, and do you really need to drive there?  What are you spending your money on, and does it really need to be spent?  How are you using your free time during the day…is it for productive growth or endless hours on social media?

Every decision that you make should be working toward strengthening your walk with Christ or the walk of others.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun, spend time online or purchase items for your latest hobby…but it does mean that it should all line up with the path God is laying before you.  Sure, Jonah taking a vacation in Tarhsish probably wouldn’t have been a problem normally, but at that specific time, God called him to go to Nineveh, so it didn’t align with God’s will.  If you don’t have thirty minutes to use surfing the net, then don’t surf the net…until you have that time.  If you feel God is calling you to pick up the phone when someone calls for help, then pick up the phone even if you don’t feel like it…and your time to rest will have to wait.   

Knowing your overall mission and purpose for God everyday should be what drives you…not the things of this world.  Money, authority, social media, and opinions or praises of others shouldn’t be the determining factor in how you spend your time and your energy, but instead the will of God working through the Holy Spirit.  These things are certainly part of your life, but don’t allow them to take the lead…you are on mission for God!

Friday, August 3, 2018

Don’t stop…

“pray without ceasing,”   1 Thessalonians 5:17

When you’re hungry, you won’t stop pursuing food until your stomach is full.  When you’re swimming under water and run out of breath, you won’t stop pursuing the surface to refill your lungs with air until you take that first breath.  When you desire for a relationship to survive, you don’t stop finding ways to work through the challenges and strengthen the bond.  The same principle goes for our walk with Christ, and following the needs and desires He places upon our hearts.

Fourteen years ago I walked away from a marriage that was failing…and failing for many reasons.  There was something toward the end that “iced” things over, but to be honest, it didn’t have a strong foundation.  Our vision for what a marriage was to be and looked like were polar opposites from the beginning…one included Christ and the Church, and one didn’t.  At the age of 25, I became a single Dad trying to find my way, and I would do so for the next five years before truly understanding my purpose and calling in the ministry…and that’s a separate story.  My main concern since becoming divorced was that my daughter Emma (one at the time and fifteen now), would come to know Christ at some point…but it looked bleak considering her mother didn’t go to church, and I only had her every other weekend, and quite a bit less now that she is a teenager. 

I can’t tell you the number of times that I’ve prayed about this topic and about Emma’s spiritual well-being.  For fourteen long years I have prayed, and prayed and prayed some more.  Just two days ago, I got a text from her telling me that her new (and first) boyfriend took her to church last week, and she thoroughly enjoyed it!  The fact that she went, the fact that she enjoyed it, and the fact that she desired to share it with me was a complete miracle and act of God.  It may look insignificant to the average person that she simply attended a church service, but to me, God heard my prayers.  I have prayed that God would work through someone in her life, that He would bring someone in “at a different angle”…and man how He answered!  Some prayers are answered in minutes, some in weeks, but it may be years for others.  If God lays something on your heart, don’t stop praying about it!

Thursday, August 2, 2018

A relationship with God…

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.”  2 Corinthians 12:9

The movement of the Holy Spirit in our lives isn’t always going to inject you with a “mountaintop” feeling…meaning walking with God isn’t always going to give you “happy feelings”.  Our relationship with the Creator is similar or parallel to what a parent-child relationship should be…which is full of love, joy and support, but it’s also one of discipline, consequences and conviction.  A good parent will always instill “tough love” when the child begins to stray, but will follow it up with encouragement and support.  When we fall away as Christians, God has a unique way of bringing us back to the path we’re supposed to be walking on…if we are seeking Him.

My prayer every single day is to refine my focus and strengthen my walk with Christ, and God continually answers that prayer…the thing is, it doesn’t always come in the form I’d like it to!  As an aside, when you pray for something, don’t be surprised when it gets answered!  As God answers my prayer for a stronger walk with Him, I’m forced to deal with the weaker areas in my life, or the areas where I’m falling away.  When this happens, it’s no fun, and it brings pain…but again, it’s my prayer because I want to get better in my witness for Him every day. 

A relationship with God is full of love, peace, joy, encouragement, support, struggle, heartache, conviction, discipline, and much more.  If you desire to grow, don’t be surprised when He pushes you to your limits, and to the point where you are completely dependent on Him…because that’s where we should be.

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Follow through…

“May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy,”  Colossians 1:11

I started playing golf around the age of 12, as I would often just walk onto the tee box directly behind our house after school to get a couple holes in before dark.  My grandfather who lived on the next street over played almost daily, so he would occasionally invite me along for a quick lunch and eighteen holes.  As any grandfather would do, he enjoyed giving me feedback on my swing and telling me how I could improve my game.  He dished out multiple pieces of advice over the years, but one thing has always stuck…follow through on the chip shot.

Chipping and putting is often where professional golfers win a tournament, or put themselves too far out of contention to take home a victory.  I believe the “short game” is a tough one to conquer because it takes a lot of patience, focus and finesse.  Many people including myself, often scald or “blade” a chip, knocking the ball several yards past the pin on the green, or not finishing the shot and “duffing” it just a couple feet ahead.  My grandfather always taught me to only pull back as much as you need, but always, always follow through.  This tip hasn’t put me on the PGA Tour, but it has improved my golf game quite a bit over the years. 

Today you will encounter many decisions and many opportunities to share the Gospel through your actions and words.  As you come upon these moments, you must also decide how much time and energy you’ll devote to the situation.  Too much continual high use of energy will wear you out, and not enough energy and focus could cause you to miss an opportunity.  Not every situation requires the same attention, or amount of attention.  God will place you in multiple sacred moments today involving your own personal life, and that of others…and you want to make sure that you have the energy and focus to serve fully in each interaction.  The only way to do this is to follow the moving of the Spirit with each step of your day…to be completely dependent on God.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

The comfort of prayer…

Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.”  Jeremiah 33:3

When I worked as a chaplain during my first year of seminary, I got to experience things that I’ve never experienced before with people.  God allowed me the opportunity to share His love with families during some extremely difficult moments…moments that cannot even be put into words.  I sat with families as their children fought chronic illnesses, with adults who suffered depression to the point of not being able to utter a single word, with fathers who lost children and a spouse in a car accident, with shooting victims who were hanging onto their life, hoping to see their loved ones again.  This calling was like none I had ever walked into before, and I took so much from being a chaplain that informs my ministry today.

In addition to these very difficult and sacred moments with people, I also made many visits with people who were in the hospital for minor injuries and illnesses, who would end up leaving in just a day or two.  But there was something that all the patients I sat with had in common…the need and desire for prayer.  I didn’t offer prayer every single time I visited with the patient, because every situation didn’t offer me the opportunity to do so.  But on average, I offered prayer in about 90% of the visits I made, and from that 90% almost every single person accepted the gift of prayer. 

It didn’t matter if the person was a Christian or not, it didn’t matter if they attended church every Sunday or hadn’t been to church for several years…they showed a strong desire to hear from the One who heals and brings comfort.  Prayer is your line of communication with your Maker…leave it open, and use it to convey your thankfulness and your needs.  He hears, He brings comfort, He brings peace, He loves you!

Monday, July 30, 2018

Wait…and work

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”  Galatians 6:9

I was recently listening to an interview of Blake Shelton, conducted by Willie Geist of the Today Show, and it covered just about every topic and issue Blake has gone through in his career.  They spoke of his current relationship with Gwen Stefani, who was the lead singer of the band No Doubt, and co-judge on the Voice with Blake.  Willie touched a lot on Blake’s career on the Voice, and how it has boosted his notoriety not just in country music, but for people in general all over the world.   Blake is now going on seventeen consecutive number one country single hits, and he attributes a lot of his success to the Voice.

But something that I’ve hung onto from the interview is how Blake got his initial start in country music way back in 1994, which Willie seemed to come back to through his questioning again and again.  He wanted his listeners to see and hear how much hard work, and faith, that it took for Blake to come to Nashville at seventeen years old, stay the course, and eventually find his place.  He came in 1994, but didn’t cut his first single until 2001, and didn’t make it big until the launch of the Voice in 2011.  So when doing the math, it took seven long years for Blake to find any semblance of a career in country music, and then it was another ten years for him to be pushed into the limelight through the avenue of television, which has brought him more success than he ever imagined. 

As Christians, we walk by faith, and as we walk and wait, we must get to work.  Blake mentioned that he felt like giving up in the days before his first single was cut in 2001, but he kept working and kept pushing toward the goal…and it paid off.  As we walk, wait, and work, we may not be striving for tv, radio or internet success, but we may be attempting to find a solution, a plan or the clarity for the path ahead.  Remember, as you walk in faith, you must wait…but don’t stop working!

Friday, July 27, 2018

What generosity looks like…

“Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”    Luke 6:38

Generosity is indicative of a strong Christian…it’s part of their life.  It doesn’t matter if it involves time, energy, talents, money, listening, speaking…generosity in all forms comes instinctively to those whose life is dedicated to the Son of God, the Savior of the world.  Generosity knows no boundaries when it comes to the giving of gifts and resources to another person…it jumps any societal hurdle or speed bump, and extends to anyone and everyone who has a need.

My family has been able to take our first family vacation because of the generosity of two wonderful, awesome people…complete unconditional generosity.  A pastor friend of mine owns a beach house on the coast of South Carolina, and it came up in conversation that Julie, the kids and I had never been away together before…and right away my friend said, “Well shoot, you can use our home anytime you want!”  I about started to cry on the phone, saying “Really?”  

There wasn’t one ounce of hesitation in his voice, and to add, there wasn’t a single condition added to the offer.  Julie and I have moved eight times in eight years, and each time it has set us back financially quite a bit, and not allowed us to have enough money to take a vacation…and this week, my friend jumped that problem for us in a split second.  He and his wife’s generosity have allowed God’s love to bless us in so many ways…moments spent together as a family, time to unwind and relax, and opportunities for the girls to experience the sand and the waves.  He and his wife’s generosity has been nothing but an example of the love Jesus calls us to show everyone…without condition.

Thursday, July 26, 2018

Getting outside of your comfort zone…

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”   Joshua 1:9

How many times in your life have you really gotten outside of your comfort zone?  It could have involved traveling to a new place or trying a new food, or maybe just being open to speaking with someone who doesn’t think like you.  I wouldn’t say that I go looking for places to make myself feel uncomfortable, but I do challenge myself to embrace new situations when God presents them, because with new situations come new knowledge, wisdom and understanding.  New scenarios and experiences expand your horizons!  I’ve sat with many people over the course of my ministry who love the Lord, but are opposed to trying anything different or new…anything that would go against their normal routine. 

You didn’t learn how to ride a bike until the training wheels came off, you didn’t understand how good the taste of pizza is until you took a bite, you didn’t know how your job would unfold until you started on the first day…but now you know how to ride a bike, how good a bite of pizza tastes, and how to do your job correctly and efficiently.  There’s no way that we can gather more wisdom for our path if we’re not open to the journey.  It’s up to you each day as you make hundreds of what you may think are “tiny” decisions…but in the end could make an enormous impact for God.

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Confidence in our relationship with Christ…

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”  Hebrews 11:1

As we live in faith, we walk trusting God will lead us through anything and everything we go through…He will grant strength where needed, install hope when things appear bleak and grim, give guidance when the way gets confusing, and bestow clarity when the path veers off in multiple directions.  Walking in faith means we often don’t know the way or the solution ahead of time, and within the same thread, walking in faith also means that we may not feel “settled”, or comfortable with the current situation of not knowing.  In short, walking in faith isn’t about feeling good according to the flesh, but feeling confident in our relationship with Christ, knowing that He is there and will hold our hand even when our flesh may be struggling with the unknown.

Strong faith is strong confidence in Christ knowing what’s best for you.  You have faith in your car to get you safely from place to place each day…you have faith that the food you purchase in a restaurant is healthy and uncontaminated…you have faith that the doctor will diagnosis your illness and install the proper treatment…you have faith that your friends today will be your friends when you wake up the next day.  Each of these earthly examples allow us to see how many things of this world that we put faith in, and don’t even realize it, but yet we sometimes don’t have that same confidence in our walk with our Maker and Creator of the universe!  God is your Father, He loves you more than you can put into words, and He sent His Son to die for you so that you may live! 

Have faith in that!

Tuesday, July 24, 2018

The Body of Christ…

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.  Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.”  Acts 2:42-47

I just got home last night around midnight from a 24-hour trip back from Europe, where God stretched and tugged and pulled and poked my comfort zone in ways I’ve never experienced before.  I stayed in new places, met new people who spoke different languages, ate new food, traveled through three new countries, and preached and taught in a different culture…I was absolutely and completely out of my norm, but I was absolutely and completely blessed by God.

I was called to this mission trip by God to preach and teach to various Mongolian church congregations in Austria and the Czech Republic.  I was led around to these churches for nine days through Europe by a pastor named Tugsuu, who simultaneously leads all of them, totally twenty-eight in all!  From the first moment we met at the airport, Tugsuu treated me like a brother, a true brother in the faith.  His family and the Mongolian people always made me feel like I was part of the family…it reminded me so much of the early church in the Book of Acts.  They embraced me with hugs, plates of healthy and tasty food, space in their home to rest, and a pulpit where I was free to tell the message God gave me each day.  Their level of hospitality was something I never experienced before…but the beauty of it was that it comforted me nonstop as I ventured into arenas where I had never been.

I think a lot of us (including myself) are afraid to try anything new, even if it’s just a new dish in a restaurant or a new movie…but think bigger, much bigger.  Is God tugging on your heart to try a new approach to life, to work, to friendships, to church service?  Is God calling you out on mission to a far-off place for a brief season, or permanently?  If you know me, you probably know I love trying new things, but this first international mission trip was extremely new to me in a way that caused me a little anxiety.  I had never organized a trip like this before, and I went halfway around the world by myself, and at times I felt fear creeping in…but I promised God I would continually lean on Him, and He provided!  In the midst of internal chaos, my heart was full, I was comforted, and most of all I felt loved…and it was all because of the hospitality of Tugsuu, his family and the many wonderful Mongolian church people.  Thanks be to God.

Friday, July 13, 2018

New experiences…

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 

1 Peter 4:10 

I’m headed out on my first international mission trip tonight, making my way to Vienna, Austria by dinnertime tomorrow.  I am extremely excited for the opportunity to experience a different culture and to also have the invitation to preach to various groups of Christians around Austria, who are the minority by far.  These nine days will be full of adventure, new people, new food, new patterns, and new churches…at times most likely taking me out of my comfort zone.  But the trip isn’t about me, but about doing my best to serve so that others may know Christ and grow in a relationship with Him.  The above verse doesn’t add “in your home country”, or “in your group of friends”, or “in your comfort zone”, but just says to “serve others”.  It’s extremely easy to stay within the walls of your own place and space, but God calls us to follow, however and wherever that may be, using the gifts He gives us to impact His Kingdom here on earth…go and use them!

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Casual structure…

“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”  Ephesians 5:15-17

We all need some semblance of structure in our lives in order to be productive in whatever it is that we set out to do each day.  If we wake up without any sort of plan, not only is time easily wasted, but we aren’t focused on where it is God is calling us to go, and with whom He is calling us to fellowship with.  Without a rough plan, we are simply being blown by the wind in random directions, and without a plan, it’s very hard to live out the purpose God is calling us to fulfill.  But there is also a flipside…don’t have so much structure in your life that you aren’t open to something new that God may bring your way!  A friend may text with a need in the middle of a busy morning, or a co-worker may need to sit down with you for a lunch to discuss a current problem, or a call may come in from an extended family member wanting to catch up about plans for the holidays.  If we install too much structure in our day, we may not respond to that text, tell our co-worker that we just don’t have the time, and ignore the call from that cousin of ours.  It all boils down to God’s will, and how He is calling us to live each day.  No structure leads to laziness and “random living”, and extreme structure leaves no room for adjustments…do your best to live with “casual structure”.

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Taking the time…

"Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”   Psalm 37:3-4

It’s like clockwork…each night we have to remind our girls that the only way they’ll get to the popsicle, is to finish the dinner in front of them.  They’re pretty good eaters, but like many kids get hooked on the idea of dessert before the chicken nuggets, yogurt and grapes get cleaned from the plate.  We often want the same as adults…to experience the end result without taking the journey that gets us there.  I’ve spent time with many people who have given their lives to Christ, but struggle to understand how God is directing them.  I’ll ask them, “Have you been spending time with God?” to which they’ll respond with “No.”  It’s impossible to know what God’s will is for your life if there’s no time spent in prayer and in the Word.  If you don’t ask, how can you expect an answer?  If you don’t communicate, how are you going to hear?  I’ve never met someone who didn’t want to know what was around the corner, who didn’t want to better understand their purpose.  But to receive clarity, you must take the time to build your relationship with God.  He wants to hear from you…are you talking, and are you listening?

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Don’t worry…spend time with God!

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?”  Matthew 6:25

It’s easy to get caught up in our heads, thinking about what happened in the past or concerned about what may happen in the future…causing stress and anxiety for ourselves that only brings us down and diminishes our witness.  We’re confronted with so many choices in life that it seems as though thinking and rethinking about all of the decisions we’ve made or need to make becomes second nature.  Christ tells us in scripture to not worry about our life, but instead calls us into a relationship with Him.  

Think of your closest and healthiest relationships in life…your spouse, your children, your friends…do you worry about every single decision you’ve made around them and with them, or do you communicate needs, make decisions and move on in faith?  The reason those relationships are healthy is due to the fact that you have chosen to be transparent, while also giving as much as you are able to the person…the same goes for our relationship with Christ!  Don’t concentrate on what you think you should have, shouldn’t have, or need to do…instead spend time with God and strengthen your relationship with Christ, and watch how your heart is led, instead of your head being worried.

Monday, July 9, 2018

He meets our every need…

 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.”  Ephesians 1:3

The other day after I finished my afternoon five-mile run in the ninety degree heat, I came back into the house, grabbed a bottled water and began to drink.  But because I was so thirsty I attempted to gulp the entire thing in just a few seconds, and like I’ve done a hundred times before, I drank too fast and some went down the wrong pipe.  Most of the time when this happens, like most people I cough a little and it’s cleared up in just a few moments.  Instead, in the moments following my initial realization that the water went into my lungs by accident, I began to struggle with breathing.  It was unlike any other time when this has happened…I literally couldn’t breathe and began wheezing heavily.  It was as if I was drowning without being anywhere near a body of water.  The more I tried to breathe deeply, the more I struggled to get any air up…and then the panic set in.  My lungs felt as though they had locked up and couldn’t purge the water back out, and as bad as this sounds, I began to prepare for the worst in my head.  I decided to make a last second effort to cough as deep and loud as I could to see if I could encourage the water to come back out, and it worked! 

I had to take a few minutes at the kitchen table to gather myself, and realize that God had provided me a way out in an extremely tense moment.  That six to eight second span of time reminded me to not take my time on this earth for granted, and that God is with me and with us through every struggle.  We all have tense moments in life, some are physical and some may involve a mental struggle, but whatever it is that you’re going through, God will provide blessings of peace, direction and clarity when the path ahead gets cloudy.

Friday, July 6, 2018

Get out there!

Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well.”   Ecclesiastes 11:6

It doesn’t matter if you live in the very hometown that you grew up in, or in a city that’s a thousand miles away from your place of origin.  It doesn’t matter if you live out in the country, or in the heart of a booming metropolis like New York City…you will continually be confronted with new situations, new challenges, and new opportunities to serve.  The tendency of the flesh at times in the presence of something new, is to keep homeostasis…to keep things “normal” and routine so that we don’t get overwhelmed, overburdened and thrown off our schedule.  But as we read throughout scripture, our goal shouldn’t be to keep our little area of life nice and tidy, but instead get out into this big world and experience life while serving others through our gifts.  Sure, people may disappoint us, and plans may fail, but from my experience, I’ve found that many more positives and new relationships have come from living into new situations.  As you remain open to new people and opportunities for service from morning till evening, you could be sowing seeds for Christ that through God’s power and love, will bloom into new life for others!

Thursday, July 5, 2018


Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.   Matthew 10:37-39

Walking with Christ and following Him through obedience will cost us something…it will cost us multiple things at times.  Following Christ will require sacrifice on our part…giving up things that we want, things that we think we need, even things that we love.  As a minister of the Gospel, I’ve had to leave things behind that were very dear to me in order to follow Christ.  I’ve lost friendships, I’ve had multiple family relationships broken apart, I’ve been poor, my wife and I have routinely been excluded from events because of being a ministry family, and most of all, the relationship with my oldest daughter is barely functional because of moves I’ve made for ministry.  I don’t regret making a single change in my life in order to follow God’s call for my life. 

Is it painful at times?…sure.  Does it cause stress to my family?…sure.  Does it feel like I’m on an island at times?…absolutely.  But God doesn’t call us to live a life of luxury and comfort, He calls us to serve.  The life of a devoted Christian will require sacrifice…and at times it will be beyond any pain you’ve ever experienced, but if you love Him more than anything, that pain won’t harm you, but instead bring you closer to God.  Remember, Christ gave it all when He died for you.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Extend some grace…

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,”   Ephesians 2:8 

We’re called to love with the unconditional, forgiving love that Christ gives us.  If we struggle to follow God’s call to love others through our gifts in the various situations where we are placed, we are certainly going to struggle with the forgiveness part.  Along with forgiveness, we are called to be gracious to others, to love them while allowing them to be themselves without judgment.  We all struggle, we all make mistakes and we all do things that we wish could be taken back, but through Christ, we are forgiven, and saved by God’s grace through faith.  When others don’t follow through as they say they will, give them grace.  When others don’t meet the expectation they promised they would, give them grace…because God gives us all grace in our relationship with Him through Christ.  Don’t rush to judgment, condemnation, criticism and anger, but instead understand that we all make mistakes, and that we are called to give others the grace that we receive from our Father.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Giving beyond what’s expected…

For I testify that they gave as much as they were able, and even beyond their ability.”   2 Corinthians 8:3

Someone needs our time, but we choose to ignore the call…someone needs some financial help, and we shell out a few bucks…someone needs a word of encouragement, but we don’t feel encouraged ourselves, so we act as though we didn’t hear the request.  These are responses that one gives if they live according to the world, following the flesh. 

Someone needs an hour of our time, so we give them a day…someone needs help paying a bill, so we give them enough to pay it for two months…someone needs motivation, so we spend hours over lunch talking about life and ways to move forward with God’s joy.  These are the responses of someone who walks with Christ, and gives beyond their ability, as did those in Macedonia according to the words of Paul.  You have a choice each day as to how much of yourself that you give…don’t just give to meet the need, give to exceed the need.

Friday, June 29, 2018

Going the extra mile…

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”   Philippians 2:4

It was about 4:30 and I was making my way down the hill to the studio to pick up my middle daughter from her weekly art lesson.  Before I made it to the door, she popped out, ran to me and embraced me with a smile, telling me how much fun she had.  Just a few moments later her friend came out as well with a pink popsicle, reminding my daughter to come back and get her end-of-class treat.  This other student wasn’t required to look after my daughter or get her the treat, but she knew that Laney liked pink popsicles, so she took it upon herself to grab one for her.  We get busy, we get stressed, and at times get overwhelmed…which can all affect our witness and our ability to meet the needs of others.  Allow God to provide for you throughout your day today, so that through His power you may be able to provide for others.

Thursday, June 28, 2018

Digging deeper…

Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.”    

1 Peter 4:12-13 

It may be a reaction at times to pull back, disengage or lessen the effort when life gets challenging and situations become difficult.  In those moments, stress and anxiety can make their way into our souls, polluting our witness and “taking us out of the game.”  When we allow fear to infiltrate our lives, it’s very easy for the fear to guide our lives, run our lives and conduct how and where we engage others.  Fear is natural for any human being…we all experience fear, but the question is, are you allowing fear to dictate the direction of your life?  When times get difficult and the road begins to curve, acknowledge the fear, but also press even harder into God’s will, knowing that whatever is needed He will provide.

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Follow through…

Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”  Proverbs 16:3

Throwing a baseball, football or Frisbee…swinging a tennis racket, baseball bat or golf club…follow through is the most important part, and without it the object being thrown or hit could fly off in a random direction.  Finishing the throw or swing is essential to getting the object to the desired location or person in an accurate manner.  In life, we communicate with others constantly, which seems to be more over social media and text rather than face-to-face, but communication is a large part of our lives.  Through that communication, we commit to plans, we amend plans and we completely change plans based on our needs and that of our families.  But the key is not only to make the plans, but to follow through or carry out the plans.  Making a plan, but not following through breaks trust with another person, and doesn’t harbor a strong relationship going forward.  People are busy and time management is extremely important, and not following through on one occasion could hinder a relationship that you have worked hard to build…a relationship where you are able to share life with another person, and the love of Christ.  Make plans, and amend them if needed, but always follow through with what you’ve committed to…it keeps bridges built and relationships strong.

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

A simple “no”…

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”  2 Timothy 1:7

Growing up in the late 80s and early 90s, I was exposed to the D.A.R.E. program in middle and high school.  It was a program that combatted the drug epidemic, and the goal was to encourage children and youth to “Just Say No”.  D.A.R.E. stood for Drug Abuse Resistance Education, and our school system placed posters all over the walls in support of the program, while also requiring us to go through a D.A.R.E. curriculum with a local police officer.  The point of the entire program was to encourage children and youth to say no if someone approached them with drugs…a simple, but firm “No”.   

We are presented with things each day that could potentially harm our personal lives and our spiritual walk…worry, fear, temptation, anger…the list goes on and on.  As Christians, with the Holy Spirit guiding us, we know what’s good for us and what could potentially harm us, and we must be prepared to say no to what doesn’t line up with God’s will for our life. 

Monday, June 25, 2018

Partners in the Gospel…

As God's co-workers we urge you not to receive God's grace in vain.” 2 Corinthians 6:1

Paul uses the term “co-workers” as he begins to tell those in Corinth about his great struggles and hardships that he’s incurred while preaching the Gospel, so that others may know Christ and His love.  The Greek word sunergeó is used, which means to work together or cooperate.  As Christians, we must not forget that we are a part of the Body of Christ, and no one person or one set of gifts is better than the other.  We are all family…brothers and sisters pushing forward, together, each day so that we will grow stronger in our faith and that others may come to know Him through our witness.  You will incur hardships and extremely difficult times, but we must support one another through our challenges so that our witness does not fall away.  Also, continuing to serve God and live with joy during the valleys of life signifies to others that there is something different about us…it is Christ in us!

Friday, June 22, 2018

God’s beautiful surprises…

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”  Isaiah 55:8-9

We were finishing up our final full night of Vacation Bible School last night, prior to our closing ceremony and ice cream social tonight.  After we all came together for the closing worship and sang the first song, we went right into a time of invitation for all to come, believe in, and follow Jesus.  I spoke for about ten minutes on Christ’s sacrifice and love for us as the kids held glow sticks in the darkness of the sanctuary in a brief moment of silence.  Following the time of reflection, we sang our final song of the evening, and as the music began to play I looked down and my youngest, Edie, who is three, is at my feet holding her arms up for me to pick her up.  As I lean down and lift her up, she says, “I want to hug Jesus…I need Him.”   

Edie may not fully understand the concept of salvation, but I believe she knows Jesus and she feels His love in her heart.  What happened last night was something that I didn’t expect to happen for several years, but God had other plans, and I’m extremely joyful for it!  There may be times when we place limits on our lives and the lives of others, forgetting that the Maker of the universe is in control…all we have to do is yield to His will.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

Step into it…

May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy,”   Colossians 1:11

I’ve played tennis since I was a little boy, and received my first lessons at the age of 10 by a family friend.  Later on, I played on the high school team and did fairly well, but don’t think I ever reached my full potential as a player.  There were multiple reasons, but one of them was that I consistently played off my back foot, which in sports is a no-no!  Anytime you’re swinging a bat, club or racket, the weight needs to be transferred from the back foot to the front to maximize your power as you swing through the shot.  I was able to compensate for this loss of power with a strong upper body, but I still didn’t reach my max potential because I never broke the bad habit of playing off of my back foot.  

There may be times when you “ease into the day”, or “tip-toe into a situation”…it could be worry, it could be the unknown or it could be that you simply don’t want to engage in the situation.  Whatever the reason may be, it hinders you from “transferring the weight from the back to the front foot”, which in the spiritual sense means, allowing God to fully use you.  When you approach a sensitive or difficult situation today, allow God to move through you and use you to your fullest potential as you carry out your ministry for Him, making an impact for the Kingdom.

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

What’s most important…

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”   Luke 10:41-42

 Martha was more concerned about cleaning up the house and getting the meal ready for Jesus and His disciples, instead of pausing for a moment to truly understand that the Son of God was in her presence, carrying a message of forgiveness, salvation and eternal life.  We see through the words of Jesus that Martha was “worried and upset about many things”, but that her sister Mary went right to the feet of Jesus upon His arrival, so that she could hear every word. 

Preparing a home for a guest isn’t a bad thing, especially when it’s for the Son of God!  But many times in life, we can get so bogged down and worried about checking boxes and making things look a certain way that our focus isn’t on Christ, but on worldly tasks.  At the end of this story, we see that Martha wasn’t only distracted by the initial preparations, but that she was upset that her sister Mary wasn’t helping…so her worry spilled over into her relationship not just with her sister, but with Christ.  When we get distracted by routines and checking boxes, it will hinder our relationship with others as well as our Lord and Savior.  May your actions be an outpouring of God’s will for your life, and not a self-generated to do list.

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Join in!

The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."   Deuteronomy 31:8

Often times in life we feel like we need to bring God into a situation, and we forget that He’s already working before we get there!  We are called to shine our light before others…to bring the light of Christ to the world and into each moment of the day, but we can’t forget that God, the Creator of the universe, has already been working prior to you going through that door, sending that text, making that phone call, or sitting down for that meeting. 

The people in the situations you walk into may not be following God, and sometimes not believe in Him, but it doesn’t mean that God’s presence isn’t already there…the people you are ministering to may just not being acknowledging it, or that Christ is Lord and Savior of their life.  God is omnipresent, meaning He is everywhere at the same time…let us not forget this as we go out into this day serving Him.  He is there and He will help you through every situation.

Monday, June 18, 2018

Moving on…

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”   Philippians 3:13-14

We certainly can’t disregard our past, because it’s what has made us who we are today…the great times as well as the difficult times.  There are also wonderful memories that we hold onto from our past, moments that bring us a smile or a laugh as we think back.  But there is one instance where looking back to our past can be detrimental to our future…and that’s when we look back through the “lens of worry”.  As we journey through life, we will make mistakes…it’s inevitable.  We can learn from them and move on, or we can worry about why we did or didn’t do something, and hold up or pause our present ministry in the current situation.  Keep the great memories of life close to your heart, learn from your mistakes, and keep moving into the next moment and ministry of the day.  In Christ, we are forgiven of our sins and loved unconditionally…take joy from that and keep moving forward!

Friday, June 15, 2018

His love never fails…

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.”   1 Corinthians 13:4-8a 

God’s love is unconditional and eternal…it’s always present in our lives as followers of Christ, and it never fails.  It doesn’t matter how much you mess up, God never leaves you and His love is always with you.  I was speaking with another pastor the other day who’s been in the ministry for thirty years, and he said that maturity in the faith takes a lifetime…and that is so true.  We never stop learning, we never stop growing, and our life is full of ups and downs that test our appreciation for what God has done in our lives, and also our obedience when we struggle.  The passage about love in 1 Corinthians 13 is often read at weddings, but it’s something we should go back to time and time again, as it reminds us of God’s love for us, as well as the love we are to give others.

Thursday, June 14, 2018

Have you asked God?

The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way;”   Psalm 37:23

You may feel pulled in a thousand different directions today, but have you asked God where you are to go?  How you are to use your energy?  There’s much work to be done for the Kingdom, but where and how we serve is based on our call by God, how He has gifted us, and where He has placed us.  You have a special purpose and place to serve in this day, but you must first ask God to direct your path so that your gifts and energy are used in the most efficient way.  As you go forth today, ask God for clarity on how and where you are to serve, and I pray that He will bless your journey with strength, peace, wisdom and love so that others may know Him through your witness.

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Give thanks…

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”            1 Thessalonians 5:18

Give thanks to God in all that you do, and be grateful for all that He has done, is doing, and will continue to do for you.  In this way you are acknowledging that God provides for you in all situations, guides you in challenging times and encourages you when you may feel like quitting.  Giving thanks to God enables you to live with joy that only He gives, and that joy is reflected upon all who come into contact with you, allowing them to see Christ in you. 

Start every prayer and every day by giving thanks, and watch how your outlook changes…in the high moments of life you feel extremely blessed, in the lower moments of life you feel taken care of, and when things seem to get mundane, you find purpose.  Giving thanks leads to a life driven by joy, and a joy-filled life is one that can make a strong impact for the Kingdom.

Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Keep it simple…

And this is love, that we walk according to his commandments; this is the commandment, just as you have heard from the beginning, so that you should walk in it.”   2 John 1:6

K.I.S. – Keep it simple...an acronym that I learned from my very wise wife. 

There’s no need to complicate situations in life, especially when we have several situations and decisions confronting us every single day.  Also, adding more to a challenging moment than it needs only brings stress upon yourself and others that are involved.  I’ve learned over the course of my life that God has a purpose and a plan for our lives, but we must believe in Christ and follow Him to see it, understand it, and live it out.  In terms of that purpose, I like to think of it as a box that I’m to operate in, because a box has four sides, or boundaries.  Those boundaries give me a sense of “extent of call”, meaning the box I operate “in” each day is based on how God is directing me.  This doesn’t mean that I don’t “think outside of the box”, but I also stay “within my box”.

I don’t want to venture outside of the boundaries that God gives me each day because I’ll encroach upon someone else’s work, or over-function myself and use energy up in places where it will be wasted away.  This goes for speaking, listening, calling, emailing, meeting, writing, building, etc.  It doesn’t matter what the situation is, we need to do our best to “keep it simple”, and do our individual jobs each day, and leave what’s outside of your boundaries to someone else.  Doing this will help you simplify your life, conserve your energy, and make a stronger impact for the Kingdom!

Monday, June 11, 2018

Stand up for what’s right…

“The time is coming when I will cut short your strength and the strength of your priestly house, so that no one in it will reach old age, and you will see distress in my dwelling.”     1 Samuel 2:31-32a

Eli’s two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, were openly and bolding sinning by taking portions of the sacrificial offerings brought to Shiloh for themselves, that were supposed to be given to the Lord, as well as sleeping with the women who served at the entrance to the Tent of Meeting.  The bible evens calls them “scoundrels”, which can be translated as “sons of worthlessness”. 

A man of God had told Eli that his sons would die on the same day for their sin, as well as Eli’s own sin for not putting a stop to it…and this would eventually come true.  To add, Eli died on the same day as his sons, just after hearing of their death and the news of the Ark of God being captured by the Philistines.  Eli was ninety-eight years old and had led Israel forty years, and was part of bringing up and training young Samuel, but he lacked greatly in that he didn’t put an end to outright, bold sinning by his sons.  The man of God even highlighted the fact that Eli was honoring his sons more than the Lord.

There are times in our lives when we’re going to be called by God to stand up for what’s right…it could be like Eli’s situation…in your own family.  It could be at work, and it could even be at church, but whenever God calls you to speak His word, make sure that you pray about the time, the place, and the witnesses needed before speaking, and remember, when God calls you to speak, He will give you the words.

Friday, June 8, 2018

Walking in faith…

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11

I’ve never really been a person who’s afraid to take chances…I’ve made my mistakes, but I’m usually willing to put myself out there or try something new if I believe I can grow from the experience.  Sometimes trying something new brings an added benefit, and sometimes it fails, and I still benefit because I’ve learned what won’t work.  We recently redid our backyard, bringing in topsoil and a ton of fertilizer, lime and grass seed…and with help from friends and God’s blessing, it’s looking like a yard two months later.  I also tried the same process with a strip of old flower bed in our front yard, and it didn’t work so well.  After bringing in the topsoil, prepping the new ground and planting the seed, grass began to grow, but just days after, weeds also started to pop up…and man did they come fast!  They grew so quickly that they choked out the new grass, and eventually killed most of it.  I had to make a decision…stick with the green weeds, or start over, and I chose the latter.  I eventually sprayed the entire area with Roundup, and will try again in the fall.

Sometimes we try new things and they work according to our vision, but there are times when things just don’t go according to plan and we have to back up and rethink the situation.  This is the point where it’s easy to get hesitant about taking chances, because we’ve tried something that failed…but remember, failure is part of life, and much good can come from failing at something.  Through failure we learn what won’t work, we learn how people feel about certain things, and we gain wisdom to pass along to others we’ll meet farther down the road.  Don’t be afraid to walk in faith when God is prodding you to try something new, or look at a situation from a new perspective…sure, not every end-result will be what we wanted or intended, but in the end, if you’re sticking with God through it, you will learn something.

Thursday, June 7, 2018

Seeing the whole picture…

The Lord makes firm the steps
    of the one who delights in him;
though he may stumble, he will not fall,
    for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”  Psalm 37:23-24

Julie and I like to grill out about three times a week because it’s easy, fast and it brings out a lot of flavor in the food!  We work as a team…I’m on the grill and she cooks the sides and prepares the salad.  I enjoy sitting outside talking to the neighbors and monitoring the cooking process while I wait for the steak, burger, chicken, pork chop or piece of fish to reach its intended internal temperature.  Many recipes or instructions for grilling mention an allotted time frame for how long cooking needs to take place on either side of the piece of meat, but there’s other factors involved as well to taken into consideration if you really want to maximize your grilling.  You’ve got to make sure the heat is at the right temperature for starters, but in addition to time, the color and texture also have to be monitored…and they both have to work together with time.  If all three aren’t taken into consideration when grilling, you could have a darkened steak on the outside, but be raw in the middle…or a piece of fish that may be the right color, but dry as a bone. 

Every situation in life cannot be looked upon or gauged as if it’s the exact same as a similar situation in the past.  It may be different people involved, a different time frame, a different season of life, a slightly different challenge…when building relationships and working with people, we need to analyze the entire picture prior to understanding how God is calling us to move forward, and in this way each moment can be maximized for the Kingdom.

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Being prepared…

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”   Isaiah 41:10

Stress, anxiety and fear are a part of being a human being, but their place in our lives will lessen as we grow in the faith, and, we don’t have to let those feelings rule our lives.  They often come and make home within us because we are either unprepared for what’s ahead, or feel that we will be unprepared to handle a situation in the future.  But think back to every time that you’ve succeeded at a task, and felt great once it was accomplished…there’s a good chance that you weren’t stressed about the task, because you were confident in what you were doing…because you were prepared. 

In everything that you do today, be prepared.  Do the research, ask the questions and dig deep for answers so that you may be ready to face the tasks ahead, and not be afraid.  There are certainly times when we don’t know exactly how to prepare, but in those times make sure you have discussed this concern with God, so that when unexpected things do “pop up”, you are still ready to move forward with confidence.

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

Building bridges…

“Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance,”   Proverbs 1:5

Being convicted about what Christ has done for us and continues to do for us is essential to our daily walk…we must believe, have faith and follow.  Being convicted about how we live our lives and carry out our mission for Him is also foundational to our witness, but we can’t live in a way that closes the door to how others live and think.  This doesn’t mean that we sacrifice what we believe, but it does mean that we shouldn’t rush to judgment or throw out instant criticism of someone who’s thought process doesn’t line up with ours. 

I sit down with folks all the time who don’t look at life from the same perspective that I do, but if I rushed to judgment, I’d lose the friendship and the relationship could be damaged forever…and to be honest, I’ve learned a great deal about how I can improve (and still do) from those conversations.  It’s not that one person is wrong and the other is right, it’s that each person looks at the world through a slightly different lens.  Each of us grows up with traditions and ways of doing things that shape our lives in a significant way, but we also must be open to how others interpret the world and see God in their lives…and you just might learn something!


Monday, June 4, 2018

Are you listening?

The Lord came and stood there, calling as at the other times, “Samuel! Samuel!”

Then Samuel said, “Speak, for your servant is listening.”   1 Samuel 3:10

Hearing the voice of God takes patience…it takes being intentional about listening…and it takes an open heart to understand His calling and direction.  If you break it down even further, it takes a belief in Christ, a belief that God provides through your relationship with Christ, and believing that God does continually speak to us!  In the story of the calling of young Samuel, it wasn’t until the Lord spoke to Samuel for the fourth time that Samuel finally realized and understood what was happening.  Once he acknowledged that it was the voice of God, through the help of Eli, he made himself available and open to hearing God’s direction.  We need to be open to God speaking to us directly within our hearts, but also through the voice of others, but it starts with knowing that God wants to be in constant relationship with us, and He continually speaks…but are we listening?

Friday, June 1, 2018

Run with passion…

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.   Hebrews 12:1-2a

I participated in track while in high school, so metaphors and illustrations involving running or racing have always been something I can relate to rather quickly.  My best event was the one-mile run, involving four laps around the track, usually competing against four to five other people.  The goal of the first lap was to get all of the nervous energy out and stay toward the front…the second lap was all about getting a solid position among the pack…the third lap involved picking up the pace and increasing position…and finally the fourth lap was about giving it all I had, and driving it home to the finish line.

In life we have an earthly start when we are born, and a spiritual beginning with new life when we accept Christ…our “Starting Line”.  But our finish line won’t appear after four laps around a track, and instead after a lifetime of Christian service to the Lord.  We certainly don’t know the time or date that we will finish the race, but we are called to “run with perseverance” and strive to make a daily impact on the Kingdom as we walk with Christ.  Run today with passion, run today with God’s strength, and run today toward someone that needs His love.

Thursday, May 31, 2018

Taking flight…

But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”   Isaiah 40:31

At just about two weeks, four young robins took flight from the nest in our front shrubbery yesterday.  All of us had watched them from the time they were just little blue eggs that the mother incubated for several days prior to hatching.  It’s amazing how quickly the process of incubation and early growth took place before the birds went off on their own!  I’m sure it seems like a daunting task for a young bird as they look out of the nest to the ground below, but in order to survive, the young robin must jump and start flapping those wings!

There may be many times in life when the Lord is asking you to get up and fly, but you feel as though you don’t have the wings…but that’s where faith comes into play.  If you believe in Christ, you believe that through a relationship with Him, God will provide for every one of your needs.  When God calls, follow and know that you are well taken care of!

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

New beginnings…

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”   Philippians 4:19

It certainly hasn’t been on purpose, but I’ve now worked 38 jobs in my 39 years of life.  Only about a fifth of them have been in the ministry, so I’ve had a lot of experience in numerous areas of employment prior to becoming a pastor.  Most of the reason for so many changes is the fact that I’ve gone through many “life seasons” as a young adult, and had to move due to divorce, job layoff, etc.  I also started working at the age of 12 at the local golf course, and worked multiple jobs while in high school.  All this to say, I had to be willing to learn quickly at each new position in order to be successful…I was forced to adapt if I wanted to keep a paycheck coming in!

It doesn’t matter how many jobs you’ve worked, or how old you are, it’s never too late to learn a new skill or trade…the decision is up to you!  God’s plan brings us into new arenas that can make us feel uncomfortable, but as Christians, we are to believe that He will equip us with the tools and resources necessary to do the job.  One of my many jobs was working as a Management Trainee at Enterprise Rent-A-Car following my layoff, and within the first month, I was number three out of fifty other trainees in the region for top sales.  If God is calling you to dive into a new situation, know that He will lay a path before you, enabling you to be successful at the task.

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Give needed space…

Don't visit your neighbors too often, or you will wear out your welcome.”   Proverbs 25:17

Based on how God made us, and the life experiences we’ve been through, each person requires a certain amount of personal space.  It’s that area or “second skin” around each person that gives us an unseen buffer as we encounter others.  But sometimes folks need more than just a couple feet of open space between them and others…they need complete silence and space.  We may often think that someone doesn’t like us, or may be upset with us because they aren’t chomping at the bit to get back with us over text or email, but in reality they just need some time to process a question or comment, look at their scheduling, and most of all, understand how God is calling them to proceed.

God created us to be in relationship with others, but we also need downtime to digest the moment or the day, and we must understand that our family, friends and co-workers need the same.  There’s nothing wrong with taking time to understand the past and get clarity on the future.  The amount of time and space needed depends completely upon the person, but we need to be respectful of that space in an effort to build trust with the person.  The more they realize that you respect their needs and begin to trust you, the stronger your relationship becomes, giving a firm foundation for the Holy Spirit to work, through love.

Friday, May 25, 2018

Let love lead…

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”   Isaiah 41:10

“It’s all about what happens between the ears.”  This was an expression someone shared with me years ago as we spoke about the challenges of life.  He was referring to how much we as humans allow stressful situations to take over our day, or lead our lives.  When difficulties come, we can at times “get stuck in our heads”, thinking over and over about what went wrong, and how the outcome of a situation is going to affect our life.  When we continue to dwell on a past moment or something that is yet to happen in the future, we can fall into the trap of worry, doubt, fear and anxiety.

In Christ, there is no need to fear!  You have the Maker of the universe with you, and guiding you each step of the way!  Instead of allowing your mind to lead, playing unneeded and unwanted scenes over and over in your mind, strive to love others with the love Christ gives you…letting your heart lead.  When we allow our heart to lead us, joy begins to overtake our emotions and stress subsides, and our energy is put into building the Kingdom, and not wasted by worrying. 

Thursday, May 24, 2018


How good and pleasant it is when God's people live together in unity!   Psalm 133:1

Camaraderie…it’s a word you may have heard frequently when it comes to various sports teams, but it’s also a word that can be associated with any type of organized group.  Camaraderie involves people on a team or within a group working together in a way that trust is built, and each person truly enjoys being together to accomplish a task.  Every well-functioning group needs good camaraderie, and without it, the group will most likely suffer, and not experience good results. 

To get to the point where everyone in the group trusts one another and enjoys their time together, each person must understand that they are different…they think different, talk different, act different, lived through different life experiences, had different upbringings, different family situations, encountered different trials…we all are unique, but that’s what every healthy-functioning team understands.  When new ideas are expressed, they are welcomed and heard even though everyone may not agree, and in this way each person feels appreciated as a valued member of the team.  As you encounter other members of each of your “teams” today, remember to respect the differences that each of the other members bring…each person has something special to contribute!

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Trust and follow…

My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me.”  John 10:27

God knows your every need.  He knows your thoughts, He knows your words, and He knows your actions.  He knows your feelings of celebration, He knows your sadness, and He knows your pain.  We may forget to thank Him in great times, while also not looking to Him during challenging times, but why?  If the Maker of the universe created you and knows everything about you, why would we think for one moment that we  had to solve all of our own problems, creating large amounts of stress in our life?

He calls us to follow Him.  When you follow someone in a job, a church or a community group, you trust them to lead…it sounds simple, but you’re following that person because you trust that they are headed in the right direction, and they have your best interest at heart.  When you fully trust Christ to lead your life, you will place every single concern into His hands, and you will thank Him for every mountaintop, because as James says, “Every good and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights”.  Trust, and follow.

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

God’s love…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.”   1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

My wife and I celebrate seven years of marriage together today.  When God brought her into my life, I was in my second year of seminary, making very little money as a youth ministry intern and barely able to support myself.  There was also some chaos happening in my extended family, to the point where I had to intervene to offer help, bringing that chaos right into our brand new relationship.  Over the almost eight years together and seven years of marriage, we’ve moved eight times, changed jobs multiple times because of the relocating, been alienated from friends, served in a church where we were treated very poorly to the point where we had to leave, judged to the point of cut-off by family members, dealt with a miscarriage, and waited two years to sell a home that we didn’t even live in!

It seemed like the circumstances kept trying to break us apart, but as I wrote in Julie’s card, all they did was bring us closer together and strengthen our relationship…our partnership.  God’s unconditional love comes to us through a relationship with Christ, and we are called to carry that same love to others…and when we do, there’s nothing that two united people for Christ can’t do!  May God bless all of your relationships with patience, endurance, peace and love.

Monday, May 21, 2018

The importance of rest…                        

“Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.”   Exodus 20:8

Rest…it’s something we do each night when we lay our head on the pillow, but do we truly make time on occasion to fully rest our souls?  Taking time to rest (when you’re not sleeping), is just as important as the rest you have each night after a long day’s work.  Some call it rest and relaxation or R and R, some call it a lazy day, some call it taking a vacation day…whatever you call it, take time frequently to refrain from work and simply enjoy the day God has put in front of you.

My wife and I were able to take a two-day vacation last weekend, which we don’t have the opportunity to do very often.  We needed some time away to digest the wonderful things God has done for us, and to also understand how we need to move through some current challenges in our lives.  Taking a Sabbath day certainly doesn’t mean having to go on frequent vacations, but we as a couple needed a Sabbath day(s) together, something that is hard to come by with young children.  We love our kids dearly and missed them while we were gone, but having two days to enjoy life, not think too much, experience new people, and digest the past while looking to the future, was something we needed to refresh our souls. 

As Christians, do you best each day to take “Sabbath moments”, thanking God for what He’s done in your life, but also asking Him where it is that He’s leading you in the future.  It can be in the early morning hours, a long drive to work, a moment during lunch break, or a run through the neighborhood after work.  However and whenever you can get that Sabbath moment, take it, and simply enjoy your time with God.

Friday, May 18, 2018

The importance of boundaries…                          

“For each will have to bear his own load.”   Galatians 6:5

I’ve had many conversations with folks lately about boundaries, and how important they are in our lives.  Without boundaries, not only are you confused about what you should be doing and when you should be doing it, but others also won’t understand your mission and your call, and could potentially be perplexed about how to interact with you.  Without you defining how God has called you to serve, your daily efficiency will most likely drop considerably, and your effectiveness could potentially go down.

Boundaries are important because they allow us to fully serve in the areas where God has called us to serve, but they also allow us to serve with the needed energy and focus to make a strong impact.  People who are still seeking the Lord, or who have drifted away from Him, need to see that you know who God has called you to be and that you are walking boldly in the journey He has called you to walk, so that they too understand what it means to follow Christ.  It’s extremely difficult to walk boldly with the Lord if you live without healthy boundaries, but with them, the sky is the limit!  

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Joy leads to a full life and strong relationships…                                

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”  Proverbs 17:22

True joy leads to excitement for what God is doing in your life and in the lives of others, especially those close to you.  When you live with joy in your life that comes only from the Lord, your first spiritual instinct is to get the most out of the day for God, using your own gifts and talents to help those in your path get the most out of their day…and to not take away from their journey with unhelpful criticism, judgment and condemnation.

With joy in your heart, you fully support those around you and shower them with love and support however and whenever you can.  With joy in your heart, your last thought is to give criticism because your mission is to love, to encourage and to support.  With Christ leading your life, you’ll have joy for what He’s doing in you, for you, through you…and you’ll also feel joy for everything He’s doing for those in your life.  When others know that you fully support them, they’ll come to you with a desire to share about their journey…their mountaintops and their valleys.  But when we don’t live with joy for what God is doing in the lives of others, and allow judgment to cloud our minds, people will naturally fall away, and relationships get strained and sometimes even completely fall apart.  People aren’t attracted to judgment and criticism, but instead patience, encouragement, support and unconditional love.  Live with joy, and celebrate what God is doing in your life and in the lives of others!

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Eternal impact...

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.”  Romans 12:1

As Christians, we are called to follow Christ daily and to serve others, but as human beings, we may on occasion serve ourselves.  Thanks be to God that we are forgiven in Christ when we sin, but we should also understand how and where we went wrong, so that we can grow spiritually and hopefully not continue in that sin.  The better we understand where we “mess up”, the quicker we can get back to serving others and helping them in their own walk.

As you grow in your own walk with Christ, it will become more and more apparent that making an impact for the Kingdom is not just what you’re called to do, but what you want to do daily.  As you spend time with God in the Word, through prayer, and speaking with Him about correcting mistakes, you will begin to grow stronger in your desire to make a Kingdom impact.  Strive to make all of your words and actions life-giving…words and actions that have an eternal impact.

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Hearing His voice…        

“So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.”  Romans 10:17

We hear the voice of our parents calling us home as children, we hear the voice of our manager asking us to complete a project by a certain date, we hear the voice of our spouse asking for help with preparing dinner, we hear the voice of a friend asking for advice…but do we hear the voice of God calling us to follow Him?

In order to hear God’s voice direct our paths, we must spend time with Him.  Just as a relationship with a spouse, friend or coworker only grows through communication and time together, the same is true for our relationship with God.  The more time we spend reading the Word, thanking Him for His blessings and asking for guidance in prayer, and being open to the movement of the Spirit throughout the day, the more we will hear God’s voice.  It’s all about time spent with Him, and being attentive to His voice as we walk with Christ.

Monday, May 14, 2018


“Greater love has no one than this,that someone lay down his life for his friends.”  John 15:13

You can’t place a value on friendship…it’s something so special and important to all of us.  Whether it’s another couple that you and your spouse can spend time with, talking about the challenges of parenting, or someone that’s been through a similar experience, and able to share wisdom with you, a friend is someone that’s always there for you, and brings no judgment as you ponder the questions of life.  I saw a greeting card the other day that said, “Friendship is knowing everything about me, and still loving me anyway.”

To make friends, and to grow in a relationship with your friends, there needs to be a level of transparency, but that only comes with time and trust.  As you encounter both old friends and new friends, consistently be the one that they can count on and trust, because in time, God may use you to help them through something difficult…He may use you to show them the consistent love of Christ that will change their life!

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Genuine concern…                          

For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all God’s people, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers.”  Ephesians 1:15-16

In Paul’s letter to the church in Ephesus, he maintains a theme of unity in Christ, and continuing to embody the love of Christ as we live out our lives as followers of Christ.  He begins in the first chapter thanking God for the faith and love of those in the church, and continues to pray for God’s constant revelation of Himself to them, so that they may grow spiritually. 

People are impacted by our witness for Christ, but they are impacted even more when the entire church, which is the Body of Christ, works together in unity, spreading love and serving others.  Working together can be challenging as we’re all different, but if we can look at those differences as a good thing, we can strengthen our unity as a team, and make an exponential impact for the Kingdom, operating through God’s power and love as the Body of Christ.  It starts with loving one another, praying for one another, celebrating mountaintops with one another, and genuinely caring about each other’s walk with Christ.  Genuine concern for one another generates a strong team, for Christ.

Saturday, May 12, 2018

Give more than expected…

“Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”   2 Corinthians 9:7

There are needs to fill every day…go to work, get the kids, make dinner, pay bills, get the mail, cut the grass, spray the bird mess off the car, sleep, and get ready for the next day.  We have so many needs that at times they may cloud our view of the all the needs around us, in the lives of the ones we love and those we interact with daily.  So the first step in helping to fill the need of another is to recognize the need…to take the time to observe what’s going on around you so that you have an idea of what needs have to be filled.

The next step is assessing how you can help fill the need…will it take something tangible like food, water, shelter, money, etc., or will it take your time in terms of listening, lending a helping hand or giving a nugget of advice?  Once you’ve determined that God has called you to help in a given situation, give with everything you have and give with joy.  If someone needs five minutes of your time, give them twenty.  If someone needs you to listen to them open up about a problem they’re having, listen without distraction.  If someone needs a couple dollars, give them twenty.  If someone needs help, give them help in the form of pure love that gives without hesitation, and without conditions.

Friday, May 11, 2018

Seize the moment…

making the most of every opportunity.”   Ephesians 5:16

I ran into a family yesterday that lost a father, a son, and a husband that was just forty-six years old.  He leaves behind three children who will grow up without their biological father.  As I spoke with the family, I began to think about my own life and how precious life is, and how we all should strive to make the largest impact for God in the time we have here.  We know through our relationship with Christ that life doesn’t end here on earth, but continues forever in the heavenly realms with our Father, but as we live, we must “seize the moment” and do our best to serve God by serving others.

As you go out into the world today, ask God to provide you with the resources to serve Him, and to be open to every opportunity possible to serve Him.  The word for “making” in the Greek language means “to make wise use of every opportunity for doing good”.  We can’t be wise on our own…we must look and we must listen to God speaking and moving in our lives, through our hearts and through others in our path.  Look, listen and seize the moment!

Thursday, May 10, 2018

Knowing your limits…              

“From whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.”  Ephesians 4:16

We all are given gifts by God that allow us through the Holy Spirit to impact the lives of others and build up the Kingdom of God.  We all are gifted differently, and through these gifts we can begin to see our areas of strength where we are able to contribute in the various groups we join.  But what happens when we encounter a situation where we need help in an area where we aren’t gifted?  Do we press on through and act as though we know what we’re doing, or do you extend the invitation to another to come and assist?

The foundation to teamwork is respect for each other, and knowing the strengths of each member.  As you come upon new projects, new assignments and new challenges, a healthy functioning group must know who is gifted in the particular area of need, and allow that person(s) to serve in the capacity that they feel called to serve.  Each person must know their strengths, but also be aware of their weaknesses…they must know where they aren’t gifted, so that the baton can be passed to the one who is gifted for each specific project.  Knowing how you can serve using your gifts is just as important as knowing your weaknesses, and where someone else needs to takeover.  Teamwork is essential in a group, but it’s knowledge of gifts and areas of weakness that enable the most successful teams to always be at their best.

Wednesday, May 9, 2018


“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”   Hebrews 12:11

Discipline…growing up I associated it with something negative, because I always received it when I misbehaved.  But now as an adult, I think of it as something positive, something good for me, something good for all of us…but it’s challenging to incorporate into our daily lives.  The only way to get better at anything is to “discipline” yourself, and change your lifestyle patterns to match the goals you’d like to achieve. 

You want to get better at listening?  Be intentional about talking less in conversations.  You want to get better at saving money?  Don’t shop as much and put the money into a savings account.  You want to build more muscle?  Eat better and develop a workout routine.  You want to grow closer to Christ?  Spend more time with Him in prayer and the Word. 

Discipline is something you need to be intentional about, and no one can do it but you…but God is there to help you, to guide you, and to give you the needed strength to achieve your goals.  Discipline in your life can bring much fruit for you, but also for others as you form healthy boundaries, develop healthy habits, and better understand how you can serve God.  It’s hard and can be painful at times, but with discipline in our lives, we can impact the Kingdom in great ways.

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Have fun!                               

"A happy heart makes the face cheerful”   Proverbs 15:13a

This life certainly has its challenges and moments of extreme pain, but I firmly believe that God wants us all to have fun, and to feel full joy in this life that He gives us.  We are created to be in relationship with Him, and that’s where each day should start…asking Him where it is that you should be serving and how it is that you should be serving.  If you know how He’s calling you to serve, you can be better prepared to carry out His work, and have fun doing it! 

The more joy that you live your life with, the more of an impact  you’ll make on others, and the more they’ll be pointed to what gives you joy…life in Christ.  You may be able to find brief moments of happiness in the things of this world, but true joy only comes from knowing Christ and walking with Him.  Allow yourself, especially in the difficult times of life, to fall back into the arms of God, knowing that He will meet your every need.  When we fully trust Him is when we begin to release the anxiety, the stress and the fear, and allow that joy to fill our lives!

Monday, May 7, 2018

Spending time together…                         

"not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another--and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”  Hebrews 10:25

My family and I love to spend time outside…whether it’s hanging out on the back deck watching the girls play on the swing set, or taking them for a walk in their power wheel Elsa Jeep throughout the neighborhood.  We love spending time outdoors, and so do the girls, so that’s where we’re usually camped out if the weather is decent.  The neighborhood lots aren’t very big, maybe a third of an acre, and the houses are fairly close together…we can see about ten other backyards from our deck.  To my surprise though, I rarely ever see any of our neighbors outside, taking in the beautiful weather.  When I was growing up in the late 80s and early 90s, just about every one of our neighbors would be outside on a Saturday, washing cars, cutting grass, playing basketball…we all couldn’t wait to get outdoors if the weather was good!

This is certainly a different day and time, because when I was growing up, there were no cell phones (or at least they weren’t mainstream), and the internet wasn’t launched until I was close to graduating high school.  I have no idea if there is a correlation between people spending less time outdoors and the rise of technology, but I’d have to guess that iPads, iPhones and the growth of video games has something to do with it.

As we grow in our relationship with Christ, we are called as the Body of Christ to spend time together…praying, talking, encouraging, and enjoying fellowship.  If we get stuck “indoors”, we can miss great opportunities to share and spread the love of Christ.  Just yesterday, the girls and I took a stroll through the neighborhood and spoke with at least three different people, which never would have happened if we decided to just stay inside.  As you start the day, take the time to get out, to reach out and to engage others…and you’ll be surprised by what God does in those little moments of fellowship!

Sunday, May 6, 2018

Just remain…                           

"As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.”  John 15:9

We live in a world of chaos, negativity and evil behavior, and we ourselves give into temptation at times, and struggle to give up bad habits.  As a follower of Christ, we are to repent of our sin, and turn back to God…and remain in His love as we live out our lives for others.  This can certainly be difficult when there are so many unhealthy distractions in this world, but the point Christ makes in this verse is that we are to “remain” in His love.

In the Greek language, the word menó is used when Christ says to remain…this Greek word means “remain”, “abide”, “stay” or “wait for”.  When times get difficult, because they will…it’s not a matter of if, but when…remain in Christ, and wait for His direction.  Stay in a place of communion with Him, asking Him what it is that you need to do next, instead of lashing out, running away or saying something that you can’t take back.  Christ is the vine and you are the branch…remain in Him and you will feel His strength and peace, and do great things for the Kingdom.    

Saturday, May 5, 2018

His blessings showering upon you…                         

“I will make them and the places surrounding my hill a blessing. I will send down showers in season; there will be showers of blessing.”   Ezekiel 34:26

So, back to the birds…again!  Each day since planting new grass in our backyard, with the help of some of my dear friends, we have unknowingly also welcomed new critters!  Many squirrels, cats, moles and of course the birds have all appeared, looking for food and checking out the new landscape.  From the first day of sowing seed, I habitually started watering the grass each morning and afternoon in an effort to prevent the seed from drying out, and giving it the hydration it needed to sprout in the first couple warm days of spring.  I began to notice though that each time I watered the lawn, robins would fly in and sit underneath the shower of the hose going across the yard.  It was almost like clockwork, I’d begin to water and within minutes I’d have two or three of them sitting in the grass waiting for their afternoon bath.    

As we move through life, it’s easy to get bogged down by the challenges and trials that we face, but remember that through Christ, God continues to shower blessings of peace, guidance and strength upon you no matter how difficult things get.  He’s always there, He never leaves you and He loves you unconditionally…just step into His showers of blessing and feel His love.

Friday, May 4, 2018

Living by the Spirit…   

“Come near to God and he will come near to you.”   James 4:8a

One of the biggest questions I get asked as a pastor is, “How do I live by the Spirit?”  As Christians we are to wait on the movement of the Spirit as we make decisions each day, but how do you know what the Spirit is telling you?  How do you live by the Spirit?  Well, I can’t give you a specific answer, because we all communicate with God differently, and we all feel His guidance in different ways, but I will say it has a lot to do with how you choose to live your life.  By that I mean, are you choosing to seek His will for your life, and are you choosing to follow His will…making a conscience decision to seek and follow is the foundation to living by the Spirit.

Second, you must be prepared.  Just as any other situation in life that requires you to prepare beforehand, such as a home project, work assignment or family trip, living according to the Lord’s will requires preparation…it requires devotion.  Before you venture out into the world each day, are you taking a moment to listen to God about what He is telling you concerning your journey with Him?  Time with God prepares you, time with God brings you closer to His will, and time with God strengthens your focus, and time with God helps you to walk boldly into His will as you live by the Spirit.    

Thursday, May 3, 2018

Being ready to meet the need…

“Whoever has a bountiful eye will be blessed, for he shares his bread with the poor.’”  Proverbs 22:9

One of the coffee shops that  I frequent to gather my thoughts about the upcoming Sunday message or the Wednesday night Bible study, is great at catering to the daily regulars that come in for a hot cup of coffee and a warm bagel.  They seem to know all of them by name, and exactly what they like to eat each morning.  There’s one particular gentleman that comes in each day, and they know him so well, that by the time he sits down with his paper in hand, his diet coke and two bagels with cream cheese awaits him at the table.  Those that work there know that having his table set for him will bring him joy, and make a seamless transition to his breakfast time. 

Transitioning from moment to moment and day to day can be difficult, and we lean on others quite often as we move through the ebbs and flows of life.  But just think how great it feels when someone knows you so well, that they bless you with the resources to move through a moment without you even asking?  As you grow in Christ and in relationship with others, you’ll begin to see these opportunities for service to others, and places where you, through the Holy Spirit, can meet the need before they even ask.

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Finishing the task…                                   

“In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”  Acts 20:35

I spent a good part of last weekend working in the yard, cutting the grass and cleaning out some old flower beds…things were looking good!  As I was finishing up for the day on Saturday afternoon, I noticed that there were two plastic water bottles laying at the curb in front of our house, that weren’t there earlier in the day.  Evidently someone felt the need to get rid of some trash by tossing it out of a window rather than holding it until they found a receptacle…they made it my problem because they didn’t take the extra time to finish the task.

We come upon situations daily where it’s up to us to “finish the job”, and we can either follow through with the task at hand, or we can place a burden upon someone else.  When choosing the latter option, we not only avoid the momentary calling, but we add to someone else’s “to do list”, taking them away from what they had previously felt called to do.  By not following through with our calling, we interrupt others in their calling, and potentially add stress to their day.  Sometimes it may be tempting to pass along the work load, but remember we’re in this together, so fully completing our own individual task(s) helps the Body of Christ to fully function, while lessening the stress in the system.

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

A positive will…                      

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.”  Psalm 23:5

The brain is a complex organ, and it can get us running in directions where we don’t need to be going, and harbor thought that is unhealthy and detrimental to the mission we’re trying to accomplish…loving others in the name of Christ.  But it’s all about your will and your desire to maintain a positive focus as you follow Christ.  Some people call it the “glass half-full” approach opposed to the “glass half-empty” approach.  In other words, do you look at the glass from the positive side of having some water left to drink, or do you see it as a glass that’s almost empty?

God provided us the ability to have many different feelings and emotions based on the situations of life, but we can’t make decisions just based on emotions.  It’s all about your will…are you striving to do His will throughout the many different scenarios of life?  Despite the chaos that may be happening, you have a daily decision to make regarding where you place your will.  We must certainly acknowledge the feelings we have whether they may be confusion, sadness, anger, elation or joy, but after understanding how we feel, we must decide what God’s will is for the situation.  It’s not about how full the glass is, because in Christ our cup overflows…it’s about your outlook, your perspective and your focus.  Place it on your walk with Christ and He will direct your path during turbulent times.

Monday, April 30, 2018

Putting in the work…                                   

“The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.”   Proverbs 13:4

Back to the birds…so we’ve got a bird that hammers our window daily, forcing us to close the blinds, and not allowing us to enjoy the sunshine that would normally come into our living room.  We also have birds that perch on the side-view mirrors of our vehicles, completely covering the car doors with quite a bit of “by-product”.  It’s pretty aggravating because I’m constantly having to hose off the cars, and sometimes give them a full bath.  But again, doing our research revealed that there is a way to prevent it, but it takes a little continual work on our part.  Every time we pull into the driveway, we need to push the side-view mirrors toward the car, and when we leave the house, we have to open them back up.  It’s an extra step, but since putting this into our daily practice, the “by-product” has disappeared.

There are many things in life that we just don’t want to do, but when we follow through with those patterns and practices it makes for a better day, and it makes us a better person for those that we come into contact with.  To be successful at anything in life requires us to put in hard work…continual and consistent hard work.  As Christians we should desire to be as successful as we can be at sharing the love of Christ, and to do so, we ourselves have to be prepared and full of love before going out into the mission field…and it starts with taking a break from the busyness of life, and spending time with God, daily.

Sunday, April 29, 2018

Service before self…                          

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 

1 Peter 4:10

As Julie and I enjoyed the beautiful weather with the kids yesterday afternoon, my youngest came over to me and sat in my lap, and began looking up at the sky and the treetops.  With a big smile she told me that she saw squirrels, birds and green leaves.  She’s always looking up at the sky and taking in the beauty that God offers us through scenery.  It got me thinking about where we focus our energy, and where it is that we are “looking” for our guidance and direction.

As I’ve grown spiritually, I’ve learned to resist the temptation to place my burdens on other people to solve them for me.  There’s a difference between asking for help when we need it, and expecting others to solve our problems.  Expectations placed on other people can get us into trouble not just in the relationship itself, but within our own hearts.  Continued desire for others to solve our problems, or to serve our every need, is not the mission before us as Christians, but it also begins to turn our hearts to “self”, and not others.  We can’t serve “self” and others at the same time. 

We know from Matthew 7:7 that whatever we ask for (within the will of God), it will be given to us.  God provides in many ways, and He provides for us through others, but we aren’t called to live in a way that our focus resides with the idea that other people are here to constantly serve us…but instead we are to focus our mission on serving others.

Saturday, April 28, 2018

Shine The Light…                           

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”  Matthew 5:16

After living through days and days of rainy weather, when you finally see that morning full of sunshine, it makes you feel an extra ounce of energy, it puts bounce in your step, and gives you a desire to get outside!  It’s when we get outside that we have fun with our families playing outdoor games, interact with neighbors, or maybe head to a festival to hear live music.  Sunshine brings people out into the community.

When you allow The Light in your life to come forth through your relationship with Christ, others will gravitate to you, and desire to be in fellowship with you as you shine positive energy and love upon them.  Love is the most powerful feeling one can share or receive, and it’s magnetic in nature…we are created to be receptors and givers of this powerful feeling.  As you go out this day, shine the light of Christ wherever you go, and no matter the weather conditions, others will feel as though they woke up to full sunshine!

Friday, April 27, 2018

Working together…                               

“Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”   1 Peter 3:8

Running early in the mornings just as the sun comes up gives me a refreshing way to start the day…I get the blood pumping for the day, get to say hello to other walkers and runners, breathe in fresh air, and I get to see the neighborhood wake up.  This morning as I rounded a cul-de-sac about a mile into the run, I spotted a mulch pile that had been dumped at the curbside of one of the houses, but the size of it had reduced greatly from what it was a couple of days ago.  I remember thinking when I first saw the pile that there was no way that this one yard could use an entire dump truck load of mulch…well today I found out that it wasn’t going to just this one home’s flower beds. 

As I rounded the dead end, I looked at the neighboring homes and noticed that every single one of them had a little bit of that fresh, dark hardwood mulch spread over their gardens.  Of course I don’t know the specifics, but it looks as though one neighbor may have pitched in to help everyone else around them.  It doesn’t matter if it involves family, church, work or your neighborhood, unity is the key.  It’s the key to getting things done, it’s the key to having rich fellowship, it’s the key to working through challenges, and it’s the key to spreading love at the optimum level. 

Thursday, April 26, 2018

When to speak, when to hold…

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”  Matthew 7:12

We are made to be in relationship with God and with each other.  As we walk this path of life we constantly encounter people who need help of some kind, whether it’s something tangible or just an ear to listen.  The hope is that we all do our best to meet that need according to God’s will for our life.  But then there are those times when “it seems as though others need our help”, and we jump right in…but did we ask God if we were called to that situation?  Were we called to say or do anything, or was God telling us to remain quiet?

We all need assistance throughout our lives from others, and as Christians we lean constantly on the Body of Christ as spoken about in 1 Corinthians 12:12, ”Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ.”  We need the help of others, and others need our help…but there is a line of when to help and when to wait.  As I’ve gotten older, made mistakes, and grown spiritually, I’ve realized that unless it’s an emergency situation, giving help isn’t warranted until the person asks for it, and even then, it should be on the level that they desire.  If they just want someone to listen, it’s not time to pull out a sermon…if they are struggling with an issue, there’s no reason to jump right in with our opinion if we haven’t been asked to share.  Everyone is living their own individual life, and we should give them the room to live it, because we truly don’t know what it’s like to be in their specific shoes. 

Help when asked according to God’s will…but give others in your life room to live the way they feel called to live, even when you think it’s not the “right way”.  You may have a great suggestion, you may not…you may be right in your opinion, you may be wrong.  We must give others room to walk as they feel called to walk, and give according to the need they desire, as it aligns with God’s will.

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Do as The Lord says…

“So Lot went out and spoke to his sons-in-law, who were pledged to marry his daughters. He said, “Hurry and get out of this place, because the Lord is about to destroy the city!” But his sons-in-law thought he was joking.”   Genesis 19:14

In the story of the destruction of the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah, it is said that two angels told Lot to gather any family members and leave the city prior to the raining down of burning sulfur, so that they too wouldn’t perish.  It goes on to say that Lot then went to his sons-in-law and told them to leave Sodom, but that they thought Lot was joking around.

Further into the story, we see where the two angels grasped the hands of Lot, his wife and his two daughters, leading them safely out of the city…but it never mentions the sons-in-law again.  Lot fled Sodom with his wife and two daughters, making it to Zoar before his wife looked back and turned to a pillar of salt.  He is then left with just his two daughters, and they would eventually leave Zoar, moving to the mountains and settling in a cave.

But back to the sons-in-law…what was up with them just disappearing from the story?  The Hebrew word for “joking”, where it says that the sons-in-law thought Lot was joking, means “to make fun of”.   Apparently they didn’t think Lot was serious, that he was just playing around with them…but in the end it’s what probably got them killed as the city was eventually destroyed.  These two angels that had given the command to Lot to gather his family and leave, are the same two angels that accompanied The Lord as he approached Abraham at the entrance of his tent near the great trees of Mamre.

These angels gave Lot a command, that he would give to the sons-in-law, a command that came from The Lord…a command that wasn’t followed, and these two lives were probably lost in the destruction of the cities because of disobedience.  Most of our mistakes or acts of disobedience won’t lead to death, but they can take us from the will of God if they are made because we aren’t listening or don’t want to listen.  How is God asking you to follow today?  I believe God has a great sense of humor, but when He gives a command that we are to follow, it couldn’t be more serious.

Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Take a moment…

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”   Proverbs 15:1

Since moving into our new home we’ve encountered something I’ve never seen before…a bird that won’t quit.  We have a robin that has become extremely territorial, and has begun to peck at the windows on the front of our home nonstop!  As a kid, I would frequently wake up to a woodpecker trying to make a hole in our gutter early in the morning, but I’ve never seen a bird attack a window.  After doing some research, we have found out that it’s a behavior indicative of a male marking and defending its territory.  Apparently the robin sees his reflection, and thinking it’s his opponent, begins to “attack” it.  Well that attack not only makes a loud, annoying noise, but it’s completely marked up our front first story windows.  In an effort to deter him, we’ve had to shut the blinds, which we don’t like to do, but it’s the only way to make it stop!

You may be encountering one of these “robins” in your life that won’t stop pecking away as you attempt to get your work done, spend time with family, enjoy a vacation, or relax in your hobby.  These “robins” can come in all forms, and through many different situations.  But remember, regardless of what the “robin” is, have patience and ask God how to work or relax with it operating in your life, because if not, you could say or do something that may damage a relationship.  Remember, we are called to love one another in the name of Christ, and we can’t do that if the bridge to another person no longer exists.

Monday, April 23, 2018

Have hope in The Lord…

“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.”   Romans 12:12

There are some situations in life where all we can do is pray.  As much as we’d like to force a solution that would tip the scales our way, or even wish that someone would look at things from our perspective, sometimes we just have to sit with patience, and hope. 

Hope is a wonderful thing, and it can be difficult to have and maintain during times of confusion, sadness and frustration, but the key in situations of hope is that we aren’t hoping in us finding the solution…but instead that God will bring His will to the surface so that His love is seen and shared.  We are placed on this earth to be in relationship with God and with others…that’s what we’re built for, so when we understand our purpose through our relationship with God through Christ, we can better see every situation in the context of the greater mission, and not just from our one point of view.

While you hope for a situation to get better, a solution to come to light, someone to have a revelation about unhealthy behavior, or for a relationship to be reconciled, look at it as a smaller mission within the greater mission of spreading love the love of Christ…and place your hope in God being revealed as you patiently wait.

Sunday, April 22, 2018

The blind spot…

“See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.”   1 Thessalonians 5:15

The way in which we express ourselves and our energy can be similar to the way we drive on the interstate…some folks tend to just cruise in the right lane five miles per hour over the speed limit, others ride along in the right lane but will frequently use the left lane as necessary, others will camp out in the left lane right at the speed limit and hold up others from making a pass, and others will aggressively swerve in and out of traffic almost causing an accident.  But there’s one more situation we’ve probably all seen on the road that can be both distracting and dangerous…it’s those that sit in our blind spot, where we can’t see them with the side-view or rear-view mirror, but with a quick glance left, we see their presence.

For whatever reason, you may have had someone (or multiple people) attempt to stay in your “blind spot”.  They won’t pass you and they won’t get behind you, but they stay in that place in your life where they feel you won’t see them or be attentive to their mission, whatever that may be.  You know they are there, but you can’t place your finger on what it is they are doing…are they helping or are they hurting me?  Sometimes you just don’t know, because again, they hang out where you can’t get the full picture of what they are trying to accomplish.

Sure, it can get annoying, but remember, you are placed on this earth to fulfill a mission for God…stick to the mission and follow Christ.  In this way, the distraction of that person in your blind spot begins to go away, and you are more focused and concentrated on what God has in store for you.  You can’t control another person, so don’t try, and don’t concern yourself with what they may do next…if they need your help, God will let you know, but until that point, keep moving and keep serving!

Saturday, April 21, 2018

Purpose and passion…

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”  2 Corinthians 5:17

When you give your life to Christ, you have the Holy Spirit within you guiding you, directing you, showing you the way…but you must look to God to follow the Spirit.  It’s all about continually giving your life to Christ in each moment of the day, asking Him to show you the path He is laying before you…but again, you must have the desire to ask, and then follow.

When you approach a person, when you approach a situation, even when everything is going well, are you asking God for the words, for the clarity and for the most efficient use of your time?  It is extremely easy to get confused, frustrated, bored and unmotivated if you don’t ask God what your purpose is moment by moment.  Most of all, if you don’t seek His direction, you really don’t know where and how He is leading you to use the gifts He’s given you to impact others and His Kingdom.  Just as in every other strong relationship in your life, without communication, the relationship wouldn’t have grown to what it is today.

Look to each moment with purpose and with passion to serve God, and remember as a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit within you directing you to His will!

Friday, April 20, 2018

Stay with it…

“But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.”  Romans 8:25

Our patience gets tried just about every day in some way…and mine got tested yesterday at the ol’ Department of Motor Vehicles!  After nearly a year-long delay, we finally decided to register our vehicles with the State of Virginia.  As you probably know, going to DMV requires everything except a blood sample to even be able to get past the first counter, which gives you permission to sit in a chair for fifteen minutes while waiting for the second counter.  It’s pretty similar to the doctor’s office, where you wait for fifteen minutes for a room where you’ll wait another thirty, before being able to see a doctor that comes about ten minutes after you finally see the nurse.

All that to say, I made my way to the first counter, then to the chair, and finally to my destination at the second counter.  I had worked for a couple of days preparing myself for this journey, compiling all of the needed documents, as well as my spiritual strength to take on any hiccup that came my way.  As I begin to discuss my need to transfer the vehicle registrations from Mississippi to Virginia, she spots right away that my odometer mileage figure is incorrect…first surprise.  So I make a quick sprint out into the parking lot, grab it and meet her back at the counter.  As I’m huffing and puffing and leaning over out of breath, she tells me that I need to fill the entire form out again because she can’t just scratch out the incorrect number and right in the correct figure…second surprise.  She then notices that one of the vehicles is in Julie’s name, and I have already signed for it…nope, that’s not going to work, and Julie can’t sign it because she isn’t with me, so that vehicle isn’t getting registered…third surprise.  In the midst of all this, I had to make a quick call to ask Julie a question regarding some of the information, and I was asked to back away from the counter, and leave behind all of the paperwork that I needed to make the phone call, because I couldn’t use a cell phone anywhere near the counter…fourth surprise.

After a trip back home and a second trip to DMV, the mission was accomplished.  It wasn’t what I expected, and it didn’t go as I had envisioned it unfolding, but it was finally completed.  At the end of the whole ordeal, I was able to have some laughs with the nice lady that was helping me, and it turned out to be a very pleasant conversation.  But as I left, I thought about the many people who may have “lost their cool” in previous days, and said a few choice words when frustration hit, instead of “staying with it”, and being Christ-like in their words and actions.  I’ve learned to have a plan and to be as prepared as I can, but not to place expectations on people or situations because you just don’t know what’s going to pop up…and to stick with it and maintain a constant air of love even when things seem to go awry.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

It’s about obedience…

“As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance,”   1 Peter 1:14

I was talking with someone the other day and we were breaking down our daily life in terms of what we go through…how much of the day are we walking in blind faith?  How much of the day are we walking with pain?  How much of our day are we feeling relaxed?  All of these things are completely different for each person, and depend heavily on where someone is spiritually in their life, in their relationship with Christ.

If we simply follow the flesh, we’re going to desire pleasure-filled situations constantly, which as we all know is not the path of a Christian.  Also, even if someone is seeking situations or objects in an effort to just feel pleasure, it’s not going to happen but for short moments at a time, as true joy only comes in The Lord, not in things of this world.  People seek pleasure through drugs, alcohol, and other avenues that quench the thirst of the flesh, and not only does it lead to eventual “letdown”, but they aren’t experiencing what it means to have true joy in their life.

As Christians, we have joy in our hearts because Christ is leading your life.  Within that life of Christ, we know that it’s not about reaching for “pleasurable moments” throughout the day, but serving God with our whole hearts.  Sure, you will have moments of internal turmoil and pain, you will have moments where you are walking in complete faith, and you will have moments where you just have to wait for an answer…but you will also have moments where your entire self is relaxed and enjoying what God has placed in front of you.  As Christians we aren’t shooting to “feel good”, we are aiming to serve our Maker, and within our relationship with Him through Christ, you will experience many different feelings, but throughout it all you will have joy in your heart!

Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Judge not…

Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”  Matthew 7:1

Some are conservative, some are moderate, some are liberal, some are Christians, some are not.  Some work out of the home, some work from home, some are single, some are married.  Some raise children of their own, some raise children of another, some are unable to have children.  Some grew up in a stable environment, some grew up in an abusive situation.  Some went to church and some didn’t.  Some never have to worry about finances again, some live paycheck to paycheck, some don’t even know where the next meal is coming from.  Some have large groups of friends and others feel so isolated they struggle to see the Light.  Some grew up without parents, some have parents in rehab or prison, and some have familial help almost daily in their lives.

We all have such different paths.  We all grew up dealing with different conditions and situations, and in no way could we ever fully understand the path of another.  Christ says to those who follow Him, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”  Not only is it a commandment not to judge, and a sin to judge, but it’s extremely unhealthy to even venture into the arena of judgment.  It takes our focus off of our own path for Christ, it diminishes our witness, and also makes us think we know exactly what someone else is going through, and we don’t.

Whether someone is rich or poor, whether or not they went to college, whether they are a Christian or not, come into every moment of fellowship with nothing other than a desire to help and to love…you may just make a new friend, and God may just use both of you to help each other.

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Ask for help…

My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.”  Psalm 121:2

 One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned throughout life is to ask for help when it’s needed.  My parents taught me so many wonderful moral lessons growing up that still serve me in large ways today, but because I was so driven individually to succeed, I didn’t ask for much help as a youth.  It took a failed marriage, a lay-off, a foreclosure, and depression to bring me to my knees in prayer, and when I did, God helped me to see the Light.

But as I “re-started” my journey with Christ, which began at thirteen but got pushed to the back burner for many years, I was able to understand very quickly that I needed help…that we all need help.  This is especially tough for those of us who are extremely passionate about not only succeeding at something, but doing it our way!  God has gifted each of us in many ways, but many times in life we need to pair up our gift with another’s gift to make the project or situation as successful as it could be.

Every successful person in every profession has been blessed by the help of others, whether they recognize it or not.  As I’ve grown up, I’ve realized that maturity in the Christian faith has a strong element within it of recognizing where we are gifted, AND where we are not.  There’s no shame in asking for help, and in fact I encourage it almost weekly behind the pulpit...I need it, you need it, we all need it.  God provides help, but you have to ask for it…remember as Christians we are all part of the Body of Christ.

Monday, April 16, 2018

Developing boundaries…

“For all must carry their own loads.”  Galatians 6:5

 I’m a big proponent of always saying “yes” when it comes to helping others and doing for others…always saying yes, unless I really can’t for some reason, and then of course I have to say “no”.  Saying that one little word is a difficult thing for me, as it is for many, but without developing boundaries in our lives, we can get worn out, stressed out, and not as impactful with the things that we are saying yes to.

We talked about consistency yesterday in church, in the context of always being consistent with our individual ministries to others.  If we commit to something, then we should finish it.  If someone reaches out for help, we should embrace them with a positive attitude and an open ear.  If we are able to help we should help.  But there are certainly times when we simply don’t feel called to get involved in a situation, and we need to say no.  This doesn’t mean we aren’t a willing servant, but instead it means that we know where God is calling us to engage, and where He’s not.  We can’t all perform every single task, and help in every single scenario, but when you are called to help meet a need, give it all you have…give it the love of Christ.

Boundaries are one of the most important things that we are to develop and keep in this life, because without them, you may “get off track” when it comes to walking your individual path for God.  It takes a lot of listening, perseverance, faith and determination to build these boundaries and to keep them, but as you do, when you absolutely have to say no, you’ll begin to understand why, and it won’t be as difficult.

Sunday, April 15, 2018

Just keep moving…

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.”  Hebrews 12:1-2a 

The Monument Avenue 10K was held in Richmond yesterday, and although I’ve run it a couple times before, I decided not to enter this year.  Seeing all of the wonderful pictures of my friends finishing the race, something that they have been training for throughout the last few months, it brought back some memories for me from a race I ran as a freshman in high school.

It was a state track meet held at the University of Virginia in the spring of 1994, and I had qualified to compete in the two-mile race by placing fifth in the regional meet that was just a week prior at Christopher Newport University.  The race wasn’t scheduled to start until about four o’clock in the afternoon, so there was a lot of waiting and a lot of nerves throughout the day!  Thirty minutes before race time I began to stretch with the other competitors, and we would eventually take the starting line and wait to begin our eight laps around the track.  The gun goes off and we all jump into our positions, and begin our first trip around the quarter-mile loop.  Everything seemed to be going well, but on the second lap my right shoe lace comes undone, and I begin to quickly think about my options.  I could stop and deal with it, I could throw it off, or I could just keep going…which I ended up doing.

It certainly wasn’t what I had planned for, and not the ideal situation, but once I made my mind up to keep running, I tried my best to not make it an issue as I concentrated on the finish line.  I ended up running my fastest time ever in the two mile, and placing 23rd out of 25 competitors, but looking back, it was one of those defining moments for me as a young man when facing adversity.  Many times in life we get thrown a curve ball, and God directs us to just keep moving…and as you do, He reassures you along the way that He will provide…just keep moving.

Saturday, April 14, 2018

When to jump in…

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”  Romans 12:18

As my youngest daughter and I were leaving Kroger yesterday with a few items for dinner, I smelled fire as I walked through the parking lot to the car, and not long after saw the smoke.  There was actually a high-risk for fire notice put into action due to the strong winds, so it wasn’t surprising that a small smoldering fire may have been lit by a passer-by throwing a cigarette butt into the flower bed.  There weren’t any flames, and it would have been contained by the concrete curb that encapsulated the mulched flower bed, but I went ahead and told an employee to throw some water on it anyway.

In life we encounter many “fires”…at times there are none, and other days they seem to be burning all around you.  We don’t have answers to all of the problems in our life, and we can’t exhaust ourselves dealing with every single “fire” that comes up around us…it would drain your energy supply and render you less impactful in the situations where God is calling you to serve.  Many of these “fires” burning in our lives will simply smolder out, because a boundary already exists around it, just like the one I ran into yesterday at the grocery store, so there’s no need to exert any energy attempting to extinguish it.  Other “fires” may require a small bit of energy, but you aren’t responsible for constantly tending to the situation, as it could be someone else’s calling.  Finally, there are “fires” that we need to jump into right away where we are to give our best effort to put it out, because it could harm your spiritual walk, or the walk of others.

It’s tough to know when to engage difficult situations, because if we jump in too fast or where we aren’t called to give assistance, we could get burned ourselves.  May God guide you and direct you as you deal with the difficult situations of life.  Have a wonderful weekend!

Friday, April 13, 2018

Consistency builds trust, which builds excitement…

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”  Matthew 5:16

As soon as school ended and summer break started, as a child and youth I would often take that first week off to go and spend time with my grandparents.  We lived a good forty-five minutes away, so getting time to see them during the school year was difficult, outside of holidays.  I got so accustomed to the daily schedule for that particular week each year that I never had to wonder what I’d be doing once I arrived on that Saturday morning.

I knew that on Sunday morning we’d have Pillsbury Cinnamon Rolls, and I knew that we’d attend church where both of my grandparents sang in the choir and all of their friends would tell me how I had grown up so much in the past year.  On Monday mornings, I would load up the lawnmower with Pop and head back to church for outside lawn maintenance, and to clean up the pastor’s office and sanctuary.  My job was to gather old communion cups and bulletins from the pews as we compiled trash from all around the church.  But Wednesdays were reserved for Granny Pat and her trip to town.  We’d jump into her giant Oldsmobile station wagon with wood-grain paneling, and head to Jean’s Beauty Salon, where I’d sit and wait for three hours for her to get her hair done while listening to all of her friends tell me how much they wish they had my curly hair.  Leaving that salon at 11:00 after patiently waiting for her hair to dry, meant that I would be rewarded by getting to go next door to the drug store and pick out a new Matchbox car from the front counter!  Every other weekday morning I’d wait for Pop to read The Upper Room Devotional before heading out to the shop with him, where he’d be working on his latest piece of furniture or fixing an antique for a neighbor. 

There are so many reasons why I enjoyed this time with my grandparents each summer, but as I think back, it was the consistent schedule that I looked forward to as a child.  I knew that there were definitive times where I’d be able to spend time with each of them…I knew that I could count on that consistency, and that as long as I was willing to make the trip, they were willing to make it a blast for me.  “Letting our light shine” each day has everything to do with our words and deeds, but within that, it has a lot to do with how consistent we are with sharing Christ’s love through word and deed.  When others get to the point of trusting you, they can really begin to join you in this journey, and you’re able to shine His light even brighter as you walk with them.

Thursday, April 12, 2018

Find your center…

"Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock.”  Matthew 7:24

I listen to several different preachers throughout the week for my own personal spiritual growth, and I heard one say the other day that it’s not hard to figure out what is number one in our lives…just look to where we put most of our thought and our energy, and you’ll find it.  I think there’s a lot of truth to it, and it made me think about my own life, and my walk with Christ.

Our priorities can change from day to day, and season to season, but overall, I believe there is but two options when it comes to how we live our lives.  One option is placing ourselves in the center, and letting everything else (family, friends, work, hobbies, relationship with Christ, budget, etc.) fall into a spot in our lives in a way we see fit.

The other option is placing Christ at the center, and let everything else in our lives find its place based on our walk with Him.  There really is no gray area…you lead or you allow Christ to lead.  You make your own agenda the foundation for your day, or you lean on the foundation of Christ to guide you as you plan, prioritize and impact the world for Him.

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

A common goal leads to unity…

“Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.”  Philippians 2:2

We haven’t been able to take a family vacation with the kids up to this point in the life of our family for a few different reasons.  At times, money has been the issue, while other times it was because we were in the middle of one of our eight moves since being married.  But more recently, the reason has been more about the kids not being on the same page as us when it comes to public behavior!

Sure, it’s a humorous matter once you get home, but even with a disciplined and structured environment, when you have two children with very big personalities, it makes public trips extremely taxing and stressful.  My two younger daughters are very different than my oldest daughter, who I could take anywhere as a toddler.  I vividly remember people at the various churches I visited telling me how impressed they were with her behavior in the church pew during the entire service.  Emma wouldn’t make a peep, and she was so still that she wouldn’t even use the crayons and coloring book that greeters would give to us as we walked in.  When you have a child (ren) with a big personality, you really have to look at daily life differently than we you have a child that just goes with the flow…every activity you participate in has to be conducive to somewhat erratic behavior…hence why we just aren’t at the point yet where investing in a vacation makes sense.

A group is only as strong as their ability to work together, and their opportunity to grow parallels their ability to unify as a team.  As I’ve gotten older, I haven’t concentrated as much on numbers as I have on unity.  Without unity a team can’t accomplish the mission, and without unity a team can’t reach goals.  Everyone needs to be moving toward the same goal, to be on the same mission…without unity, a group will just be spinning wheels and possibly even going backwards.  We all have different gifts to offer and different ways we are able to serve others, but we are called to use these gifts within the common goal of spreading the love of Christ to the world…and it’s this love that bonds groups of people, and unifies them with purpose.

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Pay attention, He’s all around…

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.”   Matthew 5:8

I was talking with a friend of mine yesterday about the “little things” of life, and how they are so important and significant in the grand scheme of things.  Love is certainly passed from one to another through the big moments of life, but I believe that most of the time it’s given and received in the smaller, less conspicuous situations of life…we just have to pay attention.

There’s an older couple that I frequently encounter where I go to work on my sermon preparation that blesses me each time that I see them, and they don’t even know it.  After walking in and filling their Tervis Tumblers that they bring from home with Diet Coke, they sit down at the same small four-chair table to begin their activity together.  A book of crossword puzzles is pulled out and they each have a pen in hand ready to contribute an answer to the next riddle.  They don’t talk a lot, and they hardly ever look up, except to take a sip of Diet Coke, and then back at filling in the boxes, together.

Many times in life we look to be blessed, we try to find patterns or objects that will bless us…when all we need to do is look around and join God in what is currently happening…simply look around.  He may ask you to contribute, or He may just ask you to listen and watch…either way, when we truly look for God, we will find Him.

Monday, April 9, 2018

Strong focus…

“Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.”   Proverbs 4:25

Of all the sports that I played growing up, golf was by far the toughest.  Not only do you need to have a decent swing, and have some sort of idea where the ball will end up, but to be successful on the course, you need a strong resolve and mental focus.  It’s definitely a game of inches, and anything, I mean anything can affect the golf swing, and in turn the direction of the ball.  A professional golfer is always dealing with the temperature, the wind, the amount of precipitation in the air or on the ground, hazards, wood-lines, and large galleries of people watching, along with their own personal experiences in that particular season of life.  When factoring in all of these dynamic factors, and combining them with those moments when a player makes a mistake on the course, it takes extreme focus to overcome it and move onto the next shot, and the next tee box. 

I have extreme respect for all professional athletes, but every time I watch professional golf, I’m reminded that it’s probably the toughest “mental sport” out there.  Yesterday, a young golfer by the name of Patrick Reed finished the Masters Tournament at 15 under par, which is an incredible score.  After finishing the first three rounds of the tournament as the top golfer, almost every commentator said he’d still lose to Rory McIlroy, which of course didn’t happen.  The commentators all said he wouldn’t have the mental toughness to overcome the pressure of such a grand moment, but he proved them all wrong.  Each time a mistake crept into his game, his quickly moved on to the next shot, often times still making par.

Sometimes it feels like a million things pulling at us daily, and diverting our attention from the bigger picture of our mission for God.  But be comforted by knowing that He loves you unconditionally, and that He can and will work through your mistakes, so learn from them, but don’t get hung up in the past in a way that is detrimental to your future.  Take the lesson into your heart and move forward ready to impact the Kingdom!

Sunday, April 8, 2018

Add to, don’t take away…

“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”  Colossians 4:6

Nothing is more confusing than receiving a response that is convoluted, hazy, or unclear, and it makes it difficult to know how to “respond to the response”.  What do I say?  How do I say it?  Should I even respond at all?  It’s especially difficult as we journey with Christ, doing our best through the guidance of the Holy Spirit to impact lives in a positive way.  What do we do when we just don’t have a clue how to respond?

In the above verse, to be gracious means to be courteous, kind or polite, and in Greek this word stays in the same thread, denoting kindness, gratitude and thanks.  If it is our aim to be kind, to be thankful and to show gratitude with our speech, and we run into situations where we are clueless on what to say or how to respond, remember that however you “respond to the response”, do it in a way that adds to the person, and doesn’t take away from their walk.  They could be exhausted from the day, emotionally spent, or just not truly ready to respond to you with their full heart…and that’s ok.  There’s no need to worry about it or take on stress because of it…just continue on the path God is laying before you in the day, but remember to respond and/or leave the conversation in a way that you add and not take away from someone else’s journey.  Maybe just an “Ok, I’m praying for you”, “I’m hear if you need me”, “Hope you have a great day”, or just pure silence sometimes is necessary.

Salt adds or enhances the flavor of food.  String beans…not good, but with salt, tasty!  Mashed potatoes…bland, but with salt (and butter), smooth and silky goodness!  May your words and actions, no matter how subtle, enhance someone else’s walk, even when you are confused on how to respond.

Saturday, April 7, 2018

When to share…

“A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”  Proverbs 18:2

Have you ever tried to pour water into a glass that is full…hope not!  Have you ever tried to pour water into a cup with a hole in it…you may have been pouring for a while!  This is basically what happens when we give our thoughts or opinions on matters when it’s just not the right time…when it’s not God calling us to do it, but our own desire to let others know what we think.  I’ve added trouble to my life and stress to many of my days by not following God in this area, as I began speaking without first thinking if my opinion was needed…if I was even called to speak.

During seminary I was required to attend a 10-week group therapy session as part of a chaplaincy internship at VCU Medical Center.  I had never been to a therapist before or been part of such a group, but I was pretty enthusiastic about starting this road to strengthening my spiritual life and learning more about myself.  It was a pretty diverse group of people, from all ages, races, spiritual denominations and cultures, which gave way to some great discussion around topics we encountered each day in the hospital or personal issues we were dealing with.  We had one particular member, Brian, who was the oldest of the group and a Catholic priest…a well-dressed fella who actually bought me my first bow-tie!  Every time we encountered a very difficult conversation, which happened often, he’d sit back and just listen to all of our thoughts and charged responses for about twenty minutes without saying a word.  At the end of the twenty minutes our group facilitator, knowing Brian was full of wisdom, would say, “So Brian, what do you think?”  He’d then make one statement that summed up the whole conversation, and it always made perfect sense, leaving us all speechless.

Your voice matters, your opinions matter, your thoughts matter…but there is a time to share and a time to listen.  As we interact with each other, we should seek the wisdom of God to know where and how we fit into each conversation, so that we’re not pouring water into a cup that’s already full.

Friday, April 6, 2018

Don’t I know you?

“And he said to them, “Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation.”  Mark 16:15

Didn’t you work with my brother?  Didn’t you live down the street from me in Atlanta?  I think I met you at a conference not long ago in North Carolina…how are you doing?

From as far back as my teenage years, people have approached me at least once or twice a month, thinking I was someone else…someone they worked with, a friend of a friend, or a guy that worked a booth at an arts and crafts show last fall.  It’s happened so many times that I can pretty much pick out the people that will eventually approach me, as I notice them locking eyes with me and getting that “stuck” look on their face…you can almost see pain in their expressions because of how determined they are to figure this mystery out.  Even when a person chooses to not approach me, I can tell the gears are turning in their minds trying to figure out who I am, as I glance up and catch them consistently staring.

I guess I’ve gotten used to the fact that God gave me a general facial appearance, or maybe it’s because I look funny, but whatever reason it is, it’s been a large part of my life and one that I’m starting to live into a little more each day.  Instead of asking God what’s up with this mystery, I’ve embraced it and began to use it as a catalyst for sparking conversation about life, about mountaintops and valleys, and sometimes even Christ.  I’m beginning to focus on the mission of the moment, rather than why the moment came to be.  We are called to proclaim the Gospel, and to share the love of Christ…and God has given you a special way to fulfill this mission…have you embraced it?

Thursday, April 5, 2018

A heat source…

“For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands.”  2 Timothy 1:6

The first home that Julie and I lived in had a wood-burning fireplace, and we used it at least three to four times a week during the winter months.  I especially miss it now that we have gas logs that never seem to work because of a short in the wiring, lending us only a small pilot flame that doesn’t even heat the fireplace that it sits in.

The Greek word for “fan into flame”, or in your Bible it may be “stir up”, “kindle anew” or “rekindle”, means to get the fire going, or to resuscitate the fire from a point where it’s almost going out.  With Christ in your life, you have the eternal flame burning in your heart and soul, but our spiritual growth doesn’t stop at the moment of salvation, but continues throughout our life through constant communion with God and fellowship with others. 

A wood-burning fire that’s almost out, or a set of gas logs that only emit a pilot light because of an electrical short, can make just a small impact.  Just think of how long it would take to make a s’more with only glowing embers!  But a flame that reaches high above the wood pile can provide a method of cooking, and also a heat source for an entire group of people…and that’s a beautiful image, that when you “fan into flame the gift of God”, Christ will be a resource in multiple ways for others through His unconditional love in you.

Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Kingdom impact…

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.  Ephesians 2:10

You walk into a meeting…you stumble upon someone in need…you step through the doorway on your way to a family dinner…you jump into the golf cart for a quick round with a friend…how can you add to the situation?  How can you bring something positive to the environment?  What is God asking of you in the moment?

We meet with people, call people, text people, and email people daily…and in each instance you have one of two choices no matter the context of the situation.  You can view the moment from a surface perspective, or you can see it as an opportunity to impact the Kingdom.  When you look at each interaction as just another dinner, just another meeting, just another round of golf, you’re not seeing the full potential that you have to influence someone through the Holy Spirit in you.

My father always taught me that when doing anything in life, to do it well, and do it in a way that no one can ever be critical of your effort.  Whatever you come upon today in terms of work or play, give it your best effort, and have as much fun as possible!  The way you live life can and will impact people for the Kingdom when you do it in love and with Christ leading!

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Different is good!

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  Genesis 1:27

As we get into the heart of our study on Wednesday nights around the topic of Myers Briggs and spirituality, we’re beginning to realize how different we all are, but that it’s a good thing!  According to this test there are 16 different personality types!  You may wonder why your spouse, friend, family member or co-worker doesn’t enjoy being out among large crowds very often, or why they seem to be a little better at seeing the details of the plans that you make together…there is a reason!  God creates us in His own image, which is such a beautiful thought!  But we are all created differently with various gifts, and we all process information and react in different ways, based on how He creates us.

If I don’t get enough interaction with people, I will literally start to feel lazy and lethargic, because as an extrovert, I need to get my energy from socializing with people and being out in the world.  Those who are introverts need more time by themselves to regain energy…being alone for an introvert is where they “recharge”.  You may be a person that sticks strongly to structure and logic when you make plans, but your partner leans more toward thinking about how others involved in the situation may feel, or be impacted by the plan before making it. 

These differences can certainly cause conflict…Why does he/she not see things my way?  Why do they take so long to make decisions?  Why won’t thing bend just this one time?  Why can’t they make a quick decision?  Why aren’t they open to change?  These all are questions that concentrate on “self”. 

Instead ask…Wonder how he/she sees this differently than me?  Maybe I should let them ponder on this for a while because they’ll see something I didn’t?  Maybe their solution fits better in this situation than mine?  God created us in His image, but He created us all differently…for a reason…embrace it and embrace your differences!  You can learn so much from others, especially those who aren’t like you! 

Monday, April 2, 2018

Walk with Him…

“Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.”  James 4:8

There are times when I truly feel that I’m walking in heaven on earth…when my soul is so full of peace and love that I come to tears because I’m so thankful.  Yesterday we celebrated the Risen Christ on Easter, and the day started with a cool, but comfortable sunrise service on our church’s front lawn, followed by a breakfast filled with awesome fellowship with members and visitors from the community.  We then proceeded upstairs to our Sunday School hour where we talked about life challenges that we come upon as young adults, learning rich lessons from each other that will help us along life’s journey…and then to a wonderful worship filled with handshakes and hugs of love as we celebrated the Resurrection of Christ through the account in the Gospel of John.

As we all left church, we placed flowers at the foot of the Cross, took pictures, talked some more, and said goodbyes before going home to spend the afternoon with family.  Julie and I had my parents, sister and uncle all over for a Mission Barbeque lunch filled with several homemade side dishes, and topped it off with a birthday cake celebrating my uncle’s birthday.  My mother had planned an Easter egg hunt for the girls, so after making a mess of their lunch, the girls quickly ran outside and begged us to begin hiding the eggs.  As mom began the task of finding those good hiding spots, a friendly neighbor of ours came by as he walked his dog to say hello, and let us know that he’s always around if we need anything at all.  The hiding is completed and the girls begin their hunt, each finding the golden egg with several small chocolate eggs in them…and Daddy had to get a couple for himself!  The day has been nothing short of amazing, and then my Dad tells the girls to close their eyes as he grabs something from his truck parked on the street.  He tells the girls to open their eyes, and out comes two brand-new bikes with training wheels, and off they both go down the street, full of excitement! 

Our family leaves for home, and we all proceed to go back inside and digest the huge meal and regain some energy!  Julie, Edie and I all fall asleep on the couch while Laney made a rainbow out of playdoh upstairs.  Upon waking up, we all go back outside for more bike riding and run into a new couple on the block with a son not much older than Laney.  The girls immediately take to him and begin riding up and down the street together while we catch up with the parents.  After some enjoyable conversation on the curb of the cul-de-sac, and a few falls on the bikes, we head back inside to wind the night down, and talk about how much we appreciate what God has done for us.

For me, walking with God means appreciating every moment that I’m on this earth, and simply understanding that I need to constantly leave my agenda behind, and look for where I can join in and serve.  For me, walking with God is watching others enjoy life as they encounter His blessings in their own life…walking with God makes me feel like I’m in heaven on earth.

Sunday, April 1, 2018

He is Risen!

Mary Magdalene went to the disciples with the news: “I have seen the Lord!”  John 20:18

How many times in life do we act on emotion…do we immediately respond based on how we feel?  I know I’ve been there many times.  When we look at the Resurrection story in the Gospel of John, we see where the two disciples and Mary all seemed to struggle with understanding that Jesus wasn’t dead, but fully alive! 

John tells us that the disciples still didn’t understand that Jesus was to rise from the dead after they saw the empty tomb, and keep in mind they had heard Jesus say prior to His death that He would suffer, die and be raised on the third day…but yet they didn’t understand.  Mary Magdalene was so upset in her mourning that she didn’t initially recognize Jesus when she saw Him at the tomb, and even thought He was the gardener!  Jesus could have had a different physical appearance at this particular moment, causing Mary to not notice Him, but was it about His appearance, or Mary not truly “seeing” Jesus? 

The two disciples and Mary had all heard from Christ before His death concerning what was to happen, and He fulfilled His promise and biblical prophecy by rising from the grave.  He presented Himself to her after He arose…but yet she was concerned primarily about finding His body.  In her darkest moment of mourning at the tomb, Jesus simply says, “Mary”, and she turns to Him with exclamation and joy, and would eventually go and tell the disciples of her encounter with Jesus and the things He told her.  When we turn our eyes upon Jesus and truly “see” Him, He fills us with so much joy, that it leads our life in a way that moves us through difficult times, and charges us with passion to go and tell others!

Saturday, March 31, 2018

Cast your questions…

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.”  Psalm 55:22

There are many things in this life that we cannot explain, things that are just impossible to put into words.  It could be a momentous event in your life that brings so much joy that you can hardly contain yourself…it could be an illness that you contend with daily, that brings you constant physical and emotional pain…it could be extreme sadness after losing someone that you shared the most intimate moments of life with, someone who stayed by you through thick and thin.

For me, it’s having a daughter that chooses to not involve me, my wife or my other two children (her half-sisters) in her life.  Nothing “bad” has happened to cause it, there hasn’t been a specific incident that’s led to this divide, and it’s not just because she’s a teenager.  It’s actually been so long since I’ve celebrated a holiday with her, that I can’t even remember the year.  The pain that comes along with this constant and continual situation is at times more than I can bear…having a child that brought me to weeping when she was born, and a child that brought me through a depression, wants nothing to do with our family.  It’s simply unexplainable, and we’ve stopped trying to come up with answers.

As we look to Easter Sunday, we focus on the Risen Christ…the One who died for you.  Through Him, we receive salvation, through Him we are forgiven, through Him we receive eternal life, through Him we are forever unconditionally loved, and to Him we can give those questions that remain unanswered, and find peace.

Friday, March 30, 2018

Give up self…

“When he had received the drink, Jesus said, "It is finished." With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.”  John 19:30

In Jesus’ last moments on earth, it says that “He gave up His spirit”.  Jesus’ ministry here on earth where He was constantly questioned by the Pharisees, where He dealt with doubt among His disciples, and where He continually ministered to and met the needs of others, changing lives forever, was finished through His death on the Cross.  His mission to bring the message of salvation and eternal life through Him to the world was fulfilled, accomplished through His death.

Jesus committed Himself to the mission and work that God the Father had laid before Him, and He would give His life for that mission, so that we may be saved.  "For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.”

This is a dark day as we reflect on what Christ did for us on the Cross…He gave His life for you…He gave His life for the sins of the world.  May we commit our lives to Him today and every day, so that we may accomplish the mission that God is laying before us…impacting lives forever.

Thursday, March 29, 2018

Come to the table…

“And he took bread, and gave thanks, and broke it, and gave to them, saying, This is my body which is given for you: this do in remembrance of me.”  Luke 22:19

My two most vivid memories of attending church as a child are Wednesday night pot-luck suppers, and reading “Do this in remembrance of Me” on the communion table each Sunday.  I’m not sure why, but my eyes always got locked on those words throughout the service.  There’s something about the word “remembrance” that continually hooks me, even today when we observe communion once a month, I find myself reflecting on that word as I speak of Christ, His body, His blood, and His sacrifice for us.

The Greek word “anamnesis” denotes a recalling or memory, a remembrance.  Christ offered up Himself on the cross for you and for me…He gave Himself for you and for me.  After breaking the bread, Jesus then goes on to say, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you.”  In both verses 19 and 20, the phrase “for you” is seen.  For you He suffered, for you He died, for you He forgives sin, for you He gives eternal life, for you He gives unconditional love, for you He gives a real, constant relationship…and it all begins with belief. 

He calls us to come and follow Him…come to the table…come and give your life to Him daily…and always remember what He did for you, because He loves you so.

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Being convicted…

“I am he,” Jesus said. (And Judas the traitor was standing there with them.)  When Jesus said, “I am he,” they drew back and fell to the ground.  John 18:5b-6 

The Gospel of John is the only Gospel that mentions this specific dialogue in reference to the conversation Jesus had with those who came to arrest Him in the Garden of Gethsemane.  John writes earlier in verse three that Judas came with officials of the chief priests and the Pharisees, but that he also came with a Roman detachment of soldiers.  In Greek, the word speiran” is used for the word detachment, denoting a cohort or band of soldiers, which was a tenth of a legion of soldiers…and an average legion was 5,000 men.  Doing some quick math, this means that the detachment or cohort of Roman soldiers that accompanied Judas could have been as many as 500 men, in addition to the Jewish officials! 

When Jesus asked them who it was that they wanted (knowing exactly what was to happen), they responded by saying “Jesus of Nazareth”.  Jesus then says, “I am he.”  John tells us that upon Jesus responding, “they drew back and fell to the ground.”  Another way of understanding what happened in this moment, is that 500+ men retreated and fell to the ground in submission and under condemnation for what they were about to do.  They would soon arrest Jesus, and He would eventually die on a Cross for you and me, and be raised by the power and Spirit of God on the third day.  But for that moment in time, I believe those men were convicted of what they were about to do, in a way that made them feel extreme guilt, knowing that it truly was God in the flesh that they were about to apprehend.

Whether we’re being convicted of not following God, or being strongly convicted about what God is calling us to do, being convicted in your heart is a sign of something God is communicating to you…follow it, and follow Him.

Tuesday, March 27, 2018

No need to fear…

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”  Isaiah 41:10

As a forester, I’ve run into just about every native animal in the state of Virginia while assessing various tracts of land, except for a black bear…until…

It was 2001 and I was finishing up an internship in Beckley, West Virginia, where I worked for a high-grade hardwood sawmill that produced lumber for multiple markets overseas.  On one particular evening at my Winterplace Resort rental house, I decided to make my way down the several winding steps to my Toyota pickup truck to grab something I had left behind…in complete darkness.  There was a security light at the corner of the house but for some reason on this particular night it didn’t come on, so I used the wooden railing to guide my way. 

As I took my last step prior to hitting the gravel driveway, the light decided to pop on, and to my extreme surprise, I was facing a 300 pound black bear about five feet away that was making his way over to my trashcans.  Needless to say, I hightailed it back up the twenty or so wooden steps and into the house.  The bear didn’t seem to be bothered by me as much as I was by him.  He continued his mission over to the trashcans, took off the lids and made a mess, but not before standing up on his hind legs and looking into the bed of my truck for any other possible late night snacks.  About a week prior to this event, I had thrown away an entire pizza from a work function, and it had disappeared from the trashcan, and the trashcan lid was back on…I guess this bear had manners!

As you leave your home this morning, you will likely encounter folks you didn’t plan on running into, and situations that you didn’t expect to materialize, and there’s a chance that one of those situations will put you on your heels, but fear not, for God is with you.

Monday, March 26, 2018


“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor”   Ecclesiastes 4:9

We don’t get to do it much anymore, but my father and I used to go fishing for Rockfish, or Striped Bass in the Chesapeake Bay, just a short boat ride from my parents’ home.  The big rockfish season is during the colder months, so we always had to bundle up in clothes that you would normally wear to go hunting, or you wouldn’t last long on open water. 

Rockfish like most fish, swim in schools, and if you can’t find those schools, you’re going to have a long day on the Bay.  Being a good saltwater fisherman of the big fish takes practice, patience and a good network of friends on the CB radio!  People who have sought out Rockfish for years typically know the places that they will congregate depending on the time of year, water temperature and the current amount of available food sources.  Sometimes Rockfish migrate from the ocean to the Bay sooner than expected, and sometimes they leave the Bay for open water a tad later than usual…it all depends on that specific year.

But again, finding the fish all depends on teamwork…if you’ve built up good friendships on the water, there’s a good chance you’ll get tipped off to “where the gulls are flying”, because seagulls usually follow the feeding frenzy of Rockfish, hoping to get some of the scraps.  The relationships you build as a fisherman are just as important, if not more important than the boat and all the gear you invest in to go fishing, because without good information, you won’t be able to find the fish!  As you walk along the path God is laying for you, be open to every opportunity to start or build a relationship with someone…you never know when someone may need your help, or when you may need the help of another.

Sunday, March 25, 2018

Trusting God…

Those who were sent ahead went and found it just as he had told them’”  Luke 19:32

As Jesus prepared to enter Jerusalem, less than a week before His death for us on the Cross, he sent two of His disciples on ahead to the village to procure a colt…and those disciples went, and obeyed without questioning, complaining, or giving conditions.  When you look at the earlier stories of Jesus calling Simon Peter, Andrew, James, John and Matthew to follow Him, a very similar response is seen. 

Jesus calls them to follow Him, and scripture tells us they left at once and followed…they left immediately and followed…and in Matthew’s case, he got up and followed.  Nets were left behind, a boat was left behind, a father was left behind, and a tax collector’s booth was left behind, which was a place where Matthew probably made a healthy living, as tax collectors were known to fill their pockets at the expense of others.  As they accepted the call to follow Christ, there were no questions, no complaints, no conditions, and no more dialogue.

How often do we question God when He calls us to do something, or follow through with obedience only to continually ask, “What’s going to happen now?”  Christ came into Jerusalem and the world just as He comes into our life, offering peace, forgiveness, love and eternal life…but it starts with belief, trust and obedience.

Saturday, March 24, 2018

Putting others first…

In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”  Acts 2:35

I’m driving down Interstate 64 toward the east end of Richmond yesterday, and traffic slows down dramatically where it begins to leave the city.  Soon after there are signs saying that the left two lanes (out of 3) will be closing, and drivers need to merge right.  Most of the traffic heeds the warning and prepares for the upcoming lane closure by getting over, but there are some that stretch the limits and ride that soon-to-be closed lane(s) for as long as they can.  In fact I watch two drivers specifically that continue in the left lane so far as to almost run into the VDOT truck with the flashing sign to get over.  They see the signs just like everyone else, but choose to not follow the directions, and in turn cause problems for everyone else who does.  When they finally get over, everyone that had already merged has to slam on the brakes to allow them the space to fit in.

There are times in life where we can have something, achieve something, or continue doing something that will benefit us, but the question is, how is it affecting those around us?  Our mission as Christians is to spread the love of Christ, and to serve Him, not ourselves.  We each have gifts to offer the world as we journey with Christ, and our focus should be to use those gifts to help others and build them up.

Friday, March 23, 2018

A new beginning…

The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.  2 Peter 3:9

When I was thirteen-years-old, I did something really stupid…and it hasn’t stopped there!  My grandfather had always carried around small pocket knives that he used frequently to cut his fingernails in between moments of smoking his pipe.  On one visit with him and my grandmother, he gave me a pocket knife to keep, one that he had received while serving as Fire Chief of the Defense Supply Center in Richmond.  I thought I had hit the big-time with this little knife, because my parents would never have given me one themselves.  I chose not to tell them, and then take it a step further, and bring it to school the next day to show all of my friends, and of course no one would ever find out!

My grandfather, Pop, I’m sure assumed I’d use common sense about when and where I carried it, but I didn’t.  After telling a few of my friends about it, trying to look cool, word got around that I had a pocket knife in my possession, and would eventually be called up to the assistant principal’s office.  Being that my other grandfather was the superintendent, she gave me the option of either her calling my parents, or allowing me to do it…to which I chose the former.  I knew I’d deal with the wrath once I got home, and figured I delay it as long as I could.  Keep in mind that this was the first time I had ever gotten into “real” trouble.

After getting home, facing my parents and receiving my punishment, I went up to my room and began to think about how I could have done such a thing.  The next five days out-of-school were going to be tough.  Each day I had to tackle all of the current yard projects my father had undertaken, along with grass cutting, washing cars, vacuuming the house and doing the constant classwork and homework sent home from teachers…I can still feel the daily struggle today from that week.  I had never felt so bad about something that I’d done up to this point in my life, and then Doug came into the picture.

Doug was the Rector of St. Peter’s Episcopal Church, where George and Martha Washington were married, and he and his wife lived next door to us in the church’s parsonage.  I would take care of their cats from time to time when they went on vacation, so we knew each other pretty well.  I think a little birdie told him about the mess I had gotten myself into, and one day he made his way through a small patch of woods to come and speak with me as I scrubbed the wheels of my father’s Oldsmobile Delta Eighty-Eight.  At this point in my life, I wasn’t a Christian, but had been attending church with my family every Sunday since I was a small child.  He came up to me with a big smile, and after chatting for a little bit, ended the conversation with me by saying, “Well as we say, all you need to do is repent”, and then he walked back to his car and drove off.  It was the first time in that entire week of internal turmoil and pain that I felt relaxed and relieved.  I was still understanding what “repent” meant, but I knew about Christ and I knew repenting led to something better, something good. 

Later that same year I gave my life to Christ at the age of thirteen.  Was it this event of complete stupidity that led to it?  Was it the fact that I had been attending church my whole life?  Was it because I was watching “The Ten Commandments” with Charlton Heston the night before I walked the aisle?  I’m not really sure, but I am sure of one thing…through Doug’s loving character in a time of extreme pain in my life, I felt forgiven, and I felt that I had a new beginning.

Thursday, March 22,2018

Take the time…

“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.”  Ephesians 4:2

I’m sitting in a coffee shop focused on the task at hand, and the lady reading the newspaper beside me says, “So, did you go to Tech?”  As I realize that she had seen my shirt, I answered with a quick yes.  She went on to ask me when I graduated, and told me that her son had graduated just a year before me, in 2000.  The more we talked, the more we learned about each other.  She is actually a member of a large Baptist church not far from where I live, and has been attending there for over thirty years.  It’s a pretty interesting thing…once folks find out that I’m a pastor, one of two things happen…they begin to open up more about life, or they completely shut down and go back to what they’re doing.  I’m glad she chose the former, because I really enjoy engaging people…been like that since I was a kid.

As we got deeper into the conversation, she revealed that her son was actually in the process of a divorce, with two kids stuck right in the middle.  I could tell that she was hesitant to expose this part about her family, but once she realized I had been through the same situation, she felt free to speak about her concerns.  We talked about the stigma of divorce, how much it changes your life, and the effects of it on the children.  As our time drew to a close, I acknowledged how nice it was to have met her, and then we prayed together, and she went about her way.

So many times in life, if not every day it seems, we are slam-busy, and the last thing we desire is to take a moment to do something that isn’t part of the day’s plan.  But as believers, we are to trust God, not our agenda.  Sure, it may take longer to get something done that you were working on, or you may have to put it off to another day, but isn’t God big enough to handle our schedules if we give them to Him? 

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Being sensitive to the situation…

“To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some.”  1 Corinthians 9:22

It was January in the year 2000, and I along with some friends were standing in the waiting area of the Christiansburg Applebee’s, just outside of Blacksburg, VA, hoping to get seated as we were starving.  The restaurant was packed, and Hokie Nation was in full-effect as Virginia Tech had just come off of an undefeated football season under the field leadership of a guy named Michael Vick.  Unfortunately Tech lost the National Championship to the Florida State Seminoles, but because of Vick, the Hokies were now on the map, and the school would be forever changed.

As we patiently waited, I see the door open and the crowd part for a group of guys, so instinctively I turned my head to look.  In comes Nathaniel Adibi, the Hokies great defensive end, and right behind him was Michael Vick.  Everyone was completely star-struck as he walked in calm and collected, and most of the people waiting allowed him the space to walk through to the host counter.  It wasn’t but five minutes that had passed, and I see him and Nathaniel making their way back out of the restaurant and on to another establishment for dinner.  The word was that things got a little crazy inside the restaurant, and he wasn’t able to get a bit of privacy.

In life we come upon many people each day…some family, some friends, some acquaintances, some co-workers, some are Christian, and some are not.  Regardless of who you come across, do your best to build that bridge with them…and meet them where they are in that specific moment of life.  There’s no blanket approach to working with people, because a blanket approach doesn’t take into account the person, their life experience, and their current situation.  Being all things to all people is challenging, and at times we may struggle to find the blueprint for that bridge, but remember, it’s all based on love.  When we approach others with love, and not a desire to drive home a point, or follow through with our own personal agenda, we have a much greater chance at not overwhelming them, and providing a safe space to fellowship.

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

He brings healing…

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”  Psalm 147:3

I’m strapping Laney into the car seat in preparation for the short ride to school yesterday, and I’m rushing to get that last buckle clicked into place because we are running a tad behind.  I quickly realize that the two sides of the buckle don’t have enough slack, allowing them to come together, so I make a quick adjustment using the main strap-feed button on the bottom of the car seat.  As I hastily press the button and pull my finger back out, not taking the time to look at what I’m doing, the skin on the top of my finger catches a very sharp plastic edge.  I knew as soon as it happened that it probably wasn’t good, and after looking down I see a deep slice taken from my finger.  After running back upstairs and administering a little first-aid to myself, we’re off to school, and my finger will be just fine.

There are times in life when we get “cut to the bone”, and it hurts physically, and it hurts emotionally, and we may even try to “heal ourselves” through various methods as we look for answers and direction.  Going through life situations that cut us deeply can be very traumatic, possibly causing internal panic and anxiety, and flat-out knock us off balance.  Know two things…you are not alone, and with Christ in your heart, God is with you.  The word “binds” seen in Psalm 147:3, is also used in Job 28:11, where Job speaks of imagery surrounding a mining operation…as one would go into a mine shaft, God prevents the streams from breaking out into the shaft and endangering the miner, allowing them to venture deep within the mine to see the hidden treasures of silver, gold, copper and iron that lie beneath the earth. 

We life cuts us deep, we may tend to run to our own devices, or even run from the situation, but as Psalm 147 tells us, and as Job illustrates to us, God will bring wisdom, comfort and guidance in the deepest and darkest of places, and He will bind up your wounds.

Monday, March 19, 2018

Being part of a family…

“Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.”  1 Corinthians 12:27

In the eight years I spent in the business world prior to ministry, I was able to be a part of countless projects, serving companies and private individuals.  The best part of the job for me was helping a client achieve a desired goal, and watching them light up when the finished product was presented.  There was something about being part of someone else’s success…being happy because they were happy…being joyful because they were joyful. 

In ministry, it’s been no different for me.  I’m honored to serve God by serving others daily, and blessed to be part of the lives of so many wonderful people.  Just yesterday, God added two new members to our church, and I couldn’t have been more excited as I watched their excitement to be part of such a loving Body of believers.

I could hardly contain my excitement as they walked down the aisle and up front to join the church.  We shared a prayer together and after presenting them to the congregation, they were affirmed as new members with complete and unconditional love.  We all joined hands and sang, “Blessed Be the Tie That Binds”, and everyone then came up to embrace these two wonderful people, welcoming them to the church.  As we all began to disperse, one of the new members looked at me and said, “I’m so happy, and now I’m ready to get started with my new church family.”  For me, that’s what brings me joy…watching others grow in Christ and get excited about the journey with Him.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Times have changed, but Christ is constant…LOVE…

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”  Hebrews 13:8

My parents came down for a visit with us yesterday, and we all went out to grab some lunch and catch up on life.  Not long into our conversation my father and I got to talking about church, and I mentioned to him that I saw a statistic recently that highlighted a great change regarding church attendance in the last several years.  It stated that of those born in the 1940s, 85% of them attended church, and of those born in the millennial generation, only 15% attend church.  That’s pretty crazy…a complete inverse in a matter of forty years!

After telling my father these numbers (who was born in 1953), he began to speak of what church was like for him in Ettrick, Virginia, across the Appomattox River from Petersburg.  He told me that Ettrick Baptist Church was packed every Sunday, and that there were classes for every age group, from infants to seniors in high school…and they were all busting at the seams!  It was the center of the community, a part of everyone’s life…it’s just what you did on Sundays and Wednesday nights.

He went on to describe the way he felt when he went to church in the 50s and 60s…he said that there was something about being within those walls that made him feel comfortable.  He stated that he can remember being part of the Beginners class as a child, and just feeling at ease when he attended Sunday School and Worship. 

We are certainly in a different time now than fifty years ago…but Jesus Christ has always been, and always be a source of continual, unconditional love.  This is the same love that my father felt in church as kid, and it’s the same love that I feel when I’m able to share life with another person.  It’s the same love Christ offers to us all…we just need to accept Him, and follow Him.

Saturday, March 17, 2018

Strength and peace during difficult times…

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”  John 16:33

One of my jobs in high school was working as a “trapper” at an outdoor shooting range, where my job was to help bird and rabbit hunters hone their quick-react skills.  We ran each marksman through eighteen stations, some in fields and some in woods, giving them different looks and angles that a bird or rabbit would travel.  Using clay targets and a “trap” device, I would yell, “Report pair”, or “Double”, or “Following Pair”, or “Single”, and then release the clay target into the air or let it spring forth along the ground at a high rate of speed.

A single is just as it sounds…a single clay target.  A double is two clay targets coming out at the same time.  A report pair is one target being released, and then a second released upon the marksman firing at the first.  A following pair is the most difficult to shoot (and throw), as I would release the first target, and then reload and release the second as fast as I could, not giving the marksman much time to get ready…but that was the point.  When hunting you never know when and how the game will approach your position in the woods, so as the trapper, I had to do my best to help simulate different scenarios.

In life we encounter challenges and trials, and the most difficult thing about them is that we don’t know the when, the how or the why, but we know that they will come…Jesus even says that we “will have tribulation”…but He follows by saying, “But take heart, I have overcome the world.” 

In Him, we have peace.

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